This Hurts Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 I don't know if I'm going insane, or if this is normal. A while ago someone (don't remember who, sorry) posted a thread about how they feel as if the relationship never happened, or something along those lines, and a few people replied saying they knew how it felt. This is what I'm hoping I'm experiencing because the thought of going crazy REALLY doesn't appeal to me. The feeling has been lingering the past few days, but today it jumped out at me. I feel so disconnected from her and the relationship itself. It all feels so surreal. It feels as if it never happened, or like if I made her and the whole relationship up in my head. And faintly, I can still feel myself hurting from time to time, but it kinda feels like it's faint because it's deep down... though I'm not sure, maybe I've moved on some? This is so confusing and it's mind-****ing me and it's giving me a headache
onthebrinkofitall Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 I think I've experienced this.. though not with my most recent split. I was in a serious relationship for about 3 years with someone whom I have 2 children with. Honestly, if we didn't have the kids.. I probably wouldn't even remember being with him. And I rarely think of him now, actually, because he doesn't have much to do with our kids. I still have pictures of us together and we look happy but it just seems like those photographs that already come in the picture frames when you buy them. Those people look happy but you don't know them. I'm not sure if this is normal or not but I think plenty of people go through it. I always relate it to giving birth.. it's like you know that it hurt beyond your wildest imagination but it's just some faded, distant memory now. Almost like it happened to someone else and you're just recalling the story. This may not work for you, since you're a guy! But like I said, I think lots of other people go through this.. you change so much over time and when you look back on past relationships, you were a different person then.. so it's hard to imagine the love you felt for someone since you're not the same person who fell in love with them to begin with. Confusing? Maybe so.. but I just wanted you to know someone was listening. =)
Cee Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 It sounds like you are experiencing depersonalization or dissociation. It's a way the mind distances itself from terrible psychic pain. It will likely pass. I remember that something difficult happened in my life once (too hard to explain) and I went for weeks feeling like I didn't know myself. I kept asking people "Who am I?" It was very eerie, but the feeling went away.
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