9Lives Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 another rough morning! being strong and staying busy. just need reminders around. breaking NC for me means being rejected, feeling worst than I do right now, and still not getting back togetherwhy are u not breaking it?
ChrisMc Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Yeah, I would LOVE to hear her voice and to know what she has been up to. But is she going to tell me she loves me? Probably not. That she wants me back (if I even want that)? Likely no. All I will do is feel even worse than I do right now when the phone call is over. So why punish myself?
Lost Fish Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 For me staying NC = no new pain. I am just getting over the pain of the break up. New contact will only set me back. I am staying NC out of respect for myself. This is a form of selfishness that is actually good and creates self confidence. And everytime she tries to break it and reach out - as long as I stay NC I feel that much stronger - she is giving me my power back in a way - as she is now realizing the awesome dude that she lost.
Banega100 Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Because the harsh reality is that if she wanted to be with me then she would have gotten in touch. It's pretty irrelevant whether or not i want to contact her.
Author 9Lives Posted September 5, 2010 Author Posted September 5, 2010 For me ...no new pain Mornings are still the worst and during the day, some times. But I dont want that pain anymore. I rather be dealing with it than to open myself up to further punishment. I dont go on facebook anymore but I will do that again.
Trovador Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 Because I prefer nothing at all than just crumbs... and I'd rather be alone than being a nice buddy... for me it's better knowing that she won't call me up ever than to wait for her scarce calls... and not knowing totally about her is better than knowing whatever irrelevant matters she choose to feed me... NC is infinitely better than feeling rejected again and again and again...
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