dro Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 (edited) Long story short, we talk with each other but only online. I call her, but she doesn't pick up or return my calls. Whenever I try to set up a time for us to hang out, she comes up with an excuse. What does this mean? Our relationship? We had the type of relationship as in the movie 500 days of summer. We did the whole "not in a relationship thing" but acted as though we were a couple. We were super close, I'm saying "I trust you with my life and all my deep secrets" close. We were "together" for around 5 months. Then we stopped because of who knows what reasons. Now? She doesn't seem to care that she hurts me. Edited September 4, 2010 by dro
Darren Steez Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Pretty self explanatory isn't it, stop with the lovey dovey stuff, if she wanted anything she would talk to you, not avoid your calls and not call back. Maybe you should move on and find someone real.
hopesndreams Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Long story short, we talk with each other but only online. I call her, but she doesn't pick up or return my calls. Whenever I try to set up a time for us to hang out, she comes up with an excuse. What does this mean? Cut off all online contact, completely, immediately. No facebook, no messenger and no emails. She needs to miss you, wonder about you and be curious what you're up to. As it stands now, she knows where you are and that you are still pining for her. It's a lovely ego boost for some people. She comes up with excuses because she's a coward and won't tell you the real reason she is no longer interested.
Billie The Puppet Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 I am in the exact same boat right now only online about once a week. She always contacts me first I never initiate. I also do not answer all her contacts and she always replies: "Fine I see how it is, have a good day". Lately when I actually answer her IMs it seems to always be negative towards me and I ask her to call so I can actually tell if the emotions are real or not and she said she would and hasn't. She is the one that got away from me and so far everyone is telling me that a second (or third in my case) never work out. The first was only a break issue the second most recent was a full fledged break up and it was due to my actions (I got insecure and accused her of cheating). I am doing no contact which is more like limited contact as I will answer her sometimes as I am waiting for her to come out and say lets give this another chance yet at the same time I am not putting my life on hold if I manage to get dates I go on them and if I find someone else while we are both still single so be it. I have a date scheduled to a sporting event which my ex decided she would also by tickets too. She has told me if it's meant to be we will be, maybe in the future I love you but I need to be independent I just need to think what I really want in life Then she goes on to tell me she still wants to get married and have kids (we were talking about engagement and went window shopping for rings just before we split) I love you but I am not sure if I am in love with you Basically she has told me without directly telling me she wants to play the field and see what else is out there or has gotten cold feet because it was coming. If anything came out of my relationship with my ex is I made new friends I didn't have before I am friends with her sister and sisters Fiancé and I don't care how it effects my ex thought it is possibly damaging to my wish to get back with her and make it work.
L3stat Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 Do you know how the movie ends? Met a better looking girl, so guess what im going to tell you? Move on and ignore her, the dumper never really cares how they hurt you, thats a fact they are just doing whats best for them, pursuing this will olny lead to your downfall i would cut all attachments while you still got some dignity:mad:
NJL Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 I would stop the calling and stuff. I think she is feeding off the fact that you are trying hard to meet with her. If you want to talk online, keep it laid back and act like you are doing great. She is going to start wondering why you arent calling her asking her to do things and her messages may start to change. The more strong you appear, the more she may start to gravitate toward you.
Author dro Posted September 6, 2010 Author Posted September 6, 2010 Low to little contact is best? Yes, I know how the movie ends lol. Maybe that will be my case too
Billie The Puppet Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 I can tell you why only online, after breaking No Contact and phoning my ex (big mistake) I asked her about the angry tone in her initiated online (Facebook or MSN) To which I quickly found out she was still angered on the phone but often text online can be mistaken for sarcasm and you can't get the real emotions out of them. I am confused why she is angry when I choose not to contact her but every-time I ignore her it makes her flustered and I am the dumpee. She assured me she just wants to find herself , be single blah blah blah and that our relationship has run its course so I have to face the fact we are over still hard but it is true. She has even hinted by telling me I should move out of town if it makes me happy etc. I just don't get why the Ex wants to talk in terms of a general Hi , how are you doing every once in awhile. Does it feed her ego knowing I haven't gotten over her? I am now going to avoid the times she is online so she will be forced to either email me , text or better yet phone. Neither of which I think is going to happen now that we had a huge argument over an online chat. Like I have said I misread many signals and made a move to reconcile that backfired. If the ex wants you back they will tell you point blank there is no such thing as signals.
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