Is this the first sign things are getting better?

[Confused100]

She said she still wanted to be friends. I told her I couldn't do that now, since it would be torture on myself. But I do want to be friends again in the future.

 

At first, the entire day was filled with despair... I cried a lot and felt like it'd never get better. I still feel that way at times throughout the day... I still miss her a lot. I still want to talk to her. The idea of her with anyone still makes me jealous. And on and on and on. But, I'm noticing more and more that I don't feel that deep sense of hopelessness quite as often.

 

Is this one of the first signs that I'm actually making some progress? Is it not much at all? Is it a big step? Will I start to notice other things soon?

[chocolate_boy]

She said she still wanted to be friends. I told her I couldn't do that now, since it would be torture on myself. But I do want to be friends again in the future.

 

At first, the entire day was filled with despair... I cried a lot and felt like it'd never get better. I still feel that way at times throughout the day... I still miss her a lot. I still want to talk to her. The idea of her with anyone still makes me jealous. And on and on and on. But, I'm noticing more and more that I don't feel that deep sense of hopelessness quite as often.

 

Is this one of the first signs that I'm actually making some progress? Is it not much at all? Is it a big step? Will I start to notice other things soon?

 

Sure, it gets better in time, you just think about it gradually less, in the early stages you obsess and it's all you can think about 24/7 pretty much. In time it gets easier, until you realise you went an hour/day/week without thinking of them at all.

 

You'll have good and bad days though, but be strong. I was feeling great yesterday, had a dream about her this morning and felt awful all day today, the early days are rough.

[L3stat]

Yes i agree with the above post. just do yourself a HUGE favor and dont contact her, in most cases it always always ends bad and all the emotions come back, yes im speaking from extensive experience, if/when she wants you back she will find you.