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When is it appropriate/okay to email about getting stuff back? My ex has my mexican blanket that was given to me by a friend who died three years ago. It is of sentimental value to me and I really want it back.

 

The ex and I broke up a month ago, NC since save for one single email. Can I email him and ask for the blanket? I was planning on saying, "mail it to me and I'll reimburse you via paypal." I honestly want the blanket back...

 

How long would you wait?

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Honestly that should have been taken care of right away the longer they keep the sentimental stuff the greater the risk you may lose it. I would have a mutual friend if the are comfortable ask for it or send off a civil email asking for it. An item like that is irreplaceable in my opinion.

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I was inquiring about getting all of my stuff (which was a LOT of stuff, seeing as we essentially lived together) within 48 hours of our breakup. I had a plan. I'd come X day and get X stuff, and come Y day and get Y stuff. I didn't want to wait, as I was worried about re-opening a wound.

 

It's been 3 months and he still has some of my stuff... but I'm just not in a hurry to get it, and emotionally I know it won't hurt or be weird to return to fetch it. I just haven't gotten around to it yet.

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Is any of the remaining stuff sentimental?

 

I picked up all my stuff twice once during a "break" the final time after a "break-up" yes I went through both and am still would like to reconcile yet am starting to give up the hope. (Which is good for me to move on)

 

I got all sentimental stuff first and the funny thing is she kept telling me I should pick it up later and I can keep her key What the hell is that in terms of a sign or not? She's like I trust you will not use my key etc.

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I don't want to reconcile.. I just want him to acknowledge me. I don't like to be disengaged and completely ignored, no. But at this point I have not spoken to him on the phone at all and thus communication has been basically nothing... he dumped me but the very next day I changed my phone number, so he couldn't call even if he wanted to, and I would never know if he tried to call.

 

I really just want that blanket back. I am praying that he didn't throw it away.

 

I sent the email a few hours ago & I know he got it bc he has a blackberry and checks his emails compulsively. But no reply thus far. I guess it's a waiting game.

 

It's hard to believe that I spent three and a half years with this man and cannot gather the strength to call him and sternly ask for something back that genuinely means a lot to me.

 

SIGH.

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So the ex got back to me. He said, "I think I can handle dropping the blanket off." Also he said he listens to my CDs all the time and wanted to know if he could make copies...weird question in my opinion bc how would I even know if he made copies?

 

So I replied, "of course, but I would prefer you not drop the blanket off. If you do not want to mail it then I'll just wait til October and pick it up then, when I feel more comfortable."

 

He replies "Ummmmm alright."

 

Weird?

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my ex still has quite a lot of my things,i gave all hers back the next day,but tbh its only a material things to me

 

some cd/dvds

car cd player

my old phone

 

stuff that doesent matter if i dont get it back,and id rather loose than make myself hurt to go and get

 

BUT however if it was sentimental i would have got it right away

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My ex made a few trips to drop my stuff off. I emailed him a list of all my stuff. He dropped most of it off. There were a few miscellaneous items he had forgotten from the original list so I emailed him AGAIN a small list of the rest of my belongings. The most important item on the list was my passport. And do you think the douchebag brought it? No! Everything on the list was there except the passport. So it was like a game to see if I'd continue to contact him about it. He had told me when I was ready to be friends and let him see the dog we once owned together, then to contact him. The passport BS was a way to make sure I had a reason to contact him at some point in the future.

 

Since all this went down, I recently found out that he had been cheating on me a whole week before he even told me he wanted to break up. He made up some BS excuses to dump me when in reality he'd found himself someone else. A young skanky (was told this by multiple sources) groupie of the band hes in. He's a liar and a cheater and I don't ever want to speak to him again. So I will NEVER contact him again and we will NEVER be friends.

 

I regret not just getting all my sh*t from his house within the first week we broke up, but I was so shell shocked and in denial that I didn't do it. He sprung the whole breakup thing on me with no warning what so ever and I was reeling at the beginning of it all. I told a mutual friend of ours to get the passport and then I'll be done with his sorry a** and I'll never have to deal with him again.

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Hey Shannon, I think my ex found someone else too. Almost sure actually, and he didn't have the balls to tell me the truth, just that he "didn't have time for me" or whatever.

 

We're lucky to be rid of those jerks! <3

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Hey Shannon, I think my ex found someone else too. Almost sure actually, and he didn't have the balls to tell me the truth, just that he "didn't have time for me" or whatever.

 

We're lucky to be rid of those jerks! <3

Yes so true! Hopefully these new people our exes have found, will burn them good. Thats what they deserve!:laugh:

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