colliejoanie Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Father of my child.....previously abusive, and completly irresponsible, immature, blah blah blah......I'm 34, he's 38.....he has two kids from a previous marriage...that he hardly ever has anything to do with.....he beat the crap out of me three years ago... I left...then i found out I was pregnant.....went back....I left him for the final time six months ago....I LEFT HIM! Why does it kill me to know he's living with someone else.....I know I don't want him. I know I will find someone who is a good person to me and my baby girl.......but why do I dream of making sure my ex knows I'm happy?
bestrong Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Father of my child.....previously abusive, and completly irresponsible, immature, blah blah blah......I'm 34, he's 38.....he has two kids from a previous marriage...that he hardly ever has anything to do with.....he beat the crap out of me three years ago... I left...then i found out I was pregnant.....went back....I left him for the final time six months ago....I LEFT HIM! Why does it kill me to know he's living with someone else.....I know I don't want him. I know I will find someone who is a good person to me and my baby girl.......but why do I dream of making sure my ex knows I'm happy? I guess subconsciously you want him to know your life is so great after what he had brought you through and you deserve a loving man who's so much better that he is. And since you haven't met the man yet, seeing him living with someone else is like "why does he have someone when he doesn't deserve it. What about me?" Be proud of yourself that you had the courage to leave him and have a fresh start with your baby girl. The right guy will come along!!
Div Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 I would feel sorry for the person he's dating! An abusive partner doesn't just change overnight. He'll treat her the exact same way in time. Be glad you're out of that one!
bonpaw2008 Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Father of my child.....previously abusive, and completly irresponsible, immature, blah blah blah......I'm 34, he's 38.....he has two kids from a previous marriage...that he hardly ever has anything to do with.....he beat the crap out of me three years ago... I left...then i found out I was pregnant.....went back....I left him for the final time six months ago....I LEFT HIM! Why does it kill me to know he's living with someone else.....I know I don't want him. I know I will find someone who is a good person to me and my baby girl.......but why do I dream of making sure my ex knows I'm happy? Hey you did the right thing and should be very proud of yourself. You are addicted to this person, so even if you know that you did the right thing, you still want him to give a ***** and care and change and love you. Just start concentrating on making yourself and your daughter happy, stop worrying about his thoughts and feelings, you will make it through.
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