BurriedAlive Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Well after a good week of a very dramatic relationship, MM sent me a text, yes a text, saying that he needs to be alone. Very best. I tried to talk to him over the phone as I really don't like ending things on bad terms but he wouldn't speak to me! He answered but claimed not to be alone and couldn't talk. After a few more unanswered texts I sent him a final text saying Goodbye that I was done with this. I wished him luck on figuring out his life. No response... So I deleted him out of my contacts. I actually had tried to break up with him earlier in the week but he talked me out of it. He just doesn't seem like a nice guy. He says really mean things about people and doesn't show much respect for anything. He also showed up at my house one night after he had way too much to drink. He actually drove himself over! So not only is he trying to ruin his own life, his xW, mine and his children's but he is also going to probably kill some poor innocent people on the road. Anyway, I am WAY to good for this looser and I am quite happy it is over and I can move on. Ironically, his wedding ring is at my house. The first night he came back after leaving W, he had it on and I made him take it off. He forgot it and then the next night when he was over, he told me to keep it or throw it in the garbage. I threw it in the cupboard. Anyway, I think his marriage is over and it is probably insignificant but the way this guy has been flip-flopping, it wouldn't surprise me that he try and get it back from me if he does go back to his wife. So what do you think I should do with it? Throw it out? Mail it to him (although he doesn't have an address at the current time)? This whole story is ridiculous. I can't believe I was tricked by this guy. It is almost laughable!
bohogirl Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Look after yourself. You feel relieved now but you have a roller coaster of emotions coming. Believe me. Don't do anything rash.
You Go Girl Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 It's not your ring. If he asks for it and you refuse, you are stealing. You knowingly entered into a relationship with a MM. You chose that gamble, to play the roulette table. You can't blame him, or anybody else, for your decision.
bohogirl Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 He told her she could throw the ring away! He doesn't know that she didn't. How is that stealing? Nobody chooses to be played with.
stillafool Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 I can't believe I was tricked by this guy. It is almost laughable! :DYeah, imagine how his wife feels! Definitely give him back his ring. I would mail it to him. He was drunk because he wants to go back home and probably didn't realize it until he left. I bet he's gone back. I hope she doesn't take him back. Just take care of yourself.
TigerCub Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 He said you could throw it out. If its a nice ring, take it to a pawn shop, and use the cash to buy yourself a pretty new outfit, go out with some friends and have a great time - it would be the perfect F you!!!
Author BurriedAlive Posted September 4, 2010 Author Posted September 4, 2010 It's not your ring. If he asks for it and you refuse, you are stealing. You knowingly entered into a relationship with a MM. You chose that gamble, to play the roulette table. You can't blame him, or anybody else, for your decision. Who said anything about keeping it??????? I didn't knowingly enter into a relationship with a MM. He was separated at the time and told me a pack of lies.
TigerCub Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 :DYeah, imagine how his wife feels! Definitely give him back his ring. I would mail it to him. He was drunk because he wants to go back home and probably didn't realize it until he left. I bet he's gone back. I hope she doesn't take him back. Just take care of yourself. Agreed, on that it totally sucks for his wife... But if he couldn't even be bothered to be considerate enough to say something to her goodbye text, why should she go through the trouble of giving him back a ring that he told her she could throw out? He obviously didn't care about the marriage if he was cheating on his W, and he doesn't value the symbolism of the ring if he told her she could throw it out - he's not worth the effort of returning the ring.
jennie-jennie Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Take the ring to the pawn shop. If he asks for it, give him the receipt and he can pay to get it back.
Author BurriedAlive Posted September 4, 2010 Author Posted September 4, 2010 He said you could throw it out. If its a nice ring, take it to a pawn shop, and use the cash to buy yourself a pretty new outfit, go out with some friends and have a great time - it would be the perfect F you!!! No not a nice ring... I wish it was because I really like your idea!!! I think it is a pretty good Fyou no matter what. It really makes me laugh, actually.
Author BurriedAlive Posted September 4, 2010 Author Posted September 4, 2010 Agreed, on that it totally sucks for his wife... But if he couldn't even be bothered to be considerate enough to say something to her goodbye text, why should she go through the trouble of giving him back a ring that he told her she could throw out? He obviously didn't care about the marriage if he was cheating on his W, and he doesn't value the symbolism of the ring if he told her she could throw it out - he's not worth the effort of returning the ring. TC, that is EXACTLY how I feel. He acted like such a jerk. It's amazing how bad this guy's true colors really are. I am very glad that I got to see them before I got too involved. I honestly don't think I will even answer a phone call or anything if he tries to contact me. Why would I? He couldn't extend the same courtesy to me and had to take the spineless way out.
jennie-jennie Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 He said you could throw it out. If its a nice ring, take it to a pawn shop, and use the cash to buy yourself a pretty new outfit, go out with some friends and have a great time - it would be the perfect F you!!! No not a nice ring... I wish it was because I really like your idea!!! I think it is a pretty good Fyou no matter what. It really makes me laugh, actually. I see I was not the only one who thought of that!
jj33 Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 I would send it back to his home address if you know it. Hes probably there. Send it certified mail so it doesnt get lost with a note telling him never to contact you again. If his W opens it she finds out. If hes gone she can decide what to do with it. Dont contact him otherwise.
torranceshipman Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Well after a good week of a very dramatic relationship, MM sent me a text, yes a text, saying that he needs to be alone. Very best. I tried to talk to him over the phone as I really don't like ending things on bad terms but he wouldn't speak to me! He answered but claimed not to be alone and couldn't talk. After a few more unanswered texts I sent him a final text saying Goodbye that I was done with this. I wished him luck on figuring out his life. No response... So I deleted him out of my contacts. I actually had tried to break up with him earlier in the week but he talked me out of it. He just doesn't seem like a nice guy. He says really mean things about people and doesn't show much respect for anything. He also showed up at my house one night after he had way too much to drink. He actually drove himself over! So not only is he trying to ruin his own life, his xW, mine and his children's but he is also going to probably kill some poor innocent people on the road. Anyway, I am WAY to good for this looser and I am quite happy it is over and I can move on. Ironically, his wedding ring is at my house. The first night he came back after leaving W, he had it on and I made him take it off. He forgot it and then the next night when he was over, he told me to keep it or throw it in the garbage. I threw it in the cupboard. Anyway, I think his marriage is over and it is probably insignificant but the way this guy has been flip-flopping, it wouldn't surprise me that he try and get it back from me if he does go back to his wife. So what do you think I should do with it? Throw it out? Mail it to him (although he doesn't have an address at the current time)? This whole story is ridiculous. I can't believe I was tricked by this guy. It is almost laughable! Lol this post is classic! Hey, do not feel bad. We all need one crappy ex to look back on, and I say don't just get an average crappy guy (we broke up because he was a bit boring, etc) - get a great story out of it (he actually ran himself over)...brilliant!! You sound so cool and I am sure you will be fine. And yea, I would actually go see the poor W, and give her the ring - I bet you she'd be relieved to actually have an iron cast reason to kick him to the kerb.
Confused4Now Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Don't worry you'll know what to do with the ring when you hit the angry stage...
Author BurriedAlive Posted September 4, 2010 Author Posted September 4, 2010 Lol this post is classic! Hey, do not feel bad. We all need one crappy ex to look back on, and I say don't just get an average crappy guy (we broke up because he was a bit boring, etc) - get a great story out of it (he actually ran himself over)...brilliant!! You sound so cool and I am sure you will be fine. And yea, I would actually go see the poor W, and give her the ring - I bet you she'd be relieved to actually have an iron cast reason to kick him to the kerb. Thanks TS... You made me laugh and yes I am cool! lol This story though is just something for the books... You never know, I may here about him running himself over on the news someday, ha ha. I thought about giving the ring back to W. She lives an hour away from me though. She has contacted me so I can easily text her and let her know I have it. Maybe then she can say throw it out and I will. Hmmm, what to do? what to do? I will say that both W and I are both much better off without this lunatic!
2sunny Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 I would send it back to his home address if you know it. Hes probably there. Send it certified mail so it doesnt get lost with a note telling him never to contact you again. If his W opens it she finds out. If hes gone she can decide what to do with it. Dont contact him otherwise. send it back. but no return address. just return it with no note. then you're done with him.
strawberrysprinkles Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 I suggest sending it back addressed to the wife. She should know how careless he is with it and what it represents.
TigerCub Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 TC, that is EXACTLY how I feel. He acted like such a jerk. It's amazing how bad this guy's true colors really are. I am very glad that I got to see them before I got too involved. I honestly don't think I will even answer a phone call or anything if he tries to contact me. Why would I? He couldn't extend the same courtesy to me and had to take the spineless way out. Exactly!! He's being a jerk with you and not even showing you any respect or consideration - he doesn't deserve any in return. Make a list of the crap he's put you through so that when you miss him (a little while from now), you can look to the list and remember why you're better off without him. That's what I've done with my guy (its been almost a week - but I think the list will help me). Good luck to you
TigerCub Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 No not a nice ring... I wish it was because I really like your idea!!! I think it is a pretty good Fyou no matter what. It really makes me laugh, actually. Well in THAT case, since you wont get much for it in a pawn shop. The next best thing for you to do would be to flush it down the toilet. He flushed his vows down there when he had an affair, and you're just finishing the job off by flushing down what the ring should have symbolized see....when I have my moments, I can be full of great ideas
whichwayisup Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Ironically, his wedding ring is at my house. The first night he came back after leaving W, he had it on and I made him take it off. He forgot it and then the next night when he was over, he told me to keep it or throw it in the garbage. I threw it in the cupboard. Anyway, I think his marriage is over and it is probably insignificant but the way this guy has been flip-flopping, it wouldn't surprise me that he try and get it back from me if he does go back to his wife. So what do you think I should do with it? Throw it out? Mail it to him (although he doesn't have an address at the current time)? This whole story is ridiculous. I can't believe I was tricked by this guy. It is almost laughable! Give him back the ring! Don't play games and don't lower yourself to pond scum. Not saying you are, but purposely and malicously throwing away his wedding ring is wrong. You have NO idea what the status of his marriage is, nor can you predict if it's over or not. Anyway, if the A is really over and you truly are done with him forever, GIVE him back his wedding ring. It's HIS ring and not yours to mess with. Sorry that I've come off harshly but you even considering throwing away his wedding ring really bothered me.
Fallen Angel Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 I would send it back to his home address if you know it. Hes probably there. Send it certified mail so it doesnt get lost with a note telling him never to contact you again. If his W opens it she finds out. If hes gone she can decide what to do with it. Dont contact him otherwise. The best answer on this thread. Thumbs up for jj33. Why would you throw it away or sell it? Honestly, despite the fact that he left it in your home, you know that it is not yours, as you refer to it as HIS wedding ring. Just give it back, he may throw it away, or sell it, or keep it to give to one of his children someday, or decide to feed it to the first sea gull that he crosses paths with. The point is, it is his to do with as he please, if you are grateful that he is out of your life why would you want to possibly start so much drama, which could land you in court with him as plantiff and you as defendant. Let go of the drama, send the ring back to him.
Author BurriedAlive Posted September 5, 2010 Author Posted September 5, 2010 Alright. I absolutely do NOT want to contact this guy again. Especially when it would be like, "So even if you have treated me like absolute dog crap, I didn't listen to you when you told me to throw your ring out so I want you to have it back." Like, Hello??? He has not contacted me and asked for it back. In fact, he may never contact me. So I think I will just leave the friggin' ring in the drawer where it sits. After a few months, I will likely throw it out. If he contacts me before that, I will ask him for an address to mail it to. By the way guys, I NEVER said I wouldn't give it to him if he asked for it back. At this point, I just want this toxic, poor excuse for a human being out of my life. And also, our relationship was never an A as when I was with him, he was separated. We went out in public and did normal couple things.
jj33 Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Alright. I absolutely do NOT want to contact this guy again. He has not contacted me and asked for it back. In fact, he may never contact me. So I think I will just leave the friggin' ring in the drawer where it sits. After a few months, I will likely throw it out. If he contacts me before that, I will ask him for an address to mail it to. By the way guys, I NEVER said I wouldn't give it to him if he asked for it back. At this point, I just want this toxic, poor excuse for a human being out of my life. Buried I understand how hurt you must be and how angry. But if you really mean the last sentence send the ring back. Then he is out. Keeping the ring in your drawer means you are waiting for contact. You may say no it doesnt but subconsciously it does. Otherwise why wouldnt you dispose of it now.
Author BurriedAlive Posted September 5, 2010 Author Posted September 5, 2010 Buried I understand how hurt you must be and how angry. But if you really mean the last sentence send the ring back. Then he is out. Keeping the ring in your drawer means you are waiting for contact. You may say no it doesnt but subconsciously it does. Otherwise why wouldnt you dispose of it now. Because I don't have an address!!! I just searched the internet trying to find his home address and it isn't listed. So unless I contact him (not a chance) or his xW, then I am SOL. His home is over an hour away from where I live in another town.
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