SpringMiller Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 Hello, I am new here. I just wanted to get your opinion, I have a crush on my manager who is 10 yrs older then me, is divorced with 4 kids, and I am only 28 years old. When we work together he makes me laugh a lot, and lately sometimes we text each other. I never thought I'd have a crush on someone that much older then me, but it just happened. I'm pretty sure that I blush at work sometimes, and honestly I've seen him blush a few times. The other day out of the blue he started to play with my hair, but stopped after a few seconds, I think because he realized what he was doing. Currently I am single. I had a boyfriend for 2-3 years, but we are not official. I like to be close to him, but I don't think anything more will come out of this relationship/friendship. Now he is about to be 23 in November. He was the only boyfriend I have had... except for one that only lasted a week, but I try to forget about that. The point is, the person I have a crush on is my manager, and I don't think that would be a good situation to be in.... to be in a relationship with him, or to ask him out. I don't think my family or friends would approve either, seeing he's 37 and has kids.... honestly I don't know why I'm even thinking of the possibility of being with him, but gosh, he's so fun, and I just love to look at his eyes..... The problem is, is that I become obsessive, but I've learned that through out the years that I become obsessive over a LOT of crushes, and I wonder if this is just a phase. I've been working for him for 6 months, and within a few days of working with him, I actually asked myself "Why do I like this guy?"... then I thought about it, and I was thinking.. "oh, his eyes are just pretty, and he's soooo funny too." so anyway what do y'all think I should do?
jamesum Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 You like him because he is your manager. A man with power is alluring. Just imagine him being a nobody and working as a cashier at McDonalds and ask yourself if you would still find him desirable. Probably not ...
Author SpringMiller Posted September 9, 2010 Author Posted September 9, 2010 Good point, i'll think about it some more.
Dazzel Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Just because he has the whole power thing going doesn't mean that's the sole reason she's interested. I am sure there are plenty of other boss/employee relationships out there that have worked. I will admit that the power thing does attract women, but it could be more than that. Just sayin'. I see nothing wrong with your crush. To me, it sounds as though he might like you too. But to play it safe and to keep your job, I'd keep it to myself and let him initiate contact too. It's definitely better that he's not married too. Most of the time when they are that age with four kids, they have a wife. At least you aren't going for a married one.
Author SpringMiller Posted September 10, 2010 Author Posted September 10, 2010 Yeah, I am playing it safe, I won't ever make the first move. But I will respond to his texts, lol.... Although I'll admit I have invited him to a few friends events before, because I know he likes Michael Jackson (he knows I LOVE Michael Jackson) and so I would invite him but he never came yet. I think he knows not to draw the line between him and an employee, when it comes to relationships.... so I think I'm just gonna have fun and see what happens. (shrugs)
Author SpringMiller Posted September 10, 2010 Author Posted September 10, 2010 ***Is also afraid he may see this thread one day....
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