maria gostrey Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 so after disappearing on me since late march and followig up by getting himself a real life gf (we were online, long distance) i found the following message from him in my inbox yesterday. " Look ____, I know you're pissed at me, more than pissed at me, but this whole situation is starting to weigh on my conscience. We fought as we had more and more over the last few months since we had last spoken, it was clear that we had reached a turning point but there wasnt much we cold do about it, but we fought and you told me I didnt know how to treat a girl, well maybe I knew that it could be true, but still it didnt sit well with me, not well at all in fact, I had passed up alot of people and chances for you, I really did like you and care about you and once you told me that, I knew the only way to prove it wrong was to go out and prove that it wasnt true, maybe I over reacted, maybe I didnt, but I was pretty mad over that comment, and I got an opportunity and I took it. Im sorry, but I didnt think I treated you that badly, maybe I slipped up here and there but we had known each other for almost 4 years, is it not understandable to make a few mistakes in that amount of time? I writing this because I feel like we never had closure or any conversation about what happened between us and I dont think thats right and I know that it was mostly my doing you tried to contact me quite a few times, I ignored your messages and calls, I know you hate being ignored but I wasnt ready to talk to you yet, I really needed some time away to reflect upon some of the things you had said to me. It wasnt the best approach and part of me was shying away from trouble, not the best idea but I didnt think it through. Anyways I just needed to get some of this out into the open, I know I hurt you and it hasnt been a good feeling, it was never my intention and it tormented me for weeks about what to do about the situation between you and me. If this is the end than regardless I want you to know that youll always be responsible for some things and decisions in my life and Ill never forget that and that youll always hold a place in my memory. If you care to respond to this than I would welcome the chance to speak with you again as I miss the friendship we once shared, even though I probably dont deserve it, if not and this is the thing that separates us forever then tell me so, dont stoop to my level and do nothing. I admit I handled it badly and it wasnt at all the right decision. Ive been thinking a while about writing this for a while and I hope Ive remembered and said all I wanted to say. " i am still not completely recovered from this and was shocked to find this message. is this just a classic attempt at his part to throw me crumbs and get his ego stroked? how should i respond?
flyguy23 Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 I think you should wait maybe a day or so to think about if you really want to reply. It has been a long time since March and maybe you are better off not answering and moving on with your life. It doesn't sound like he is saying he wants you back so I would say ignore it but its up to you honestly.
leftfield Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 It sounds as though he is missing the friendship more than anything, I don't think there is anything clear cut in there to suggest he wants you back. If you want to consider friendship with this guy then take a bit of time to reflect on it and then let him know. But if you still have some feelings for him I would simply ignore it to protect yourself, you might just open up old wounds.
Silvaria Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 This part caught my attention: If you care to respond to this than I would welcome the chance to speak with you again as I miss the friendship we once shared, even though I probably dont deserve it, if not and this is the thing that separates us forever then tell me so, dont stoop to my level and do nothing Obviously I don't know the guy, so I don't know what he's like, but this seemed like an attempt to control you...you are perfectly within your RIGHTS to "do nothing", and you wouldn't be stooping to his level...you would be doing what is best for YOU. Please let us know what you decide, I'm going to be wondering.
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