Melissa2332 Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 I'm a bit lost and thoughts just keep running my mind about my ex. I need some advice please! Here's my situation: I was with my ex boyfriend for about a year and a half. I felt like I had this amazing connection with him and I fell in love with him. He had qualities that I have always looked for in a guy and we had great chemistry. The very first time we "officially broke it off" was about 4 months ago. He broke it off with me because he needed "space" and I wasn't "understanding". I asked him if he needed space to meet other girls (I am his first GF and he's 22, I'm 21). Well, it turns out that a week and half after our break up he was already going on a date with a girl that his brother's girlfriend (which I knew) set him up. To top it off that girl is really good friends with someone that is close to me. Of course it hurt me to know that he was moving on so quickly when he clearly stated that he didn't need space "to meet other girls". I'm not saying it's not ok for him to move on, but so soon?? Anyhow, I kept hearing that they "were talking" and my heart was completely broken. 2 months later, we are at the same bar, he happened to text me " I still care about you, can we be cool?" I didn't respond, until his friend came up to me. Anyhow, we began to "talk" again. We were seeing each other, but in the back of my mind I just couldn't trust him. I was a bit insecure and jealous through the 3 months we stayed together. We would break it off and get back together. I asked him if he dated that girl and he said that it was nothing. That he only went on "2 dates" and that he never talked bad about me. So he broke it off with me about 2 weeks ago and we both agreed that the relationship just wasn't working. He blamed it on my trust issues, and he never thought that anything he did was wrong, he never apologized, he was always right. Anyhow, we ended fine. But 2 days later I get a call from my close friend saying that he heard from the girl my ex used"talked to" . He basically said that my ex told her some pretty mean things about me. She found out somehow that we were talking again. Which no one knew only my family. Maybe my ex's brother's girlfriend told her. I don't know, but I confronted him about it and I definitely wasn't nice. I was really hurt and he just said believe what you want. He said he doesn't know how she found out. The last thing we said was goodbye for good. The next day he proceeded by not only deleting/blocking me off his facebook but also my sister and some family members. I know we didn't end it in good terms but I just don't understand why he would go to those lengths as if I was the bad person. Thanks for taking the time in reading this. I just don't know what to think, because I still want to be at least "cool" with him. I have not contacted him :(since. But I can't seem to stop thinking about him and why he did that. Please help!
Lost Fish Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 I'll keep my answer short. Why do you want to "be cool" with someone who hurt you like this? You really need to just go completely no contact. Go 60 days and then see how you feel about talking to him.
Author Melissa2332 Posted September 3, 2010 Author Posted September 3, 2010 I guess I want to be "cool" with him because I still care about him and at first we did end the relationship fine, but when I received the phone call about him talking bad about me I blew up on him. I know that part of the break up was my fault. But at the same time, I feel like he never recognized what he did. I guess all I can do now is move on, but it's so hard to do!
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