GirlLovesGirl Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 Okay so me and her have been married since march, so about 5 months. And this issue has been going on for like the last 7 months. We've been together for a year and a half. We used to have sex every day, like 5 times a day. We had great sex, and still do. So I don't understand why we don't have sex anymore. We have sex about twice a month now. I don't expect to have sex everyday like we used to, but at least a few times a week. For our age, that's pretty healthy I'd think. I am 20 and she is 18, we should be really ****ing horny. And I am for sure, but she just says she has no sex drive. And what I don't get, is when I've asked her about it, she tells me I am the most beAutiful girl she had ever seen, and she is still very sexually attracted to me. So what is wrong? What makes me mad, is I will be really horny. And if we are in bed I will roll over and start touching her, just in between her thighs, and pull her body close to mine. And play with her clit over her clothes. And she will start moaning, and thrusting on me, so I'll try to put my hands in her panties and this is when she stops me. Like what the hell is that about? Or other times I will be grinding on het (and I am able to get her off this way) but it's like before she cums she makes me stop. And like giggles and just starts making out with me. Or if we are ever like hardcore making out and we start dry humping sometimes I will start to take if her clothes and she will just be like baby, let's do it tonight when we have more time. But it never ****ing happens! Okay and All this back and forth and teasing nonsense has got me really depressed. Like I feel ugly and not loved. Last week she forgot our year and a half anniversary. I never said anything the whole day because I wanted her to remember. So late at night, at like 11 she asked if 2 friends could come over, so I was like uhm I really don't wan them too, but if you do then I'll let it be your decision. So he invited them over. When they got there I left the room and went and showered and went to bed. I then texted her, thanks for remembering our anniversary. And she was like omg I'm so sorry baby. I told her whatever, she's with her friends and she could sleep on the couch. So she comes into the bedroom and sits nexts to me and says she's sorry. And I was angry that she forgot and just said ya know I waited all day for you to say something and you never did. So she just kept saying she wad sorry and started making out with me and put my hand in her pants so I asked what she was doing, and she said she wanted me to **** her. And I said no you don't you just feel bad for forgetting. And she was like no I really am horny. So I made her cum, and when she was done she was just like oh my god baby, you just know all my spots, I forget how good in bed you are that was amazing. And then she kisses me and put back on her pants and says well I gotta get back out there my friends are waiting, I'll be to bed soon. She didn't even try to do me. Which is fine, I love doing her. But it just seemed to me like she only did it cause she felt bad and she knows how much I love sex. That really really Hurt my feelings. That was about 2 weeks ago. So let me explain to you last nights situation. We were playing around in bed and I was teasing her and then she climbed on top of me and pinned my arms down. So I was getting real aroused, and I told her to please don't tease me if she isn't gonna do anything. And she started unbuttoning my pants, and I asked what she was doing, she should stop cause I know she's not serious. And she was like oh so if I were to start eating you out right now you wouldn't let me. And I said no cause I don't wanna do this, I don't want to be ****ed, I want to have sex. And she looked at me all confused and said what? And I said, if we are doing this I want to do you too I just don't want you doing me. And she said well I'm not horny, so I said okay well then get off of me I don't wanna do this. She got off and went to her little man cave in the garage by herself. Now I know this was a little rude and very direct, but I'm tired of all the teasing and it not going anywhere. I need some advice, what should I do? I don't know if things will change. I want to make love to her. So what do I do?
vodkafan Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 Hey, GLG, I'm taking you at face value , although I suspect you may be a troll. You really don't need to go into such sexual detail here if you want to be taken seriously. You need to learn to talk to your partner without the drama.
Darth Vader Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 Hey, GLG, I'm taking you at face value , although I suspect you may be a troll. You really don't need to go into such sexual detail here if you want to be taken seriously. You need to learn to talk to your partner without the drama. Assuming this is for real, perhaps there's another girl, or even guy. It happens a lot these days. Is she protective of her phone? Does she dress more sexy, but it's not for you? Get's all hot look'in to go out the store? Might be someone else.
midlife2011 Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 She's in it for the sex and you are ahead of her in terms of love. Slow the heck down, do a 180 and lay low. See if she can catch up.
Author GirlLovesGirl Posted September 12, 2010 Author Posted September 12, 2010 (edited) No we both despise men, so I know she isn't doing a guy. And i know she isn't cheating on me. She wouldn't even have the opportunity to do so. And vodkafan, you can't suspect anyone as a troll if you don't know what I look like or anything about me. Sorry for all the vulgarity I was kind of drunk when I wrote this, and I never drink so it kind of makes me rant. I haven't brought up sex in awhile, I did suggest we go to therapy if our insurance covers it. Because this isn't our only issue, she's very immature. It's hard to have a serious conversation with her without her changing subjects or start joking around. Especially at really inappropriate times Edited September 12, 2010 by GirlLovesGirl :)
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