TomerT Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Hi guys/girls, My gf break up with me 25 days ago, we talked once since then. After that she tried to reach me 3-4 times but I was "busy" and we never actually talked. I really miss her and can not stop thinking about her. I don't know what is going on in her life (I assume/hope that she also misses me, but also possible that she back with her X). I want to send her SMS and say that I miss her. I afraid she may think that I over her and therefore also move on. I want to let her know that she still important to me. Should I do it ? I think it can not be worth already. If she wants to come back - it will open her a door and if she doesn't, it really doesn't matter. Your opinion much appriciatred
skydiveaddict Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Hi guys/girls, Should I do it ? I think it can not be worth already. If she wants to come back - it will open her a door and if she doesn't, it really doesn't matter. Your opinion much appriciatred No dont do it. leave her completely alone
Author TomerT Posted September 4, 2010 Author Posted September 4, 2010 can you please explain me your point
skydiveaddict Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 (edited) can you please explain me your point You seem hell bent on contacting this girl.. So if you want to be her friend, and are happy with being second best, I guess that's you choice, But I don't envy you the outcome. Let us know what happens But if that's what you're gonna do, get ready for some REALLY serious heartache Edited September 4, 2010 by skydiveaddict
Author TomerT Posted September 4, 2010 Author Posted September 4, 2010 why are you so pessimistic ? What is wrong to do the first step ?
ShannonMI Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 why are you so pessimistic ? What is wrong to do the first step ? Just don't do it. If this girl wants to contact you, she will. A lot of us are pessimistic because we've had our hearts ripped out of our chests and we know how dangerous contacting an ex is. It will only hurt you in the long run. Please believe us.
Author TomerT Posted September 4, 2010 Author Posted September 4, 2010 me 3-4 times, but I was "busy" (if you know what I mean)... I didn't ignore her and texted her back and even tried to call her back - she didn't answer...After few days shte called me again, but I was really busy this time.. Anyway fro 23 days we already didn't talk. I just "afraid" she may think that I already over her, give up and move on based on wrong assumptions. I thouught just to let her know (somehow) that she still important for me. I think it will be ashame, that because of misscommunication or missunderstanding this relationship will "die'.
ShannonMI Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 me 3-4 times, but I was "busy" (if you know what I mean)... I didn't ignore her and texted her back and even tried to call her back - she didn't answer...After few days shte called me again, but I was really busy this time.. Anyway fro 23 days we already didn't talk. I just "afraid" she may think that I already over her, give up and move on based on wrong assumptions. I thouught just to let her know (somehow) that she still important for me. I think it will be ashame, that because of misscommunication or missunderstanding this relationship will "die'. Since you are so adamant about getting in touch with her, I guess contact her and see what happens. Don't start out by saying how much you still care for her. Just ask how she is and what she's been up to. We warned you, though. You most likely won't like what she has to say.
Billie The Puppet Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Don't having just done that like an hour ago it failed extremely. If she has it for you she will tell you straight out don't look for signs or act on anything you think may be a sign because I assure you chances are it is not. I just did this and now I am back to square one.
Billie The Puppet Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Thanks for the welcome although I'd prefer to be back where I was a year ago before things in my relationship got sour at least I can learn from this and it can become the life lesson. This is actually the first time a relationship has ended where I was the dumpee and she is my first real love so obviously I'm not taking it the easiest. (It's my first real adult relationship I mean past the High School College years etc back then I was the heart breaker) I am 25 and she is 26. - Today was a day it hit hard where I am sure reconciliation is at 0 %. I asked her not to contact me just to be nice or just to say hi and mentioned perhaps we can be friends in the future but now is not the time yet I want to remain friends with her Sister and Her Sister's Fiancé I have two threads going with my story: -Break and Breakup within a month period -6 weeks Limited Contact having to start over w/ NC
Author TomerT Posted September 5, 2010 Author Posted September 5, 2010 I will wait with my idea to give her any clues about how I feel. Especially that both of us abroad now (different countries) and will be back in 2 weeks. So probably there is nothing "efficient" can be done now. Also, I remember one day we have a big fight (about nothing), I left my home and told her not to come and we will talk about it tomorrow. She rang me like 10 times and eventually came to my place and waited me on the street in the middle of the night. My point is - that if she really want something she find way to do it. I suppose if she wanted us back, she would find a way to let me know (even if I ignored her, which I not). What I did - I wrote her a letter and told her that the break up OK with me, I agree it will for the best for both of us and I am moving on. I hoped, may be "fear of loss" will "wake her"...But on the other hand it can also run her away from me... Thanks anyway, I think I will wait until we come back and then will see. BTW, it also possible that she will ask me to pick her up from airport....Still don't know what to do in this case..
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