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manchild Established Member

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hey i have been 19 days NC and i saw on her facebook she put new pics from creed concert and her on motorcycle i was just going say hey how is it going hope you had fun this weekend also you look great on your profile pic ttyl

 

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L3stat Established Member

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why would you do that? you been NC 19 days i wouldnt email or text at all.

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hey i have been 19 days NC and i saw on her facebook she put new pics from creed concert and her on motorcycle i was just going say hey how is it going hope you had fun this weekend also you look great on your profile pic ttyl

 

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You can if you want to keep hurting yourself. Why are you even looking at he fb page?

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I know I just want just say hi and glad having good time! U know positive vibes

skydiveaddict Established Member

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I know I just want just say hi and glad having good time! U know positive vibes

 

 

you dont seem upset by it, it's up to you.

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What part of no contact do you not understand?

 

Delete or at least hide her on Facebook.

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manchild Established Member

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Trust me I am upset big time she dating someone else u can read my story here on the board it's long but anyways I just thought since it is close to 21 days close to the 3 weeks mark of reconnection u know gah what to do

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If you've been NC for 19 days, which I find admirable, frankly, why exactly would you want to break that just to give her "positive vibes"?

 

And if you do, how will you feel afterwards if she doesn't acknowledge it? Will you regret it, and wish you'd stayed NC?

 

I guess I'm asking because I'm finding NC almost impossible at this point, and if I'd managed to make it 19 days, I wouldn't see much to be gained from breaking it.

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Inunderstand it toon me two months to go Nc I just want her to know in changed and want her back and just showing her positive that's why gah just don't know what to do I hope she thinking me and wonder howni would be recieved

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Inunderstand it toon me two months to go Nc I just want her to know in changed and want her back and just showing her positive that's why gah just don't know what to do I hope she thinking me and wonder howni would be recieved

 

 

Trust me from experience, she's NOT thinking about you

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why do you say that and what experience and i just thought maybe it would help but i guess im not going send it tonight! gah!!!

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Inunderstand it toon me two months to go Nc I just want her to know in changed and want her back and just showing her positive that's why gah just don't know what to do I hope she thinking me and wonder howni would be recieve
Well, I can't blame you...he dumped me one month ago today...and part of the reason I'm finding it impossible to go NC is because I truly believe he still cares, and I want him to know I've changed. However, a lot of people on here will tell you not to bother trying, and I can't fault them for their opinions and experience.

 

Every situation is unique, and when it comes down to it, you have to do what you feel is right for YOU. If you think it's worth the effort, and you aren't going to regret it afterwards, I say go for it. But if you think there is a chance it might drive her further away, please reconsider.

 

Edited to add: My situation is different, though, because he goes out of his way to IM me almost every single day. When we first broke up, and he didn't contact me for 5 days, I stayed away from him. But when that damn IM window pops up, I find it impossible not to reply...

 

I'll be curious to see what you decide to do. :)

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L3stat Established Member

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Stop being a pussy:mad:

skydiveaddict Established Member

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why do you say that and what experience and i just thought maybe it would help but i guess im not going send it tonight! gah!!!

 

 

 

I don't mean to influence your decision. Go right ahead and contact her. That way you can hear every juicy detail about her new life, her new boyfriend, her new club scene etc. All without you involved at all. I admit, you're right and i am completely off base. You are just better at getting old wounds ripped open than I am. Good luck to ya

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If she's with someone else and she's not contacted you, then she's not thinking of you my friend. Believe me, i'm going through it right now. I contacted my ex after a few weeks nc, just a friendly txt. Did i get a reply? Did i ****. How did it make me feel? Truly awful. Do I regret it? God damn right i do. DON'T DO IT

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Just speaking for myself I would listen to the above poster

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manchild Established Member

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I got all your ideas man what to do why do they seem to hate us after all we had but from all y'all experiences do u think eventually they contact or miss or think of us

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i don't know, after a break up its not unlikely that some will become distany, cold and sometimes cruel. I would think so that they would miss us, but not in the way that you would hope. If they do contact us its always wise not to answer or reply unless you can handle it. It makes no sense after 1yr of NC and all the sudden a call and you answer it, right back to feeling like ****

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I know everybody giving tough love man it's great to hear but would be better to talk to them u four years n wow drop it anyways I don't yet what imaging do or when crap it's hard!

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I was hoping my ex would miss me when she left me and got back with her other ex. She hasn't contacted me in 2 months and when i'v broken nc odd time she has completley ignored my txts. Only contact them if you have completly moved on, so if you get rejected you wouldn't be bothered. But when you get to that stage you probably won't want to contact them anyway.

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I know youre hurting, Bro!

 

We all have been there and it sux!!!!

 

Advise-

1.) Stop FaceBook Stalking. (Never helps to get intel on an ex for it always ends up begging more questions on what's she up to and whos she "screwin" now) STOP IT! Its insane.

 

2.) Focus on why you went NC (for you)!! Im sure this woman treated you in some unreasonable way. Let that be your TRUTH and stay away from her.

 

3.) Focus on you!! And I mean.. "You". Hit the gym go get a hooker OR Whatever.. just be sure its FOR YOUR NEEDS ONLY! Be selfish. :cool:

 

Good luck!

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i got you i understand all about me and yea she is really good girl and wants to do right by God i know this i just wish should would have picked different new bf he is felon and awaiting trial but for soem he has convinced her is changed and he is innocent and charges will be dropped o wait it is second degree murder btw for shaking his baby what she thinking given him time and day wow

OndaChin Established Member

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Say WHAT---->:eek:

 

Holy Sh*t.... "An EX felon"??

 

All I can say is: Rock Star, Outlaw Biker, Convict...

 

If shes hooking up with that garbage she's gonna get burned bad. Let her LEARN! And trust me.. she WILL the HARD WAY!! :lmao:

 

It's a "Train Wreck" in the making! I've seen this before! I suggest you get some POP CORN.. sit back and watch this drama unfold (from the safety of your house).

 

Don't take her back when she gets "Throttled"- just laugh in her sorry face. :cool:

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can i send my story and then you give me your opinion and what you think really i wish we could im or email or talk privatley you know? but can i send it to you its amazing when you hear it

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Where u ondachin and everybody else quit talking please in thinking of calling her and if she does t answer just leave vmailnsaying hi and just wanted see how she was ttyl that's it but dunno! Neways it been 21 day btw of nc

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