Ajax Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 My girlfriend and I had been dating for about four months, but it was long enough for me to fall for her and realize that she's the one I wanted to be with. We spent time with each other's families, had similar interests, goals, and values. We complimented each other very well. One night she asked me what I wanted out of the relationship and I told her and she said that she wanted the same thing. She then told me that she was going to a psychologist to "work" on something, but that she was really falling in love with me. We were perfect for the next few days, but then she started pulling away. She called me over about a week later and said that she was depressed and that the things in her life that shoud make her happy were not and that she needed to be alone to figure it out... so we broke up. Needless to say I was devastated, and we didn't talk for a couple weeks. Then I called and asked if we could talk about what happened because I was confused, so she said I could come over. We talked for about an hour and I asked her why she told me she loved me and then broke up with me. She said that when she said it she was feeling it, and that it was the first time in a long time that she felt anything... but that after that she went back to feeling "flat" about everything. She said that until she's happy with herself she can't be happy with anyone else, and that I shouldn't wait fo her. Obviously I want to wait for her. I told her that I love her and still want to be with her, and I told her that I'd be here if she needs me. I also told her that I wouldn't bother her but that when she's ready to talk to give me a call. My question is: does anyone think she'll come back? She seemed to be telling me the truth, but my judgement is definately clouded by my feelings. Our friends tell me to give her time and space, and that she was just as upset about what happened as I am. And I feel like this shouldn't have happened.
shiftedblue Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 Well definitely give her space. Don't call or email or anything. Just leave it open ended..tell her you're there for her if she really needs someone, but otherwise just disappear from her life for now. If she wants to be with you, your lack of being around will probably arouse curiosity, as many on this board agree it does. If she wants to be with you, she'll come to you. Good luck and for now, take care of yourself! <3
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