LoveTNT Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 I'm just frustrated. Yes I made mistakes, yes I was confused, yes I needed space, I got a bit insecure, but I admit to it, I don't want to be that way anymore, but now you're so angry hurt and confused. You seriously just don't want to try. Protecting yourself from me? I'm a good person that loves u. How long am I supposed to wait if I truly care? am I supposed to do all the texting and contacting because it was my fault? It wasn't all my fault! I'm not perfect, no relationship is. It feels ****ty. I just honestly don't want to give a **** anymore. RANT*
Trojan John Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 You don't get to dictate when someone should stop feeling hurt because of your actions...
collegeguy_24 Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 If your the one that screwed up and broke off the relationship, then yeah, you need to be the one to initiate the texts and calls. If he wants you back, he is not going to contact you because to him you already made your position clear. If you want him back, or at the very least to talk, contact him, tell him to meet you someplace as soon as possible, and talk! Work out the issues, and if you want him back, say so, to his face, instead of waiting around. I can't even begin to express how I would like that to happen to me, but she broke it off, so she has to contact, I think the same goes for you.
Rashad Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 I personally do not take people back... unless it was a serious misunderstanding, but excuses like "confusion" and "needing space" they are just too hurtful. Sometimes the only way to correct a mistake is to learn from it and to never do it again to another person. I think you should do that.
Author LoveTNT Posted September 7, 2010 Author Posted September 7, 2010 I personally do not take people back... unless it was a serious misunderstanding, but excuses like "confusion" and "needing space" they are just too hurtful. Sometimes the only way to correct a mistake is to learn from it and to never do it again to another person. I think you should do that. If your the one that screwed up and broke off the relationship, then yeah, you need to be the one to initiate the texts and calls. If he wants you back, he is not going to contact you because to him you already made your position clear. If you want him back, or at the very least to talk, contact him, tell him to meet you someplace as soon as possible, and talk! Work out the issues, and if you want him back, say so, to his face, instead of waiting around. I can't even begin to express how I would like that to happen to me, but she broke it off, so she has to contact, I think the same goes for you. I have asked to meet him. 3x already. He does meet me for a bit. I did my crying and asking for forgiveness too.My actions show I want to work it out. I tell him I love him and am Here for him, that I'm learning from my mistakes, that I'm here when he needs someone to talk to, or when and if he misses me and wants to talk. He's hot and cold. The first couple weeks he was angry with me, now not so much. He does reply that he loves me too. He says he's really depressed and that I can't put a time frame on it. I understand that. I just feel really bad that I can't be there for him like I could before. He mentions comments when we see each other like " oh maybe next time we can do this or that". It gives me hope but then I'm like I have to start letting it go for my own sanity...A big part of me says wait. But, then the other says, he's moving on because I caused a lot of pain... How do you just give up on love? When I previously needed space, It was so that I could clear things up, it was for the best. I was able to come back to our relationship feeling sure. Plus when I asked for space it wasn't for days and days, it was more like I'd see him 2-3x a week instead of everyday. Yes I broke up with him but this was last year, I was going through some stuff. But I didn't disappear. I feel it helped me become a better person and helped me open up to him more. Anyways, I saw him friday, for the first time I didn't make it about me or" please this please that, I want to work things out, I'm so sorry etc...." That seems to drain him, instead we talked about life, and I held his hand and gave him a kiss on the cheek and told him I want him to heal and that I'm here for him. I haven't text him or called since this past Friday, I feel he needs his space. I feel that way because, I'm the one that keeps asking to see him and when we do it's for a little and then he has to go and he's all about working on some projects... I don't want to smother him. He deserved his peace, since he says he's depressed. These emotions are ridiculous. It's extremely hard.
Author LoveTNT Posted September 7, 2010 Author Posted September 7, 2010 You don't get to dictate when someone should stop feeling hurt because of your actions... Very true.
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