asianqt Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 My boyfriend broke up with me around the beginning of June, > and we went out for 1.5 years. We shared so many memories, both good and bad. I honestly still love him. I went through lots of depression and > problems during our relationship, so it weighed our relationship down. I > was constantly stressing with schoolwork and what not. He is the clingy > type so he never wanted to be away from me. We spent like 24/7 together, > and would always talk, chat, hang out. We were each other's best friends. > Over time, he felt like I pushed him away, and he always assured me he > would be there so I thought we were okay. But since summer started, I > went on vacation for a week with my family, and I told him we should have > a break with less talking during that week because I wanted to relax and I > wanted to miss him. He was always around and I felt like we never had time apart. Turns out, when I came back, he had a new girl he was > talking to. He soon asked her out, and now they are going out. I did the > wrong thing and showed him my sadness and anger. He told me it was the > end. A few weeks later, we talk again. He tells me how his new > girlfriend doesn't give him butterflies and he doesn't think they're going > to last a super long time, but he didn't want to break up with her. He > tells me he isn't that into her and she is way too clingy (that was sorta > opposite from me because I let him have his space, but i was still there) > and that he was starting to become impatient with her, but he really likes > her. I asked him, why is he with her if he told me all that stuff, and > his answer was simply: i like her a lot. He admits that he still loves me > and misses me. He doesn't even know what he wants at this point. He wants > to be with me, but at the same time, he doesn't want to break up with her. > He is enjoying the "honeymoon period" of their relationship. He told me > we can be together later if it was meant to be, but not right now. I'm so > lost and confused with what to do. I'm being his friend right now, and > I'm accepting the fact he's with another girl, even though I strongly love > him. I'm staying in contact with him, and I won't give up on him. People > are telling me to move on, and they're telling me how i'm his second > option, but they don't understand. I don't want to move on. I do care > about him, and I want to be together again. At this point, I'm not sure > what to do. I know only time will tell. I think he is afraid I won't > treat him right, and he might lose his new girlfriend if he comes back to > me. At the same time, he still wants me here for him. I don't understand > what I am to him. It's been three months now, but I am slowly moving on. I believe i'm in the "acceptance stage" where I still have feelings for him, but it doesn't make me sad anymore. I've become a happier person, but I miss him sometimes. I told him I was moving on and he got mad at me. I told him i won't let him string me along, but he says he misses me and all this stuff. He says he felt like we had a strong relationship and we were completely compatible, and he's not really compatible with his new girlfriend, but she gives him all the attention he wants, which is what I didn't do. Do you think his rebound relationship will come to an end?
thrownaway Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Accept him for who he is, or leave him and move on if you don't feel he is what you want. Don't misguide him into thinking he has a chance with you, telling him that he has to change and not be so clingy.... accept him the way he is, or reject him and move forward without him, plain and simple.
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