TomerT Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Hi all, I will very glad to hear your opinion. My gf break up with me 3.5 weeks weeks ago. In first two weeks she tried to make a contact with me 3-4 times but I was "busy" (and replied her with SMS).. So since the break up we already 23 days total NC. My question is more general - if she will call me one day (I think it is reasonable to assume that she will), how can I know if she really realized that did a mistake and want us back, or just may be she bored and lonely, having some temporary emotional "blue" or may be just "keeping tabs" on me.... I don't want to be rude or ignore her, I really want her back...But at the same time, I don't want to be her "emotional tampon" Your opinion much appreciated
Billie The Puppet Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Unless she says she wants you back or wants to reconcile or work on the relationship there are no signs despite what you may read online. I acted on signs I thought my ex was showing and they failed and made my situation worse.
collegeguy_24 Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Unless she says she wants you back or wants to reconcile or work on the relationship there are no signs despite what you may read online. I acted on signs I thought my ex was showing and they failed and made my situation worse. Same thing happened to me, she gave me signs she was willing to see if we could work out after she sorted out her feelings. A week later she was dating someone else.
Trovador Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 After a week of NC, I bumped into my ex, we made some small talk and later she called me four times... the result? we ended talking like 2 hours... Does that mean she wants me back? No, it seemed to me she really cares about me (after all I am the guy whom she not long ago fell in love with) and that she needed a little ego massage but when I tried to talked her into our relationship she decided it was time to hang up... I am tired of overanalyzing her words and attitude... it´s not worth... So, when your ex calls you, be ready to present her your best side (asuming you have worked your life up) just like when you meet her, sound sure of yourself, be confidant, be bold, be funny, be all but clingy, needy, emotional, etc... That's what I did, in fact that was the primary reason why we talked so much, I told her about some projects I am involved with (as a matter of fact, I have not improved much my life after her, I have always tried to live an interesting life) and she seemed genuinely interested... it was only that I brought up our relationship (and something totally irrelevant) that she said goodbye... So, when she calls you, just be yourself, if she wants you back, she will bring it up... and remember, there will be other times, don't act desperate... But above all, do not this to get her back... girls have a six sense that tells them when one is playing games or just presenting a facade... And sometimes, as in my case, it's not that girls don't love us, it's that they don't want or can't have a relationship with us... sounds complex isn't it?
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