chocolate_boy Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 (edited) So the girl I was seeing for a few months and dumped me last week (and knows I was pretty upset about it), finds me on a dating website, she's also signed up it seems and sent me a message "hey, found anyone you like here then?". My god, what a bitch. Sorry just had to vent. On the flip-side, I have a date with a model I met in a bar last week lol! Edited September 6, 2010 by chocolate_boy
ShannonMI Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 So the girl I was seeing for a few months and dumped me last week (and knows I was pretty upset about it), finds me on a dating website, she's also signed up it seems and sent me a message "hey, found anyone you like here then?". My god, what a bitch. Sorry just had to vent. On the flip-side, I have a date with a model I met in a bar last week lol! Ugh bitch is right
Author chocolate_boy Posted September 6, 2010 Author Posted September 6, 2010 Ugh bitch is right If it's done one thing it's made me totally go off her, my god, how insensitive is that? She lost all rights to know anything about my private life when she dumped me.
Thorgs Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 I would have replied, "oh now that you're here i don't see anything attractive."
Author chocolate_boy Posted September 6, 2010 Author Posted September 6, 2010 I would have replied, "oh now that you're here i don't see anything attractive." Screw her, she's not worth my time. I've just ignored the message. I should probably block her too I guess. NC is the way to go right? I just don't see her motive apart from to upset me, that's just nasty.
GorillaTheater Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 I would have replied, "oh now that you're here i don't see anything attractive." Either that or "I see some prospects, but none quite as good-looking as the model I have a date with. Thanks for asking."
Author chocolate_boy Posted September 6, 2010 Author Posted September 6, 2010 Either that or "I see some prospects, but none quite as good-looking as the model I have a date with. Thanks for asking." Lol you reckon I should? I've kept up NC since she dropped me 7 days ago. I dunno, I just want nothing more to do with her to be honest. We have to work together from time to time, so I need to remain kinda civil. The model is seriously hot too, roll on Thursday! haha
ShannonMI Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 Either that or "I see some prospects, but none quite as good-looking as the model I have a date with. Thanks for asking." Hahahahaha yea this is a good one!
Thorgs Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 Screw her, she's not worth my time. I've just ignored the message. I should probably block her too I guess. NC is the way to go right? I just don't see her motive apart from to upset me, that's just nasty. true, stick to NC Either that or "I see some prospects, but none quite as good-looking as the model I have a date with. Thanks for asking." or possibly, "well you contacted me, so you must see something that interests you." then send a 2nd msg, "sorry that was my new girlfriend. good luck. :)"
Author chocolate_boy Posted September 6, 2010 Author Posted September 6, 2010 Hahahahaha yea this is a good one! It is tempting, but what's gonna get to her more, that or just not knowing anything I'm doing? Her motive is blatantly to just try and hurt me isn't it?
Thorgs Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 It is tempting, but what's gonna get to her more, that or just not knowing anything I'm doing? Her motive is blatantly to just try and hurt me isn't it? oh it's been 7 years???! dang. ok well maybe just update your profile picture on thursday with your arm around the model.
Author chocolate_boy Posted September 6, 2010 Author Posted September 6, 2010 oh it's been 7 years???! dang. ok well maybe just update your profile picture on thursday with your arm around the model. Oh god no, we were only dating for like 3 months. Haha that might be funny.
Thorgs Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 Oh god no, we were only dating for like 3 months. Haha that might be funny. oh 7 "days" ago...sorry my eyes are failing me, whoops!
Author chocolate_boy Posted September 6, 2010 Author Posted September 6, 2010 oh 7 "days" ago...sorry my eyes are failing me, whoops! Yeah she dropped me via text last monday. What you guys reckon? The message above or NC? To be honest after being such a bitch, I kinda feel pissed off. What shows the most nonchalance/would get to her most?
ShannonMI Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 It is tempting, but what's gonna get to her more, that or just not knowing anything I'm doing? Her motive is blatantly to just try and hurt me isn't it? Yes most likely it is to hurt you. She's a bitch. Don't give her the satisfaction of responding to her. Telling her you are going on a date with a model would feel good, but take the high road I guess.
The Collector Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 Sorry to spoil the hate-fest, but it doesn't sound bitchy to me. Sucks that she dumped you, but probably she is trying to be friendly - so you don't hate her, but that's the intention I reckon. Correct answer - 'Nothing special'
Left in a Lurch Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 You could always reply, "There's a few. I just recently broke up with this really boring girl that I work with from time to time that was incredibly annoying and had horrible breath, so a lot of people on here look attractive compared to her. The best part is I acted like I was hurt over it and made her think she broke up with me. Ha Ha!". Then 5 minutes later send her another response that says, "Sorry, ignore that last message I just sent. I accidently replied to you by mistake. I was trying to reply to someone else's message".
Thorgs Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 Yes most likely it is to hurt you. She's a bitch. Don't give her the satisfaction of responding to her. Telling her you are going on a date with a model would feel good, but take the high road I guess. agreed. then she'll always wonder if you got the msg and it'll probably drive her crazy. :hi5
Author chocolate_boy Posted September 6, 2010 Author Posted September 6, 2010 Sorry to spoil the hate-fest, but it doesn't sound bitchy to me. Sucks that she dumped you, but probably she is trying to be friendly - so you don't hate her, but that's the intention I reckon. Correct answer - 'Nothing special' Really? Never in my wildest dreams would I do that to someone I was romantically involved with/having sex with only a week or two ago and who I knew was really into me. I think that's hugely insensitive.
The Collector Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 You could always reply, "There's a few. I just recently broke up with this really boring girl that I work with from time to time that was incredibly annoying and had horrible breath, so a lot of people on here look attractive compared to her. The best part is I acted like I was hurt over it and made her think she broke up with me. Ha Ha!". Then 5 minutes later send her another response that says, "Sorry, ignore that last message I just sent. I accidently replied to you by mistake. I was trying to reply to someone else's message". Oh yeah, that won't make it obvious you are still in pieces over being dumped after three months (the most common time one party decides it's not working for them, btw) Did she cheat on you? Lie to you? Or just decide you weren't what she was looking for?
Left in a Lurch Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 Sorry to spoil the hate-fest, but it doesn't sound bitchy to me. Sucks that she dumped you, but probably she is trying to be friendly - so you don't hate her, but that's the intention I reckon. Correct answer - 'Nothing special' I'm not sure she could have been more mean or inconsiderate to him even if she said, "Hey, I changed my mind, I still wanna see you. j/k!"
Author chocolate_boy Posted September 6, 2010 Author Posted September 6, 2010 Oh yeah, that won't make it obvious you are still in pieces over being dumped after three months (the most common time one party decides it's not working for them, btw) Did she cheat on you? Lie to you? Or just decide you weren't what she was looking for? I was pretty upset for a few days, but since 7 days NC I'm feeling better. No she didn't, just said it wasn't working for her over a text. Fair enough, I don't hate her for it, but she does know I was upset by it, it just seems massively insensitive to do that less than a week after you've dumped someone "so met any nice girls then?". Surely any person with the slightest compassion would know it's best just to leave that person alone for a while? Maybe I have different morals/ideas to you, but I just don't see why she chose that way to contact me, she could txt/facebook/talk to me at work if she wanted to be friendly. That's just harsh in my book.
Left in a Lurch Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 Oh yeah, that won't make it obvious you are still in pieces over being dumped after three months (the most common time one party decides it's not working for them, btw) Did she cheat on you? Lie to you? Or just decide you weren't what she was looking for? Kind of the point. She knew he was still in pieces and tried to act like there was no history. How could someone not know that would be hurtful to someone they just dumped that they knew still had feelings for them? She's either really naive or really mean.
Author chocolate_boy Posted September 6, 2010 Author Posted September 6, 2010 Kind of the point. She knew he was still in pieces and tried to act like there was no history. How could someone not know that would be hurtful to someone they just dumped that they knew still had feelings for them? She's either really naive or really mean. Yeah I do still have some feelings for her, I fell kinda hard for her, and it's not just like we were friends, we were having sex, cuddling, kissing, had several dates alone, went to each other's houses etc. It didn't last long, and didn't work out, fair enough, not her fault, I was probably more to blame, I fell hard/fast and prob came on too strong. I have to work with her again in the future, but I just want her to be like any other co-worker now, but I also want NC to get it out my system. I don't want to be mean/nasty to her, but I don't want her to be involved in my private life. That's why i think that over-stepped the boundary personally.
D-Lish Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 What you guys reckon? The message above or NC? To be honest after being such a bitch, I kinda feel pissed off. What shows the most nonchalance/would get to her most? Saying nothing at all will have the most impact.
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