cody19 Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 I wonder this too. 2 years together, only time we really argued was when we were apart (half the time it was a distance relationship) and she would freak out because we didnt talk (anything besides text because I always texted her) on a certain day. We never had to much problems, good sex life, lots of fun and really cared about each other we were so similar. This summer she was home and things were still good just kind of ****ty because of distance but was expecting her return. The fact that she found out she had to stay is what turned everything down hill. I don't know why but she stopped thinking about me and even says she feels bad for not missing me. But I don't get it because she knows it wasnt me and admits that what we had was good. The last month has been ****ty but just because I've been coping with the idea of a long term long distance relationship. Now she is already starting to hang out with other guys and ****. Idk what got into her but I feel like I don't know her anymore yet she is the same person so there should be no reason for this.
Username37 Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 If you gave somebody your all and you loved them very much, and they loved you back, but you guys would fight at times but always make up. Why would there come a time, when one person just says "Forget this I cant take it anymore" and just let go off all the wonderful things that you shared together and not want to work it out with you Well the day before my break up, my ex and I had a huge fight. The arguement was so ****ing stupid and it could've been easily talked out but she always refuses to talk things out and she decided to take a "break" I hated the idea but I went a long with it. I was hoping she was gonna blow off steam but she dumped me over the phone the next day saying it was enough. She took the thing out of proportion IMO. And now, she's hooking up, smoking tobacco and drinking. And she manages to keep this "holy catholic, smart girl" image. It's bull****.
skydiveaddict Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 Thank you for the encouraging words. I suppose I'll have to keep you posted. dont give ever
Red leaves Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 but I just don't have the energy again for it. Especially when I know it can all be ripped out from under me in a blink of an eye. I thought I had already found that person, but I was dead wrong. I know just how you feel. Although I wasn't with my gf for 8 years, it took me years to find her. I thought she would be the one for me but I was wrong. To build everything from scratch seems overwhelming. But then again people have done this before and we can, too. Just now it is impossible to think about it.
BeagleGal Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 Here's how my ex stopped valuing us/relationship: - cheated on me for months - got her pregnant while still living with me - while he was at "work functions", I was at home looking after his son. - lied about why he broke up with me - lied about someone else being in the picture - kicked me out of the house even though I had no place to go (and then has the nerve to text me almost 2 months after to tell me "to be glad I left when I did" as the crackheads on our street were acting up. Like I had a choice, assh*le) - got engaged 2 - 3 weeks after we split up - when I found out thru a coworker about ALL he did... confronted him and he tried to lie/deny it, still did up until 2 months ago the last I heard from him. - got married just over a month ago to this other woman - found out a week before they get married from a friend of his that this new girl is "just a wallet to him"
BeagleGal Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 1000% agree with this statement. I can't imagine having to start over again... I know just how you feel. Although I wasn't with my gf for 8 years, it took me years to find her. I thought she would be the one for me but I was wrong. To build everything from scratch seems overwhelming. But then again people have done this before and we can, too. Just now it is impossible to think about it.
ShannonMI Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 Here's how my ex stopped valuing us/relationship: - cheated on me for months - got her pregnant while still living with me - while he was at "work functions", I was at home looking after his son. - lied about why he broke up with me - lied about someone else being in the picture - kicked me out of the house even though I had no place to go (and then has the nerve to text me almost 2 months after to tell me "to be glad I left when I did" as the crackheads on our street were acting up. Like I had a choice, assh*le) - got engaged 2 - 3 weeks after we split up - when I found out thru a coworker about ALL he did... confronted him and he tried to lie/deny it, still did up until 2 months ago the last I heard from him. - got married just over a month ago to this other woman - found out a week before they get married from a friend of his that this new girl is "just a wallet to him" This is so awful. What a scumbag. My ex booted me out too and I had no where to go but my parents. At 31 I did not want to be living with my parents. Plus they didn't have the room for me. I have 2 younger siblings at home still and here I was on their doorstep. I ended up staying with a friend for a few weeks. My ex felt bad about this and found me a place. He then had the nerve to throw it in my face when I was upset about the whole breakup and questioned him about why all of a sudden he just ended it. He said "I found you a place to stay and if that's abandonment, then I must be living on another planet." Well knowing what I know now about how he was fu*king around a whole week before he even said a word about breaking up, that was the LEAST he could have done for me. He gave me ZERO notice he wanted to end things and he left me f*cking homeless. The only reason he found me a place to stay was because he felt like sh*t for what he did. He didn't want to feel like the bad guy. It was all about HIM and how HE felt about HIS actions. It had nothing to do with me. I'm sure he sleeps well at night knowing he "helped" me. Fu*king scumbag.
BeagleGal Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 Scumbag is right. My ex gave me 2000$ for first/last month's rent for my new place and got mad at me when I has having a really hard time finding a place for myself and my dog in 2 weeks time. Imagine. Then had the nerve to call himself "upstanding" because he gave me money for rent. Uhh, no you gave me money for rent b/c you needed me out asap b/c your bitch was pressuring you to get rid of me, mother f*ck. I also had to stay with my parents for a few days, a couple of friends place and MY BOSS and his fiancee (we all work together). When my boss heard what my ex had done, he was pissed, furthermore, because he could see I wasn't handling it well and I was basically homeless. SInce then, my boss' fiancee has pretty much made it her mission to make my ex's life at work.. not unbearable... but if she can ruin his rep at work (which he's done on his own already), she will. Because I had given up all my stuff when I moved in with my ex, I had nothing except a futon chair and a dining room table with chairs. So my boss gave me a TV, a really nice futon to sleep on and offered to give me anything else I needed. Same with another VP at work. A lot of people at work have been extremely supportive of me. And very much like your POS ex, my ex gave me zero notice as well. He went on that he loved me, loved us and that things would be alright - it was him. Even after we broke up, had the nerve to give me false hope by telling me we'd still date lots, he'd come visit me at my new place, and how he can't see why we can't buy a bigger house for us, his son and my dog down the road. Unbelievable. This is so awful. What a scumbag. My ex booted me out too and I had no where to go but my parents. At 31 I did not want to be living with my parents. Plus they didn't have the room for me. I have 2 younger siblings at home still and here I was on their doorstep. I ended up staying with a friend for a few weeks. My ex felt bad about this and found me a place. He then had the nerve to throw it in my face when I was upset about the whole breakup and questioned him about why all of a sudden he just ended it. He said "I found you a place to stay and if that's abandonment, then I must be living on another planet." Well knowing what I know now about how he was fu*king around a whole week before he even said a word about breaking up, that was the LEAST he could have done for me. He gave me ZERO notice he wanted to end things and he left me f*cking homeless. The only reason he found me a place to stay was because he felt like sh*t for what he did. He didn't want to feel like the bad guy. It was all about HIM and how HE felt about HIS actions. It had nothing to do with me. I'm sure he sleeps well at night knowing he "helped" me. Fu*king scumbag.
ShannonMI Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 (edited) Scumbag is right. My ex gave me 2000$ for first/last month's rent for my new place and got mad at me when I has having a really hard time finding a place for myself and my dog in 2 weeks time. Imagine. Then had the nerve to call himself "upstanding" because he gave me money for rent. Uhh, no you gave me money for rent b/c you needed me out asap b/c your bitch was pressuring you to get rid of me, mother f*ck. I also had to stay with my parents for a few days, a couple of friends place and MY BOSS and his fiancee (we all work together). When my boss heard what my ex had done, he was pissed, furthermore, because he could see I wasn't handling it well and I was basically homeless. SInce then, my boss' fiancee has pretty much made it her mission to make my ex's life at work.. not unbearable... but if she can ruin his rep at work (which he's done on his own already), she will. Because I had given up all my stuff when I moved in with my ex, I had nothing except a futon chair and a dining room table with chairs. So my boss gave me a TV, a really nice futon to sleep on and offered to give me anything else I needed. Same with another VP at work. A lot of people at work have been extremely supportive of me. And very much like your POS ex, my ex gave me zero notice as well. He went on that he loved me, loved us and that things would be alright - it was him. Even after we broke up, had the nerve to give me false hope by telling me we'd still date lots, he'd come visit me at my new place, and how he can't see why we can't buy a bigger house for us, his son and my dog down the road. Unbelievable. Wow! Your son of a b*tch ex sounds like my son of a b*tch ex. Making themselves feel better for "helping" us out. I also was thrown out with no furniture or anything. I demanded that my ex pay me 1/2 the money for the things we bought together. All the furniture, dishes, small appliances etc. etc. He didn't even want to give me all of the money he owed me because he said that we had used the furniture and everything and it wasn't worth what I was asking. He was nit picking over this sh*t. I told him "YOU LEFT ME WITH NOTHING A**HOLE!" "I NEED THIS MONEY TO START OVER!" The f*cking nerve of him. He makes me sick. I moved in with someone that had all the furniture and things that I would have needed for a place of my own, which was good. I would have been up sh*t creek without a paddle if I had to go out and buy all the furniture and things for a new apt. The money my ex gave me would not have gotten me much. It's all so unbelievable to me still. 8 years down the tubes and he sends me on my way with $900. Edited September 7, 2010 by ShannonMI
BeagleGal Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 (edited) I know, I think they should be best friends. Sheesh. What an assh*le. Feeling no ways in throwing out you like that AND not giving you what is rightfully yours ($$). Selfish prick. The more I write about my ex, the angrier I get and the more I want to body slam him on a bed of nails. My ex's friend (my friend also, well, at least I think he is) helped me move my stuff out of the house and into new place and he made damn sure my ex paid for a moving van and any other moving-related costs. The ex was giving him a hard time and trying to be a cheap bastard and his friend was like "you want her out so bad then pay for it!". My parents helped me with some of my furniture and because I didnt have to pay for first/last month on my own, I used my own $$ to buy a sofa, pillows, lamps - sh*t I needed (even though my ex had "promised" me when we broke up that "he'd take care of me and help me furnish my place"). I can't believe it, girl. 8 years gone. What a no good sack of sh*t. Augh. Oh and PS: Where my ex and his new wife held their wedding reception at, he and I looked that same place for us a few months before he met/f*cked around with her. Double puke. Wow! Your son of a b*tch ex sounds like my son of a b*tch ex. Making themselves feel better for "helping" us out. I also was thrown out with no furniture or anything. I demanded that my ex pay me for 1/2 the money for the things we bought together. All the furniture, dishes, small appliances etc. etc. He didn't even want to give me all of the money he owed me because he said that we had used the furniture and everything and it wasn't worth what I was asking. He was nit picking over this sh*t. I told him "YOU LEFT ME WITH NOTHING A**HOLE!" "I NEED THIS MONEY TO START OVER!" The f*cking nerve of him. He makes me sick. I moved in with someone that had all the furniture and things that I would have needed for a place of my own, which was good. I would have been up sh*t creek without a paddle if I had to go out and buy all the furniture and things for a new apt. The money my ex gave me would not have gotten me much. It's all so unbelievable to me still. 8 years down the tubes and he sends me on my way with $900. Edited September 7, 2010 by BeagleGal
ShannonMI Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 Omg body slam him on a bed of nails! Hahahahaha that made me crack up! Yea I'd love to take a baseball bat to my ex's head. Bash his face in. I hate him so much. Just a few weeks ago I was sad and missing him. Now that I know he was cheating, I just want to kill him. Talking about him makes me angry too. It's so good to vent though, isn't it?
ShannonMI Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 I know, I think they should be best friends. Sheesh. What an assh*le. Feeling no ways in throwing out you like that AND not giving you what is rightfully yours ($$). Selfish prick. The more I write about my ex, the angrier I get and the more I want to body slam him on a bed of nails. My ex's friend (my friend also, well, at least I think he is) helped me move my stuff out of the house and into new place and he made damn sure my ex paid for a moving van and any other moving-related costs. The ex was giving him a hard time and trying to be a cheap bastard and his friend was like "you want her out so bad then pay for it!". My parents helped me with some of my furniture and because I didnt have to pay for first/last month on my own, I used my own $$ to buy a sofa, pillows, lamps - sh*t I needed (even though my ex had "promised" me when we broke up that "he'd take care of me and help me furnish my place"). I can't believe it, girl. 8 years gone. What a no good sack of sh*t. Augh. Oh and PS: Where my ex and his new wife held their wedding reception at, he and I looked that same place for us a few months before he met/f*cked around with her. Double puke. How do these a**holes sleep at night knowing what they did to us? I would be a guilty mess if it was me. My ex is a workoholic and now a big time partier on his time off, so I'm sure he's too busy to think about it. He's probably just loving his new skank and doesn't give me a second thought. This girl he dumped me for, i've heard is a no good piece of trash. Hopefully she gives him herpes and she dumps him. That's what he deserves. Hahahahahaha:p
stillafool Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 If you gave somebody your all and you loved them very much, and they loved you back, but you guys would fight at times but always make up. Why would there come a time, when one person just says "Forget this I cant take it anymore" and just let go off all the wonderful things that you shared together and not want to work it out with you Because people become exhausted with the fighting, talking, making up and then repeat. Sometimes you just want to walk away and forget the relationship ever happened.
BeagleGal Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 So good to vent. Yeah same, I get to being sad and missing him and "why her, why not me?"... then I need to snap myself into reality and remind myself that this POS caused me nothing but hurt and heartache in the end, had me, my family and my friends fooled into thinking he was a great, genuine guy who loved me. Ha! "I just want to kill him". Oh gosh, girl. Its too bad you didnt live in Toronto. We'd make great drinking buddies Omg body slam him on a bed of nails! Hahahahaha that made me crack up! Yea I'd love to take a baseball bat to my ex's head. Bash his face in. I hate him so much. Just a few weeks ago I was sad and missing him. Now that I know he was cheating, I just want to kill him. Talking about him makes me angry too. It's so good to vent though, isn't it?
BeagleGal Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 I dont know, sweetheart, I really don't. Although my boss' fiancee (who of course knows the ex) told me that there have been complaints about my ex's work, apparently he is now f*cking up at work on several accounts (but of course goes around like he's the sh*t) and one of our Sr. VPs got a huge complaint about him on an account, screwed up bad or something. I told her that I would actually be quite surprised if my ex was able to function properly at work given the situation he's gotten himself into. And how they sleep at night? No idea. My therapist is convinced my ex has a personality disorder, most likely narcissist. I agree. And those people feel no empathy towards anyone so that could be it... HA HA HA! Hopefully she gives him herpes... ! Classic. Girl, this new girl he's with (your ex) is a rebound. She'll be easily replaced in a matter of time. How do these a**holes sleep at night knowing what they did to us? I would be a guilty mess if it was me. My ex is a workoholic and now a big time partier on his time off, so I'm sure he's too busy to think about it. He's probably just loving his new skank and doesn't give me a second thought. This girl he dumped me for, i've heard is a no good piece of trash. Hopefully she gives him herpes and she dumps him. That's what he deserves. Hahahahahaha:p
ShannonMI Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 Yes too bad we didn't live closer to each other! Hahahaha we'd make great pals for sure. We seem to have some things in common. Adorable pups (I saw a pic of your pooch on your blog and he is so cute ) and a**hole exes. I don't think my ex has a personality disorder, I think he's just convinced himself that this girl is someone better and she's giving him what he needs. I guess I didn't do a good enough job. What a loser he is. Also the people he's hanging around (his band buddies) are a bunch of lowlives. He joined this band a few months before we broke up. They are jobless, weed smoking, booze drinking losers. This girl he's with is a totally groupie. It's pretty sad that my ex is influenced by these people. He's 27 for crying out loud. Grow up already!
BeagleGal Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 For sure! Oh thanks! He's my precious. Ha! Assh*le exes... Well, it sounds like right now your ex is living it up and doing things he should have done when he was younger or he thinks he missed out on when he was younger for having been in a long-term relationship. I dont think he thinks this girl is better than you, I just think he's enjoying someone who is "shiny and new". When that wears off, and it will, he'll move on to someone else. As for his band, friends - you said it right there: he needs to grow up. It honestly sounds like to me, your ex is "making up for lost time". HOWEVER, he should not have cheated or treated you horribly in the end. That was uncalled for. Yes too bad we didn't live closer to each other! Hahahaha we'd make great pals for sure. We seem to have some things in common. Adorable pups (I saw a pic of your pooch on your blog and he is so cute ) and a**hole exes. I don't think my ex has a personality disorder, I think he's just convinced himself that this girl is someone better and she's giving him what he needs. I guess I didn't do a good enough job. What a loser he is. Also the people he's hanging around (his band buddies) are a bunch of lowlives. He joined this band a few months before we broke up. They are jobless, weed smoking, booze drinking losers. This girl he's with is a totally groupie. It's pretty sad that my ex is influenced by these people. He's 27 for crying out loud. Grow up already!
ShannonMI Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 For sure! Oh thanks! He's my precious. Ha! Assh*le exes... Well, it sounds like right now your ex is living it up and doing things he should have done when he was younger or he thinks he missed out on when he was younger for having been in a long-term relationship. I dont think he thinks this girl is better than you, I just think he's enjoying someone who is "shiny and new". When that wears off, and it will, he'll move on to someone else. As for his band, friends - you said it right there: he needs to grow up. It honestly sounds like to me, your ex is "making up for lost time". HOWEVER, he should not have cheated or treated you horribly in the end. That was uncalled for. Yes, we started dating when he was 19, so he didn't get to live those crazy college, party days while he was with me. Now he is. I wonder if he'll try to come crawling back to me someday. I hope he does, so I can spit in his face. Ugh! I'm so angry!
BeagleGal Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 Yeah, then this is what's happening, I think. He's "making up for lost time". You never know with exes, sometimes they realize they f*cked up but its too late. Sometimes, it doesnt faze them at all what they walked out on. But hopefully, lets say if he does try crawling back, by that time, you're totally over it, with someone new and then you wouldn't have to waste your saliva on him! That's what I hope happens with my ex: that I become indifferent towards him, that I have no feelings of any kind towards him at all. He's not worth it, he truly isn't. I know you're angry, girl, I know that feeling too well. I wish I had a little punching bag at home and a pair of gloves, put his stupid pic up and just PUNCH, PUNCH, PUNCH! Yes, we started dating when he was 19, so he didn't get to live those crazy college, party days while he was with me. Now he is. I wonder if he'll try to come crawling back to me someday. I hope he does, so I can spit in his face. Ugh! I'm so angry!
ShannonMI Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 Yeah, then this is what's happening, I think. He's "making up for lost time". You never know with exes, sometimes they realize they f*cked up but its too late. Sometimes, it doesnt faze them at all what they walked out on. But hopefully, lets say if he does try crawling back, by that time, you're totally over it, with someone new and then you wouldn't have to waste your saliva on him! That's what I hope happens with my ex: that I become indifferent towards him, that I have no feelings of any kind towards him at all. He's not worth it, he truly isn't. I know you're angry, girl, I know that feeling too well. I wish I had a little punching bag at home and a pair of gloves, put his stupid pic up and just PUNCH, PUNCH, PUNCH! I know. I need to invest in a heavy bag. Hahahaha it would help to get the aggression out.
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