Still trying to move on.

[Queensland]

Hello, not sure what i am doing; but i guess i after reading all the comments i might try this for myself. Approx. 2 years ago i discovered my husband of 20 years had an affair with an empoloyee of ours. We both work and run our own business. This affair was ongoing, under my nose, for maybe 20 months.

The only way i discovered this was because she took court action against our compnay for negligence...after she had, had enough.

 

When i investigated this further; i discovered that early on; i believe before the affair had begun; he was premediating his course of action by signing her time card to provide her more time at work. He has never admitted his wrong, but in court docs she mentioned very intimate areas on his body; that i am certain of fact. I find it extremely difficult to forgive and most of all forget. To me it is like a death; every day i remember this fact. I am still with him for the sake of our sons and our business; but i am not sure this is enough any more.

 

Thank you for listening.

Edited September 5, 2010 by Queensland

[Hazyhead]

Do you think that your inability to move on comes from not knowing what hAppened. Have you asked him for the truth? Also, please don't think this is me snubbing you, but have you tried the infidelity board? So many there have been through similar.

 

I'm sorry you're going through this.

[BB07]

I'm with Hazy, I think you need to have your post moved to the infidelity section, you will be more apt to get what you need there.

 

I'm sorry Queensland for your hurt and pain.

[YellowShark]

Approx. 2 years ago i discovered my husband of 20 years had an affair with an empoloyee of ours. We both work and run our own business. This affair was ongoing, under my nose, for maybe 20 months. The only way i discovered this was because she took court action against our compnay for negligence...after she had, had enough.

 

Wow. Just wow. When I think I've been through the ringer I read stories like this and just shake my head. So what I hear you saying is not only did your husband of 20 years cheat on you for nearly 2 years... he did it with someone at your company... which now threatens your company financially.

 

What a TOTAL scumball. I am so sorry you have been blindsided twice. I cannot express how scummy this man must be to destroy your marriage AND threaten your mutual business for sex.

 

He has never admitted his wrong, but in court docs she mentioned very intimate areas on his body; that i am certain of fact.

 

...and to add insult to injury he refuses to take ownership for his betrayal. Man o'man this guy is a piece of work.

 

I find it extremely difficult to forgive and most of all forget. To me it is like a death; every day i remember this fact. I am still with him for the sake of our sons and our business; but i am not sure this is enough any more.

 

Thank you for listening.

 

This man is a cancer. He is the worst kind of cancer. I would have to say that if I was in your shoes Queensland I could not forgive or forget. I would crush him. Destroy him. And remove this cancer from my life no matter what the consequences. You, your business, and your children will be far better off without this cancer eating away at them.