antistar Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 Hey all, Hope everyone had a great long weekend! Just wanted to get some perspective on a particular LDR-related situation I've surprisingly become involved with. A bit of a reading exercise, so please bear with me About a month ago, a few friends and I went on a brief weekend getaway to visit a friend of mine. During this trip, I met this really nice guy who I didn't really pay attention to because I was there with friends and just wanted to have fun. He was very nice to me - got a bit flirtatious, but nothing that sparked my interest. We exchanged contact info - lo and behold, he adds me on MSN, Facebook and texted me a couple of times on my way back home. We've texted every single day since and he has called me several times as well (he has always been the one to make the call). I do like him, but am confused as to what this is all about. Obviously, it has only been under a month since we met...but he has done things so far that indicate to me that we're not "just" friends. In my opinion, "just friends" don't do the following: - calling each other 'hunny', 'babe' - texting each other 'good morning, have a great day', 'good evening, sweet dreams', 'thinking of you, missing you'; texts followed by 'xoxoxo' - calling before/after a flight to somewhere So...my concern is that I've done the whole long distance thing before and it did not go anywhere. I don't know if this is something I should pursue or at least try. I have so many questions going through this overanalytical brain of mine: - should I ask what's going on? - should I plan a trip to meet up with him again - spend the entire weekend, just him and I? The problem there is that he has a roommate. - should I ask if he's planning on coming to my city anytime soon? Basically, I'm trying to figure out if this is something worth pursuing (like...long distance dating?). I'm a monogamous dater and I don't use the words 'babe', 'missing you', etc. lightly. I'm so confused! Please help
Shindig Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 You wouldn't be posting here if you didn't want to know what was going on with this guy. Ask what's going on between you two. See the first question. You should figure out what he wants from you and what you want from him before either of you start planning trips. If you're not the direct sort, just say something like, "I'd like to hang out again. We had fun the last time."
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