why do i put myself though this

[chucksbabygurl17]

well I am 18 and I dont got any friends why well its because once I think I

 

got a real friend they always stab me in the back or they just start fights

 

and I say **** it I am not their friends anymore all I want is some true

 

friends ones who will not stab me in the back I guess I sorda pick the

 

wrong ones but in the begining they are alright but when we are friends

 

for awhile I see who they really are like I have this one friend her name is

 

gracie she is kool but when she hangs out with other people she acts

 

like a bitch tords me and I dont know why so I been not talking to her

 

and then the other day she desides to call me because her new friends

 

dont want anything to do with her anymore so i decide to be her friend

 

again but i went to hang out with her the one day and her so called

 

friends showed up and she started to be a bitch again I be her friend

 

everytime she does this but I feel like I am her back up friend when she

 

has nobody else and I dont want that anymore what should I dont want

 

to tell her I dont want to be her friend anymore because I dont wanna

 

start no problems between us what should I do should I tell her I dont

 

wanna be her friend anymore or should I keep puting up with the things

 

shes doing to me we been friends for 3 years what should I do HELP:mad:

[vintagecat]

The solution to your problem is very simple: If you think this person is not worth the effort of trying to fix the problem between you or that talking about the problem will be a pointless mission, then you can dump her without drama by being unavailable.

 

In other words, when she calls to hang out, you are busy or have other plans even if the biggest plan you have at the moment is watching television at home. If she comes by your home, you have an appointment and you are running late and can't visit. If you find her in the company of a group of people, stay clear of her. Politely find reasons to not be too much in her company. If she comes over, move off to get something to eat, to visit the restroom, whatever. Be polite but unavailable to her. After a time she'll stop calling.

 

The bigger problem of course is in your very first set of words, that you don't have real friends. I'd suggest that you might want to figure out why that is, though I understand that it's often hard to find and keep the very best type of friends given that the society that we live in values things other than deep human connections.

 

And please don't take this the wrong way but your post was very hard to get through because of it's entirely missing punctuation, lack of paragraphs and a high level of misspelling. Many, even well meaning people will ignore or refuse to puzzle through a long unending set of often mystery words to get to the meaning of a post. True on Love Shack, true elsewhere.

 

I suspect that you have received no replies thus far because this was not an easy read. No offense intended, (I really have your best interest in mind) but one of the very best ways that you can begin to help yourself in life is to improve your communication skills. Whether it be the spoken or written word, getting your point or needs across to others without any struggle on their part to interpret will be a great help in getting what you want and need in all facets of life. It can be as easy as reading and imitating the format that you see in well written books or even online posts.

 

Good luck to you.

[abeja_reina_1989]

Sounds to me like you need to get some new friends. You can do better, and you DESERVE better. Don't let these people get in your way! You are an awesome person who needs happiness, not this drama