Butchannon Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 When I found out my WGF has cheated on me in the past I told her to leave immediatelly. She has left some things because she couldn't take all at once so she came next day to pick up them. I talked on the evening when she left and suggested to talk about situation when she would come next day. She said yes and then came next day with her father. Her father told her she has nothing to talk with me and she should has just taken her things and left immediatelly. He told her to leave door open in the case I would hit her so he could come in?? Yes, I was angry but I would never hit her. So she left, they took away my child (in that moment I didn't even know if child was mine). I tried to talk to her to go at their place and see our child. She said I could come. When I was on my way she called me and said she wouldn't come to pick me on railway station because her mother didn't allow her to. So I took bus to their place and then she called and asked where I was. When we talked her father took her phone and said I would better come with cab (taxi) because I have just 5 minutes left to see my child. I became angry and told him I would call the police and social center because they denied access to my child. He then said that I didn't even know if that was my child so why should I see him, but the thing they said all the time was you shouldn't make paternity test! When I came to their place I tried to tell her father about her infidelities but he said that was not his busineess and that I could talk to her. After 5 minutes I had to leave there were no buses left, it was rainy night, I was 190 kms from home... They said I was cruel to tell my WGF to leave because we have a child together. All the time she was leaving child was at her parents' house. If child was at our place that time he would have stayed with me. Does it sound like I have anger issues?
TigerCub Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Well from what you just said I dont see "anger issues". I dont fully understand the story though..Did you or didn't you get a paternity test? If the child is yours, you need to talk to social services/police if the girl and her parents are being so difficult that they wont let you see your own kid. If you didn't take a paternity test, you should get one done. Either way, talk to a lawyer. The sooner the better. good luck
Author Butchannon Posted September 5, 2010 Author Posted September 5, 2010 Yes I made DNA test on my own with homeset. I can see my daughter now every Saturday for 8 hours at their place (arranged at social service). They said I was so cruel to tell her to leave after I found out she cheated on me with multiple guys, sent naked pictures for the first six months of our relationship. I got STDs from her (HPV, Chlamyidia). I lost my income because I was on paternity leave and I had to find myself new job. Her family hates me and doesn't want to reconcile because I was so cruel.
WalkingtheAbyss Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 I'm reading this as you being a victim but half of what you say doesn't add up to that feeling. Why would they accuse you of being abusive? Why would you only be allowed such little time with your child? How can you lose a job from being on paternity leave?
Author Butchannon Posted September 5, 2010 Author Posted September 5, 2010 I'm reading this as you being a victim but half of what you say doesn't add up to that feeling. Why would they accuse you of being abusive? Why would you only be allowed such little time with your child? How can you lose a job from being on paternity leave? They told me I was abusive because I told her to leave after finding out she cheated on me. Her father said it was late (8.30 pm) so I should have gone home as soon as possible. I decided to take paternity leave to help my GF with a child and because we lived 150 kms from my workplace I decided in the meantime I would look for new job in the city where we lived. I would find myself a new job till paternity leave would end (I have found a new job now). If I haven't had savings I don't know how would I manage that. I have lost that job because I took paternity leave (they didn't give me new contract).
WalkingtheAbyss Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Neither of your answers add up dude. You asking her to leave having cheated on you is in no way abusive. With regards to seeing your child, i meant in general and not that one night. You cannot be sacked for taking paternity leave.
Author Butchannon Posted September 5, 2010 Author Posted September 5, 2010 Neither of your answers add up dude. You asking her to leave having cheated on you is in no way abusive. With regards to seeing your child, i meant in general and not that one night. You cannot be sacked for taking paternity leave. They said it was cruel. They demanded full custody on social services and she got it. I can see my child for 8 hours a week at their place. If I didn't take paternity leave they would give me new contract.
painfullyobvious Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 How was she granted full custody w/o a hearing in court? When you find out someone has cheated on you I believe that there are no wrong emotions or no wrong intensity as long as things do not become verbally of physically abusive. Sounds like you need a lawyer. Do you know exactly what your ex-girlfriend and family told social services? There is no reason for supervised visits unless there are safety concerns.
bentnotbroken Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 What country are you in? :confused:I would get a lawyer asap. Either they are snowing you or something is being left out of this story.
WalkingtheAbyss Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 In my opinion you are being bent over and they are not even courteous enough to use lube. I dont know what country your in thus i cant fully comment on working regulations but here in the UK you as a man are entitled to two weeks paternity leave, end of. They can not sack you for taking it but the pay is rubbish. As for your ex being granted full custody, with out legal proceedings this is impossible. Seek legal advice and do what you ca to prove that you are a responsible father and trust worthy.
Author Butchannon Posted September 6, 2010 Author Posted September 6, 2010 Don't know what to do... Do you think if she wanted to be with me she wouldn't behave like that?
GorillaTheater Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 Don't know what to do... Do you think if she wanted to be with me she wouldn't behave like that? After all of your threads recounting everything this girl has done, and all of the feedback you've recieved, I'm dumbfounded that THIS is the question you pose.
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