LisiEeyore Posted February 20, 2004 Posted February 20, 2004 So again, I'm back to this moving thing. It is definite now that I am moving to the Richmond, VA area from the Pittsburgh, PA area, aproximately 300 miles. My boyfriend is constantly reassuring me that it'll be ok and that if we want it to work out it will. I am worried still though. I know that I love him and I know that he loves me and "doesn't want to lose me." He feels that we are meant to be and eventually he says when the time is right he wants to get married. I am in NO rush to have this happen. We both have our lives to live and things that we need to get done before anything more can happen. I feel that he compliments me well. I mean he accepts who I am completely without question as I do him. In my heart I know that it will work out and eventually down the road we'll get married. He is currently getting his associates degree. To say the least his life has gotten a little off course at a young age due to family problems and now at 22 he's finally going to college. He'll be done next summer with his first degree. He wants to stay in PA to get his bachelors, another 2 years. I will see him through the summer months of course, since I'm going to be teaching and also at holidays, etc... I know it's not a permanent thing, in fact he wants to be in the FBI or CIA some day and that would move him closer to me. We both believe that things happen for reasons and I honestly think this is to see if we really are meant to be. I guess what I'm looking for is just ideas how to get through it. Many of you have been there so how are you dealing? What do you do to keep things together and how often do you get to see one another? Any advice is awesome! Thanks!
carla Posted February 22, 2004 Posted February 22, 2004 My bf and I for our 1st year and a half together we both drove transport, and even thou we lived in the same apartment we were lucky if we seen each other for 1 or 2 days each week sometimes it was 2 or even 3 weeks b4 we would see each other. Anyway it was exciting I would get butterflies if I knew we were going to be together for the weekend. The 1st one home would make plans for an exciting weekend. We would go out for supper or get the groceries to make supper together. We would have a few drinks at the pub to say hi and talk about our latest trips, so our friends wouldn't feel neglected. We would go to the city to shop, we would just do what ever as long as it was together. The sex was out of this world. It does mean more when you wait. Then the weekend was over and the heart breaking part came and it was time to split up again. We would call each other on the cell phones. I would have warm fuzzy feeling inside just thinking about what we did on the weekend. A few days b4 we were to see each other again I would start planning on what we would do. I do believe that LDR can work. It either makes or breaks the relationship. 300 miles isn't far, in trucker talk it's only 1/2 a days work (5 hours). You could see each other on weekends or hoildays. Plan for those days. They will be some of the most exciting days of your relationship. Good Luck and make the most of your time together.
Author LisiEeyore Posted February 22, 2004 Author Posted February 22, 2004 Thanks for the advice. In my heart I know it'll work it just seems so far away since at this point in time we're about 80 miles apart because I'm away at school while he commutes. I've kind of picked up a song by Richard Marx, Right Here Waiting For You. It reiterates a lot of what he tells me all the time. I unfortunately am a worrier. I worry even when I don't need to, it's hard for me not to with this because when it was first brought up as a possibility, he told me we should break up if it happens. Now he's willing to work with it and stay together. The good part of it is his career goals may also bring him to where I'll be. Otherwise we're going to figure out a way and see what happens. Thanks again!
blueyoohoo Posted February 23, 2004 Posted February 23, 2004 I know what you're going through girl. I've been through it for almost 4 years now. What has helped to get me through was knowing that we're working toward a future so the end result will well be worth all of the hardships we are facing right now while we're apart. We visit when we can (usually once a month), my schedule is a lot more strict than his so it's usually him visiting. It's been the hardest thing I have ever done, but it's also the best thing in my life. Don't think about it as another trying day on which you are sad because you're apart. Think about each day as one more closer to the day that you will be happy because you will finally be together. It's helped get me through 4 years and hopefully our LDR will end within the next year or so and we'll be together.
The_Fish Posted February 28, 2004 Posted February 28, 2004 Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Sorry, just had to throw that in there. I'm at college, and I'm about a 5 1/2 hour drive away from my girlfriend. It's tough, but I talk to her almost every day, either through instant messaging or on the phone. I don't know how it is for others, but it's like a recharge for me. It brightens my day, even though I don't get to see her. I see her every chance I get, usually maybe a weekend a month or longer for university holidays, and a lot of the time we just sit together watching movies or something. It's fantastic just to be together. My father is about one year from retiring from the Army. He was deployed to both Gulf wars, Korea twice, and Thailand once. In Korea, he was gone for a whole year. About six months each for the wars, and six months in Thailand. He was able to call maybe once a week. Every time I think I have it tough, I just think about what it must have been like for my parents.
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