Billie The Puppet Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Urg my story is here Anyways since the Break up I have done 6 weeks of Limited Contact (I'd answer her contact or at least some of them) So today I misread all signals from her side limited contact and now I probably blew it all together for a chance of reconciliation. I broke my NC as I called her to ask why she has contacted me so angrily (angry is a sign of an emotion but she was still angry when I called her) I was under the belief that if she is to be indifferent it is truly over but because she still carries emotions that there may be a chance. So I kept it brief and said sorry to bother you and let her go. An hour later she MSN's me and that's where I blew it. I went into telling her all the signs she was giving me after a failed attempt on acting on those signs and what not and told her to stop contacting me just to see how I am doing or just to say Hi. I told her perhaps we can be friends in the future but now is not a good time to label things (Though I admit I was chasing because I wanted our relationship back). During our conversation there was mention of me dating other people and hearsay that she was jealous of that. She tells me she is not and is happy for me. So then I continue to ask why she insists on contacting me just to say hi or to ask how I am doing. I always reply positively (contact has only been on computer as of lately besides my one call) She can not answer this or avoids answering this. At the end of the conversation she says I'll talk to you soon. In which I get mad and say listen don't contact me just to say hi etc. Then she gets all mad and is like fine thine bye! is that what you want!??? I'm in such a mess as she is the one for me but I know I am not the one for her. Thank god there are a million other ones out in the sea ha ha. I guess I am going to have to stop looking at her facebook and MSN I can't bring myself to defriend or remove her from either though. Avoid the times she is online so she can't contact me and continue to move on in the dating world though it seems to not take effect. (Although my source from hearsay is a good one at that it's her sister) Whom I'm a good friend with. I also guess I'll have to go NC completely and avoid her attempts of contact if any in the future since today.
LoveTNT Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 DO not feel bad about telling her how you feel. Yeah, she shouldn't contact you if it's just to say hi and it hurts you. And are you kidding me, delete her from FB and sms, are you serious with that, you're torturing yourself. Man up! be strong! respect yourself! Eventually she'll understand and see that you care for yourself and you're being self aware and putting your feelings first. if she really want's you back she'll come back. I know it's easier said then done, cause I'm in the same boat. If you feel like you've done all you can, then that's it. You can't force anyone to love, care and or want to be with you. Simple as that. Be strong, stay busy love yourself, oh Gosh I sound like the people that tell me this and I look at them like, you don't understand though,.... but I do. It's not simple. It has alot to do with our self esteem too. If we don't think we're worth being loved by someone (else) and treated good etc then we'll continue to think, but he/she was the one, etc, STOP! We need to work on ourselves inside and out. Stay healthy, respect OURSELVES! don't let another persons choices control our lifes, f that! I control my life! **** their choices, I will not let it kill me. I'm worth it! ehem, haha got a bit pumped right now. Anyhow, ask for peace and understanding, the rest will follow and in a few months we'll be alot better, Looking hotter, feeling good and understanding the life lesson... PEACE*
Author Billie The Puppet Posted September 4, 2010 Author Posted September 4, 2010 Yea it's so funny how we can advise others but when it comes down to ourselves we can't follow through. What about my friendship with her sister and her sisters fiancé? Should I drop it? I don't want too to be honest because they help me in the be busy department but they can also become a gateway between us both. Although last time we hung out a week ago my ex came up in conversation only in neutral aspects as in: Oh she bought tickets to the same hockey games as you. I replied a little weird but they are our cities biggest rivals so not out of the normal. Her Sister's Fiancé prefers me, over my ex and I kinda get the same feeling from her sister which is a little weird. Also I guess we should look at it this way there are no signs or hints they want you back if they do they will come up front and tell you so there is no grey area it will be 100% clear. Like Hey Hun, I made a mistake I think we should work things out between us is more clear then what I saw as a sign: Feeling empty, Tired , Drawing a blank doesn't mean she is feeling empty from missing me, tired is something we go through naturally and drawing a blank only means her mind is not functioning at the time she wrote it because she doesn't know what she is thinking is not a clear sign - Its one I mistook.
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