Star Gazer Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 This isn't funny to me. I really thought I had a chance with this girl. I feel totally let down and humiliated now. Why do you feel humiliated? You merely asked her out. If you feel that badly just because you asked and didn't get a response, you need to ask yourself why you care so much...
Author U1987 Posted September 10, 2010 Author Posted September 10, 2010 Why do you feel humiliated? You merely asked her out. If you feel that badly just because you asked and didn't get a response, you need to ask yourself why you care so much... You don't know what it's like. You're a girl, right? You don't know what it's like for a guy. Society is always telling us that a guy's worth is determined by his ability to "get the girl," especially in college. If you don't then you're a "loser" or a "nerd" or a "creep." Besides, she's really pretty and we have some commonalities. I thought I felt something. What else am I supposed to feel?
Star Gazer Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 You don't know what it's like. You're a girl, right? You don't know what it's like for a guy. Society is always telling us that a guy's worth is determined by his ability to "get the girl," especially in college. If you don't then you're a "loser" or a "nerd" or a "creep." There are plenty of guys who "don't get the girl" in college who are absolutely NOT losers, nerds, or creeps. Anything but, actually... :love:
jamesum Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 This isn't funny to me. I really thought I had a chance with this girl. I feel totally let down and humiliated now. Yeah that happened to me. I thought I was good looking enough for this girl but I learned that Im apparently uglier than what I think I am. Thats basically when I stopped going after girls before they show interest first.
USMCHokie Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 You don't know what it's like. You're a girl, right? You don't know what it's like for a guy. Society is always telling us that a guy's worth is determined by his ability to "get the girl," especially in college. If you don't then you're a "loser" or a "nerd" or a "creep." Oh please...really...? I never had a girl in college...or even in grade school...not even remotely close...and no one has EVER looked down on me or thought less of me because of it...I think it's you looking down on yourself and judging your own self-worth based on what women think of you... Snap out of it! Besides, she's really pretty and we have some commonalities. I thought I felt something. What else am I supposed to feel? It's ok to feel a little dejected after a rejection...but it's how you bounce back that matters...she's not in only fish in the sea...there will be others who are even prettier and have even more in common with you... Just because one girl wasn't interested does not mean that no girls will ever be interested. Keep your head up.
Author U1987 Posted September 10, 2010 Author Posted September 10, 2010 Fine then. But I HAVE to see this girl. We have class and lab together. How do I make this go away and make her respect me?
gypsy_nicky Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 how long have you known this girl? How did you ask for the number?
USMCHokie Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Fine then. But I HAVE to see this girl. We have class and lab together. How do I make this go away and make her respect me? You make it go away by not thinking about it anymore. You make her respect you by doing well on your part of the labs. Sorry if that isn't what you wanted to hear, but it is what it is.
carhill Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Get a different lab partner. Ef her. Simple.
welikeincrowds Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Fine then. But I HAVE to see this girl. We have class and lab together. How do I make this go away and make her respect me? I highly doubt she lost respect for you. She didn't judge you as a person; she just didn't want to date you. That's just her asserting her tastes in men. It's not personal. When people next you early on like this, they're doing you a favor. If she wasn't straight-up about it now, you'd just run into problems later (when it would be more painful.) This doesn't mean you can't be a fun lab partner. She's your classmate: see her that way, and enjoy yourself as usual. Just don't try to get with her, because she let you know it's not an option.
meerkat stew Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 This isn't funny to me. I really thought I had a chance with this girl. I feel totally let down and humiliated now. Carhill is right, ef her, she's your lab partner, and was a total rude princess, this whole mess is her fault, not any reflection on you whatsoever. What a privileged princess not to take the time to respond to her -lab partner- FFS that she gave her phone number to. All she had to say was, "I don't want to date my lab partner," problem solved, she had a perfect out, yet chose rudeness instead. She did you a giant favor in the long run, you are learning what types to avoid. Don't feel humiliated and never ever apologize to a woman for expressing respectful sexual interest.
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