K'aycie Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Hi all! I was dating someone for a few months, which is detailed in this thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t242291/ but basically, things ended because we hadn't spent much time together and he basically told me he didn't want a relationship, which I interpreted, as just that. He only really told me this, after I inquired. That was hurtful to know because he was calling constantly and acting as if we were in a relationship. I told him I would not be as available as I once was, since he and I didn't seem to be on the same page. What is confusing, it that he called me several times, prior to our "break up" correspondence, and seemed genuinely bothered that I was pulling back. I told him I'd call him, which I did, but he never called. So, I felt as though I was led on after hearing from him that he wasn't really interested in anything serious, but still pursuing me otherwise. And, I am upset that my friend's father introduced me to him based on that (which I know I can't really get mad at, but it's how I feel). If he did end up contacting me, how should I respond? I wished we could have met in person and talked, but I supposed there wasn't anything really to discuss, right?
Author K'aycie Posted September 10, 2010 Author Posted September 10, 2010 Bump. So the relationship, though short lived, is over. He didn't want a relationship, he never called back, and that's that. I have gone through a period of depression over it, but I am feeling much better these days. Question though, he recently befriended me on FB, which I thought was pretty jerky and I'm not sure how I feel about it at this point. I feel like my heart was ripped out and stomped on as is, so, I am kind of taken back as to how someone would think it would be okay for us to be friends. What does everyone suggest?
fabio10 Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Delete him who needs him, his loss and your life's gain he didnt even contact and yet wants you on facebook ehhhh I dont think so delete him and his number forget him and if he does contact you wait a day before replying and say who is this forget him
Art_Critic Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Delete him who needs him, his loss and your life's gain he didnt even contact and yet wants you on facebook ehhhh I dont think so delete him and his number forget him and if he does contact you wait a day before replying and say who is this forget him agreed ... Most likely he is just looking to date her friends .. or looking for sex again...
Author K'aycie Posted September 10, 2010 Author Posted September 10, 2010 This whole thing makes me sick to my stomach. I though I hit the jack pot initially, he seemed like such a good guy, attractive, smart, funny and then turned out to be a huge as*hole. I don't understand why I chose someone like that, it really shattered me. And yeah Art, based on what I've since seen, he looks disgusting now to me.
Ajax Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 I think that trying to befriend you on Facebook is really tactless. He's definately been putting his needs before yours the entire time, and probably feels that if you agree to be his Facebook friend that you forgive him of any wrongdoing. Stay strong and know that you havn't done anything wrong. It really is his loss, and you're free to be with someone who deserves you!
Author K'aycie Posted September 10, 2010 Author Posted September 10, 2010 I think that trying to befriend you on Facebook is really tactless. He's definately been putting his needs before yours the entire time, and probably feels that if you agree to be his Facebook friend that you forgive him of any wrongdoing. Stay strong and know that you havn't done anything wrong. It really is his loss, and you're free to be with someone who deserves you! Thank you Ajax. I hear what you're saying, I do have to be strong. That's what I am trying to do, I just need a little support right now.
shayan Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 It seems like he is immature I don't think you should worry too much about facebook, or texts, or contacts, or him. I think you should worry about truly closing your heart's door to the situation so that you can fully mourn this. You seem like you are close though good luck, and I hope you are doing good things for yourself right now
Author K'aycie Posted September 10, 2010 Author Posted September 10, 2010 It seems like he is immature I don't think you should worry too much about facebook, or texts, or contacts, or him. I think you should worry about truly closing your heart's door to the situation so that you can fully mourn this. You seem like you are close though good luck, and I hope you are doing good things for yourself right now Agreed. I am close, thanks. Was kind of hard to do when you see them going out with other people, as if too rub salt in your wounds. All I know is, HE is the one, that said he was not looking ahead for a relationship and didn't bother to see me, so F him.
fabio10 Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Hey I know you feel sick to the pit of your stomach I did too, I know you thought you hit the jackpot but obivously that was not the person he truely is , people have many sides to them and right now is this side attractive to you, I dont think sooooo, he did you a favour his poker face came down and he showed you his true colours !
Author K'aycie Posted September 10, 2010 Author Posted September 10, 2010 Hey I know you feel sick to the pit of your stomach I did too, I know you thought you hit the jackpot but obivously that was not the person he truely is , people have many sides to them and right now is this side attractive to you, I dont think sooooo, he did you a favour his poker face came down and he showed you his true colours ! You are right and I am sick over it, had I known this is how he truly was, I NEVER would have gotten involved with him. I would have had more respect towards him had he told me right after we were physically intimate that it was over.
WalkingtheAbyss Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 His loss and not yours. You WILL find Mr Right and will later look back at this situation, shrug and allow a wry snigger. Until then, delete his arse from your life and get yourself out there with your friends on the search for fun and maybe Mr Right if you can be bothered right now.
Author K'aycie Posted September 11, 2010 Author Posted September 11, 2010 His loss and not yours. You WILL find Mr Right and will later look back at this situation, shrug and allow a wry snigger. Until then, delete his arse from your life and get yourself out there with your friends on the search for fun and maybe Mr Right if you can be bothered right now. I have deleted him from my life, I deleted his phone number, removed him from FB (saw he was in a relationship with a new girl and I really couldn't handle seeing that) and deleted another account that we were friends on because that was like the scene of the crime for me and how we first began corresponding (I contacted him through there after our mutual friend called me to tell me about him and suggested I reach out to him). I threw out the flowers I saved that he gave me and his card too. The rest, is what I have been pretty much doing, but my trust has been rattled and I don't know how much more faith I have in the opposite sex anymore.
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