StreetDog Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 I love our child so much. We have a 2 year old. I love my wife. But she gets a bad taste in her mouth whenever she boasts about our child to my parents or her parents or her brother or her sister and she doesn't get the over-the-top feedback she desires. Example: She sent out a text to everyone that our 2 year old sang a nursery song almost in it's entirety. Her mom responded with a "so smart, so beautiful". But that wasn't good enough for my Wife. She thought that her mom shoulda been more "excited" as she says, about our toddler's effort. And it will bug my wife and she'll keep talking about it. If she doesn't get responses right away, she figures that no one really cares because they didn't drop everything to text back right away with huge messages of awesome. My wife does have insecurities of her own so maybe that is why she gets picky about response time and content of the response but she needs to chill out and stop worrying about it. I just don't know how to tell her because if i confront her on her attitude towards it all, she thinks I don't care about our child's accomplishments.
Ramon1990 Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 It's so important for the child to feel so secure by his her parents, so, it doesn't matter what other people think. The wife must not expect from people to be caring, or open-handed. Because after all, everyone has his her own problems in this life, I think this something the wife should know. She must know that people could turn their back any second, and we must not count on them. Yes, we care for them, they care or pretend to be caring, that doesn't mean they're all our hope. If that keeps going like that, the child might think the same think about others. You talk to her about that, and if she thinks you don't care about your child's accomplishments, you tell her you two do, but you two don't except from others to do. By the way, we must know that changing someone can't be done in a single day. Everything takes its time, that's where we learn to be patient. Good luck, StreetDog. Ramon,
xxoo Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 My wife does have insecurities of her own so maybe that is why she gets picky about response time and content of the response but she needs to chill out and stop worrying about it. I just don't know how to tell her because if i confront her on her attitude towards it all, she thinks I don't care about our child's accomplishments. I'd empathize with her feelings, but then gently explain the realities. "It's disappointing that others don't find our child's accomplishments as earth stopping as we do. I know--she's amazing! Still, our families have their own lives, and have had their own amazing children. They just don't get the same thrill we do. It's ok."
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