VeveCakes Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 I'm not going through a break up, I have gone through many though. Its fine to be hurt and mad, but seriously bashing the hell out of their new gf or bf is pretty lame. Being that hateful and bitter is NOT healthy and productive towards moving on. Stop caring, get over it.
ShannonMI Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 (edited) I'm not going through a break up, I have gone through many though. Its fine to be hurt and mad, but seriously bashing the hell out of their new gf or bf is pretty lame. Being that hateful and bitter is NOT healthy and productive towards moving on. Stop caring, get over it. It is healthy to feel bitter and angry. It is a phase that all dumpees go through. It's completely normal. It ISN'T healthy or normal to let the bitterness and anger ruin your life or to bottle it up and not let it out. And it isn't good to feel it for an extended amount of time. It's theraputic to vent and get out the emotion you feel inside. If that means bashing your ex and their new SO, then so be it. In 6 months if I'm still angry and bitter over the whole thing, then yes that would be unproductive and unhealthy, but right now it feels fu*king good. Thank you very much! Edited September 9, 2010 by ShannonMI
BeagleGal Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 Couldnt have said it better myself. Again, Shannon, you've read several of my posts - I don't recall bashing my ex's new wife. I have definitely bashed him because he's a sorry excuse for a man but I've not bashed her. So Veve's comments don't apply to me. Like you said, if 6 months down the road we're still posting here all bitter and angry, then that's a problem but RIGHT NOW we're going through the motions and nobody needs to tell us to get over it. We do when we're ready. It is healthy to feel bitter and angry. It is a phase that all dumpees go through. It's completely normal. It ISN'T healthy or normal to let the bitterness and anger ruin your life or to bottle it up and not let it out. And it isn't good to feel it for an extended amount of time. It's theraputic to vent and get out the emotion you feel inside. If that means bashing your ex and their new SO, then so be it. In 6 months if I'm still angry and bitter over the whole thing, then yes that would be unproductive and unhealthy, but right now it feels fu*king good. Thank you very much!
ShannonMI Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 Couldnt have said it better myself. Again, Shannon, you've read several of my posts - I don't recall bashing my ex's new wife. I have definitely bashed him because he's a sorry excuse for a man but I've not bashed her. So Veve's comments don't apply to me. Like you said, if 6 months down the road we're still posting here all bitter and angry, then that's a problem but RIGHT NOW we're going through the motions and nobody needs to tell us to get over it. We do when we're ready. Yes exactly! Just from my point of view, your ex's new wife most likely knew that he was in a committed relationship with you and still continued to cheat with him. Isn't that right? She's wrong too. It's good that you aren't bitter towards her. Most of your bitterness is directed toward your ex. You are better then I would be;)
BeagleGal Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 That's right. She did. She knew exactly what she was doing when she got involved with him knowing he was cheating on me with her. So she's definitely played a huge part in this whole situation. Sweetie, I am bitter towards her. Read my blog again, and you'll see. There's a letter that I wrote to her. In the end though, its Chris whose betrayed me. Who the hell knows what kind of lies he told her about me and our relationship but in the end she decided to get involved with a taken man and get him by any means necessary. So be it. But when he starts cheating on her, she has no right to get mad as she knew what he was from the get-go. Yes exactly! Just from my point of view, your ex's new wife most likely knew that he was in a committed relationship with you and still continued to cheat with him. Isn't that right? She's wrong too. It's good that you aren't bitter towards her. Most of your bitterness is directed toward your ex. You are better then I would be;)
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