deepesh Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Hello, I was bored, so I logged onto a Chat Room, I received a message from this Girl, Nisha, She is 23 and I'm 26. She was pinging me, while I was ignoring her, she just wanted to talk to me, even when I told her that there are many other people she can talk to, she was adamant on talking to me, I told her that I'm not looking for a relationship and I'm not ready for the same, we talked for almost 4 hrs that day, then we exchanged numbers. It's almost 4 months now, we talk daily on phone for at least for 3-4 hours, She calls me every now and then when she is on a break at work. I'vnt met her yet, but I've started to like her, I've a soft corner for her. She tells me that she loves me, and she feels very good when she talks to me, she feels protected, and has warm feelings. But I'm not able to get into a relationship or a commitment, I tell her this all the time, but still she believes that I love her. I told her that you are my good friend, but not my GF as yet. We have arguments now and then, but we get back the next day. She has 5-6 good friends with whom she hangs, all her friends know about me, she discusses about me etc., she also talks to me about them, she tells me everything in detail, what they did, what they talked, where they went, how much fun they had. She is almost always complaining about something or the other, something or the other is paining. She always talks about her past and what happened, what she did, about her friends, and what they did together, how her childhood was very beautiful and good. She also talks about her parents, she doesn't like her parents much, particularly her dad, she talks about him. I told her not to talk about parents. She does loud thinking while she is talking to me, like "which dress should I wear, oh I should wear this one", when I've no clue what she is talking about, which irritates me. She talks about all this every day. I tell her that I don't want to talk about other people or your friends, I don't want you to tell me what you are doing all the time, or what you see. it irritates me, you are forgetting that there is a person on the other side, and that he also has a life. To that she says that she likes to tell me everything, anything which is in her heart, and it just comes naturally when she is talking to me. She never had anyone so close to talk to all her life. And that I've to accept her negatives with her positives. I can understand her situation, she needs a shoulder and a very close friend, and I like her a lot but unfortunately I get very irritated or it is very taxing to listen her talking about what she did the other day with her friends, or what's going on her mind, when she does loud thinking. I tried to slow down things, I don't call her that often, she feels bad about this, even I think about her. What should I do to make her understand that I want her to talk about us and not others? any practical tips? Am I being selfish or harsh? Thanks.
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