newguyhere Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 I have been doing extremely well this past month-month & half. I work with my ex, but I dont go looking for reasons to talk to her. I dont feel lovesick when I do see her, I dont talk to her outside of work, I dont talk to her about anything other than work, I dont even think of her that much anymore. But last night, I had a dream about her. It wasnt even sexual. I was just holding her in my arms in the dream. Now I cant stop thinking of her. I still love her. Its been over a year now since I actually held her in my arms and I miss that so much...
106rob Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 i think weve all been there mate you just have to put it to the back of your mind,i know its very hard! (im going throguh the same thing as you at the min) i was doing ok for a few weeks,then i saw her and the feelings/emotions and dreams started again! bringing me right back down to step1 with a huge crash! i could have helped myself by not contacting/sending her some flowers when i was drunk,but never the less i did.......and i also hurt myself when i got no aknolagement off her whatso ever for it! and when i bumped into her she wouldt even look at me but its also made me realise all this hurt isnt worth it anymore,if i see her and get a responce,it gives me false hope,if i dont it makes me depressed she can just cut me out like that after everythng she said/we did together etc obv NC doesent sound like much of an option to you,but just keep it professional again and try to thing of a bad thing about her/make somthing up in your head just turn it into negative thaught about her rather than good! its a horribe thing to have to do but if it gets YOU back on track who cares! they certainly dont anymore so what the hell!
ColdFox Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 This has happened to me and sometimes it's awful and sometimes it's wonderful. I think my circumstances are different, though. It's bittersweet to dream of my husband and feel like he is still alive and with me, and then wake up.
Billie The Puppet Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 Last night I had a dream of my ex as well but it was a reconciliation dream which made it even more painful because I woke up and had thought everything was okay. However I also had a dream of the girl I am taking to a hockey game too the same night so it was kind of bitter sweet. My ex, my self and my female friend are all going to be at the same game in 3 weeks or so. Our sections are few sections apart I hope we do not run into each other though. Today I am feeling emotional too and I had just started to get a good feeling but now I am isolated and saddened so I am not ready for an encounter with my ex.
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