Buccaneer55 Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 Me and my ex have been broken up for a little more than 2 months now. Some of you already know my story about how the first month after I tried all the begging, pleading, and talking I could do, which of course didn't work. Well finally a few weeks ago I got sick of her "stringing" me along and told her I couldn't deal with all the contact we were still having. Fast forward a few weeks and she still can't go more than 5 days of NC without her breaking it (She always breaks it). Lately I can't figure out her deal. I know she has been hanging out with another guy some but I still haven't thought of it too be anything to serious. A little more than a week ago we were suppose to be at the same as outing as some other friends and literally the night before the event she sends me a text asking if I'd get mad if she invited him. I was honest with her and told her if she brought him I probably wouldn't go anymore. She didn't bring him...... (confuses me) After that night we went our "whole" 5 days before she sent me a text stating she hoped I had been having a good week, and proceeding to ask me if I had gone somewhere a few nights back. Finally 3 days ago we had another outing that she might have been attending, well we changed the location and seeing how I'm such a nice guy, I told one of my buddies to text her and let her know where it would be. That night I got a text from her asking why couldn't I text her myself to let her know. I told her I wasn't going to. Her response was "That's really sad that if you need 2 get info 2 me u won't even tell me urself :/" I've been doing good, and taking each day as it is, but I can't figure out her actions. She knows I want to get back together and this is what she does. Anyways that's my latest update, any ideas?
PegNosePete Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 She's doing the usual thing. Keeping you hanging on, in the "backup" zone. And you're letting her. So she keeps on doing it again and again. Every time she breaks NC, you do it back. Stop, and she will stop.
Billie The Puppet Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 (edited) Mines been doing the same thing, even went as far as buying hockey tickets to the same games I was going to. (seating is close too but off by a few sections so we may or may not cross paths) However I have come to realize it's when we respond that the No Contact is really broken. So they call us, we don't answer contact isn't made other than a number listed on your phone, So the text/IM us Hi How are you? we simply do not respond all we know is they are checking in. So they email us a letter simply do not read it no matter how tempting or at least sit on it for a week or so but do not respond to it. I don't know how hard it is because I failed all contacts from my ex during round one thus I was doing limited contact. See I thought every contact from my ex would be the "reconciliation call" I wanted and not one has been. So I'm on round 2 and being serious about this No Contact by that I mean I will ignore her attempts at contact but it may not come anyways because I think my over confidence scared her away in our last conversation. ( Last Sat) I have requested No Contact so many times but for it to be true we have to be harder on ourselves . Ignore , Ignore, Ignore. So Far 5 days in round 2 NC and I haven't even got the urge to contact her once, though I am still on talking terms with her sister in which I never discuss my ex. Edited September 8, 2010 by Billie The Puppet
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