CSU Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 So I've been seeing a friend I knew back in high for a few weeks now. We knew each other since my freshmen year and his senior year he moved away after graduating and now lives in another state. We've always kept in contact and it wasn't until a few weeks ago when we were hanging out because he was in town for awhile that he asked me out. I told him yes but only if he was serious about it because it would be a long distance relationship and he said he was serious about it. So on Friday night he told me that he went on some dating site and that he was only on it to see if he could find someone closer to him, and that he was only on it for a few days because he realized how much he loved me since I've been helping him through some serious issues he's been going through and that he thinks I'm perfect for him and he's determined to get a place closer to me or just getting his own place so that I could move in and hopefully have a future together. Well I told him indirectly that I was upset with him and he knew exactly what I was talking about. Apparently he never got rid of it and he was keeping it because he want to find friends since he moved to a new area two months ago. I don't know what to think or feel. Right now I've just been giving him the cold shoulder and he hates it. He tells me that hasn't been on that site for awhile and that he does gets emails but he never reads them. Part of me wants to believe him but I don't. I'm kinda at the point where I just don't care anymore and I'm gonna call it quits because I can't trust him. While that's sweet and all that he wants a future with me, I can't help but to be upset about it because if I'm all those things to him then why would he go on a dating site? I don't want to make it a big issue but I'm kinda hurt and I want to let him know that but I have a hard problem expressing how I feel, so I really don't know how to approach this problem.
aerogurl87 Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 Wait a second, back up... you've only been seeing this guy for a few weeks and he just asked you out on a date and now you want him to uproot his life to be with you? Ok I can understand wanting to know whether his intentions were serious if you two decided to date long term. But are you two even officially a couple yet is my question, or are you just seeing each other? Also him claiming he was keeping it to "make friends" is BS. He's keeping his profile up so he can potentially meet someone new and won't have to move.
Author CSU Posted September 8, 2010 Author Posted September 8, 2010 He's the one who wants to buy a place closer to me and build a future and he calls me his girlfriend, so we're dating but its long distance.
aerogurl87 Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 He's the one who wants to buy a place closer to me and build a future and he calls me his girlfriend, so we're dating but its long distance. Hmm ok, well thanks for clearing that up. I still don't buy his "I'm keeping my profile up to meet friends" excuse. If he wants to meet some friends in his new area tell him to go join a club or start a class doing something. Dating sites are for dating, not making friends unless it's of the friends with benefits variety.
Ines Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Long distance relationships are not easy to deal with. Here's an article I really like. Hope it helps! Ines
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