gypsy_nicky Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 gypsy follows PUA crap it seems. That stuff is all over the place. basicly its guys over anylyzing and over complicating every day romantic things with complicated code words and detailed examples and motivational teqniques in order to make MONEY. I'm giving you this advicise for free and the satisfaction and entertainment of having it work out for you. Look you know as well as I do that if you could just follow my advice you'd be set. My advice is basicly be YOURSELF the version of yourself that goes after the things in life you want (including girls) and doesn't care about what happens just lives life as an enjoyable journey. YOU FILL THE BLANKS but basicly 1) Aproach and flirt girls you find attractive (my guess you see atleast 20 girls a week who are attractive) 2) ASK THEM OUT (don't just walk away after flirting ask them out) 3) KISS THEM ON THE DATE (don't let the date end with just a friendly conversation be romantic KISS don't ask just kiss) Good luck, ASK THAT GIRL OUT... you have nothing to lose and it shouldn't effect your self esteem if she says no. Seriously its shouldn't effect your self esteem if this girl yells "NO YOUR A SMELLY UGLY LOSER" ... that should just be funny in a ridiculous sort of way. Most likely she'll say yes... thats what you should believe anyways. USE YOUR HORNYESS AS A TOOL to create confidence and motivate you to be BOLD ... don't jack off or look at porn... build ur hornyness and use it. DUmp that sperm in a woman it seems but I don't. Whatever man. I told the OP to look into IOI's not full out PUA stuff. If the OP has no social skills whatsoever with women then this is the most basic things many well socialized dudes know who have experience dating. The PUA just rehashed it. Your 2nd thing about 'going all out and chasing what you want' will land the OP with more esteem issues. For one thing cold approaching and the numbers game does not work (and you say I follow PUA material), you need a certain degree of familiarity before asking a woman out. Your 3rd thing about assuming the girl will say yes, is a tired cliche of PUA material of assuming the sale. Assuming something won't make it more likely to happen. So who's really following PUA material....
gypsy_nicky Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 1> I think I'll try to flirt with her a little bit first. But I'll probably ask her next week. 2> I'd actually prefer to do the friends first thing, but it just doesn't work. Time and time again girls have seen me as their brother. When I eventually try to make a move or tell them that I like them, they get freaked out. It's a delicate balance on how friendly I should be. 3> Okay, so how do I pursue her, without asking her out? 4> Eh...I automatically think that no girls are interested in me. I'm also very bad a reading a girls signals unless she was very obvious. So what I do now is If a girl seems to enjoy talking to me, then I ask her out. I don't bother trying to gauge her interest, because I'll usually never ask her out. 5> I really wish I could stop caring. But it's something I just can't do right now. A starving man will only stop thinking about food, after he's eaten. 1. since you know how to flirt, just do that then until you get a real sign of interest from her. If your sure she's interested, hang out just you 2 alone then put those moves on her. 2. see no. 1 3. see no. 1 4. see no. 1 and look out for IOI's (indicators of interest). Again if its ambiguous err on the not interested. You can always post it here for the LS members to analyze when your with her. I think most here know what dating is about and what to look out for in terms of interest. 5. and this is why you shouldn't treat this as something of least interest but you should make it appear you are least interested i.e see no. 1. That way, the girl does not reject you and your esteem won't plummet.
Green Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 it seems but I don't. Whatever man. I told the OP to look into IOI's not full out PUA stuff. If the OP has no social skills whatsoever with women then this is the most basic things many well socialized dudes know who have experience dating. The PUA just rehashed it. Your 2nd thing about 'going all out and chasing what you want' will land the OP with more esteem issues. For one thing cold approaching and the numbers game does not work (and you say I follow PUA material), you need a certain degree of familiarity before asking a woman out. Your 3rd thing about assuming the girl will say yes, is a tired cliche of PUA material of assuming the sale. Assuming something won't make it more likely to happen. So who's really following PUA material.... PUA material is just CODE WORDS and PHILOSPHIES that already exist stretched out to fill up space and time for the purpose of MAKING MONEY and ENTERTAINING. I really can't help but say stuff that is in the PUA community because they cover the basics and give it funny little nerd code words like IOI. Seriously though I used to do horible with women for a very long time, not as long as the OP since he is older then me but basicaly all of HS and college I was afraid of women. For years now I have been comfortable dating women. I by no means want any one to believe that I can walk up to any women and just make her my gf... But what I have learned to do is STOP CARING about whether or not a women rejects me. That alone is the key IMO. I also believe in BEING YOURSELF the version of yourself with out FEAR or REGRET. Living in the here and now. I currently have a gf who I have been dating for almost two years. I would have never met her or dated her if I had waited for a signal that she was into me... She didn't even know I existed until I walked up introduced myself and asked her out. She actualy ended up turning me down the first time I asked her out. She basicly flaked out on me. Later on she told me she had been nervouse about going to the party I had invited her to. But I didn't give up and I asked her out again and the rest is history. So my advice to the OP is if he wants this girl (and he does) then he should go for it! I'm just trying to motivate him to live life with our fear and be himself and go for the things in life he wants which includes women.
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