Pocahantas Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 I will try to keep this brief. I have been married 18 yrs.No kids.I am no longer in love with my husband.This has been several years coming. One point of contention is where our lives where supposed to be now.Not where we are.We had a 5 year plan.He never liked my part of the plan, which is to live elsewhere.But he agreed to it.Five years ago we were supposed to move into the next phase of our life, but here we sit. He has refused to budge.Wants to remain where we are,running the business he enjoys.I worked myself to death (for his business) to be able to live out what has been my dream nearly my whole life. He said nope sorry,not moving. Anyway,I have fallen out of love with him.I love him as a brother and a friend.I want him to have a good life but I do not want to be a part of it. I do not know how to tell him.
TaraMaiden Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 After 18 years, and no fulfilment, no love (as in marital) and no living on the same page, you don't know how to tell him? Write him a letter. Pour your heart out, but without recrimination or apportioning blame, and try to keep emotionally charged comments out of it. be practical, clear, unambiguous and matter-of-fact. Tell him to expect a letter from a solicitor in a few days. File for divorce and tell him it's for the best. This will be the hardest part. The second hardest will be keeping to it and not permitting him to persuade you otherwise.
GorillaTheater Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 This is about whether or not to move? As opposed to the guy you fell in love with back in January? No matter, I suppose. Simply tell him that you no longer wish to be married. Avoid putting the blame on him, especially if you're unwilling to confess your end of things.
TaraMaiden Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 Damn! I really must develop the habit of reading OP previous threads!!
Steadfast Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 Yes, and somehow she picked up three additional years of marriage in nine-months. I will have trouble taking this poster seriously. Even if she wasn't telling stories, she wouldn't like my answer. If she's being truthful about her husband, I wouldn't like him either. Messy-
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