masonw66 Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 I split up with my girlfriend about 8 weeks ago. The reasons why she said she wanted it to end was due to her wanting to going traveling for a year, and she didn't think a long distance relationship was worth trying. We were together for roughly 2 years and never really left each-others side. For me the break came as a shock, even though I had doubts it was going to last much longer. I took the break extremely bad, I didn't know where to turn, all I wanted to do was speak to her, but she completely erased me from her life. I had no choice but to try and move on.. I put on a brave face and went out with my friends and tried to enjoy my life again, even though all I could think about was my ex. A month past and I heard through friends that my ex went on holiday with her mates. Out of the blue one night I got a call when I was out with my mates off my ex. She was extremely upset and started saying that she needed a friend. The last thing I ever wanted was her to be upset about anything, so I went home and we spoke for while. She wanted to know if I slept with anyone since we broke up.. I'm not one to lie so I admitted to her that I did sleep with one person. She broke down and couldn't even get her words out.. In the end it came out that she slept with one person too. Since then we started to meet up to see how we'd get on as friends. So far everything is good, maybe too good. We went away for a a couple of days the other day and had an amazing time together. She mentioned maybe when she gets back from traveling we can give it another go! I couldn't believe what I was hearing! Since we've came back from our mini holiday away though she has said to me that I shouldn't pin all my hope on it, and shouldn't wait for her?! But she's still saying that she is willing to give it a try when she's back, which could be 6 - 12 months time.. She means so much to me and I can't ever imagine being with anyone else. If I do decide to wait I'm putting myself in a awkward position. She's the first person I think about when i wake up, and the last person I think about before I go to sleep.. I've never loved someone so much.. I only seem to be really happy when I'm with her, even if its just as friends. Am I foolish even thinking of waiting for her????
Ash78 Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 I split up with my girlfriend about 8 weeks ago. The reasons why she said she wanted it to end was due to her wanting to going traveling for a year, and she didn't think a long distance relationship was worth trying. We were together for roughly 2 years and never really left each-others side. For me the break came as a shock, even though I had doubts it was going to last much longer. I took the break extremely bad, I didn't know where to turn, all I wanted to do was speak to her, but she completely erased me from her life. I had no choice but to try and move on.. I put on a brave face and went out with my friends and tried to enjoy my life again, even though all I could think about was my ex. A month past and I heard through friends that my ex went on holiday with her mates. Out of the blue one night I got a call when I was out with my mates off my ex. She was extremely upset and started saying that she needed a friend. The last thing I ever wanted was her to be upset about anything, so I went home and we spoke for while. She wanted to know if I slept with anyone since we broke up.. I'm not one to lie so I admitted to her that I did sleep with one person. She broke down and couldn't even get her words out.. In the end it came out that she slept with one person too. Since then we started to meet up to see how we'd get on as friends. So far everything is good, maybe too good. We went away for a a couple of days the other day and had an amazing time together. She mentioned maybe when she gets back from traveling we can give it another go! I couldn't believe what I was hearing! Since we've came back from our mini holiday away though she has said to me that I shouldn't pin all my hope on it, and shouldn't wait for her?! But she's still saying that she is willing to give it a try when she's back, which could be 6 - 12 months time.. She means so much to me and I can't ever imagine being with anyone else. If I do decide to wait I'm putting myself in a awkward position. She's the first person I think about when i wake up, and the last person I think about before I go to sleep.. I've never loved someone so much.. I only seem to be really happy when I'm with her, even if its just as friends. Am I foolish even thinking of waiting for her???? The obvious solution is not to wait for her or to give her up. What is stopping you travelling with her?
Author masonw66 Posted September 6, 2010 Author Posted September 6, 2010 She wants to travel alone for the experience, and I wouldn't be able to go with her anyway because I still have my education to attend to and have a shortage of funds. All my friends and family are against me waiting... And sometimes I think I'm stupid for even thinking about waiting myself.. But you can't help what you feel for someone
Ash78 Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 But you can't help what you feel for someone I know exactly what you mean.. My wife has left me and another man is on the scene I am waiting to see what happens in the long run but it is not going to stop me seing other women in the meantime. So why not do the same? Si
L3stat Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 I hate to be Mr. Killjoy but shes going away...she already slept with someone while you guys weren't together so who knows what gonna happen but i wouldnt be suprise if she comes back and doesnt want to be with you, tends to happen alot so prepare for worst hope for the best. i woudlnt wait for her, nothing is written in stone, move on and when she comes back dont approach her or anything if she wants you back she'll find you
Author masonw66 Posted September 6, 2010 Author Posted September 6, 2010 I know I should move on, but its so hard. When we split I thought I'd never hear off her again and then out of no where she starts calling me and texting me.. Looking back at it I wish I never answered the phone.. Now its me doing all the texting and calling and she hardly ever replies. Friends tell me she has me exactly where she wants me.. They say she knows I'll come running back to her whenever she feels like she wants me.. I really hope she isn't that type of person, but I am starting to think otherwise now.
Billie The Puppet Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 Go out and date perhaps you will find someone for you and if not when she comes back you can possibly reconcile if she is still willing too. You don't know what she is doing while she is out, so why can't you do the same. When I first met my ex I didn't care for whom she slept with before me and she didn't care to whom I slept with either although we each told each other the number of people we slept with. To me if we are split it doesn't matter whom we sleep with because we are not together. However you both should be honest with each other if you shall reunite and get checked for STD's because that's the last thing you want to give to your partner. Actually asking if you slept with someone is an unattractive trait for either sex. It's a sign of insecurity.
Author masonw66 Posted September 6, 2010 Author Posted September 6, 2010 Thanks for the advice Billie. I can defiantly see where you're coming from.
Billie The Puppet Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 It's funny I can give the advice but can't follow it myself. Well I sort of am I will date but nothing serious right now because I don't think my heart can take it but It is helping my self confidence some. Who knows I may develop a relationship from one of these dates and forget about my ex. (Seems like it will be hard) Funny thing is the date I have my ex always knew I had a thing for but knew I never made could make my move and now I am no longer with my ex and have made my move it may make my ex rethink things.
D-Lish Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 I know I should move on, but its so hard. When we split I thought I'd never hear off her again and then out of no where she starts calling me and texting me.. Looking back at it I wish I never answered the phone.. Now its me doing all the texting and calling and she hardly ever replies. Friends tell me she has me exactly where she wants me.. They say she knows I'll come running back to her whenever she feels like she wants me.. I really hope she isn't that type of person, but I am starting to think otherwise now. You have to stop texting and calling! Don't wait for this person, don't put your life on hold. You can't move forward if you get caught up in the hope that she "might" consider getting back together in a year. Treat it like it's over and go back into NC mode.
L3stat Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 Your Being a big pussy, everyone on here is giving you great advice, you seem bent on waiting for her to come back and stomp on your heart, you really need to live your life, she is. you got over once and you'll do it again. also they always know we come running back, shes getting what she needs from you and when shes done, shes gonna throw you out like yesterdays garbage
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