EthanH Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 I'm writing here as i have no idea what to do, and I don't think i can do anything now, so I want to know what i should do when i can. I just got a text, it's 2am, it was drunken, from a friend of mine, saying she has just been raped and she hates her life... I phoned her phone, I texted back like 3 times, I have subtly texted a few of her friends... haven't mentioned it because I don't know what to do. She is a uni friend so i don't have her home number etc, and she lives about 8 hours drive from me, so i can't just jump in a car and go to make sure she is ok. I trust her 100%, she wouldn't make this up, even if she is massively drunk, and I don't think from the style of the text that it is anyone else, it is written in her style. I also know how close we are, I was the one she really opened up to last year, and I think, if she was in trouble, it would be me she would contact. What should I do? Please don't shout at me for not doing the right thing, just have no idea what to do atm.
Star Gazer Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 I think all you can do at this point is keep trying to reach her... Call her, text, email, etc. Don't say anything to anyone else though, it would violate her privacy.
Author EthanH Posted September 7, 2010 Author Posted September 7, 2010 i didn't, i texted her friends but didn't mention it, just asked if they were having a good night etc, and if they know, they will mention it, but no reply... really worried...
Star Gazer Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 i didn't, i texted her friends but didn't mention it, just asked if they were having a good night etc, and if they know, they will mention it, but no reply... really worried... You can say something more direct, like, "Hi, I'm trying to get a hold of ABC, do you happen to know where she is?"
abeja_reina_1989 Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 You sound like a wonderful friend and I don't think you should question what you've done for a second, because you're trying to be there for her. I say, just keep trying to get ahold of her and do the best you can. Be there for her.. that's all you can do. Also, get her to go to the cops, b/c that's very important. You don't want this to happen to another woman.
FeedingOnFever Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 This is very tricky. I agree with the above poster that, once you get a hold of her, tell her how important it is to go to the police. If you can't get a hold of her though, this is a very scary situation. You have no way of knowing if she's safe. If you still can't get a hold of her after I don't know, a day or so, I would tell her in a text or voice mail that you are very freaked out and worried, and if she doesn't write back or call to say she's alright, you'll call the police to look for her. I don't want that to freak her out, but it's not possible to ignore the fact that no one has any idea if she's in deep trouble or not. Hopefully she'll see that text and realize that if she doesn't respond soon you'll get the authorities involved to find her. Then, if all is well, she'll be prompted to at least answer you and say something like "I'm alive."
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