New Again Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Ok, I'm curious, so I'll ask again (because no one reacted when I first asked). If you think that after 2 years, this is rushing, then after how long would you consider the timing right? I'm genuinely curious. I stopped reading after this post, so I'm sorry if this was already touched on. I think it's a little odd that after 2 years of dating you only see your bf once, maybe twice a week during 9 months (ish) of the year. I would consider trying to see each a little more often for an extended period of time (a year?) before moving in together, unless the only way you can spend that kind of time together is living together, in which case that's probably how I would frame the conversation when I brought it up - as others said, just be straightforward about it and see how he feels about it.
Author prettybaby Posted September 6, 2010 Author Posted September 6, 2010 I addressed this point on page 3. We're very busy people. He works two jobs, plays in a band, babysits for his brother. While I work more than full time too and take care of my parents who have both been in & out the hospital for well over a year now, all while trying to keep in touch with my friends. So yeah, we only live 15 minutes away, but often times, it's simply not possible for us to see each other more than once or twice a week. When he's on Summer break though, we see each other almost daily / every other day. And yeah, we probably won't be able to see each other more than that unless we do move in together. Anyway, in case this has been overlooked, I posted an update from this weekend at the end of page 5
elaina Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 I think you should just ask him. Or, you could indirectly bring the subject up, like when ya'll are hanging out you could bring him something to drink (many men love that) and say (jokingly or seriously), "If I was living with you, I could get something for you all the time!" or "If I was living with you, I could give you massages more often" or something like that He might start thinking, hey! That's a good idea! Even though I believe moving in comes along with marriage, what matters is what both you and he think and maybe you could bring the topic of living together up and see what he thinks? Like also, if you have friends who moved in together, you could tell him and ask his opinion on the idea.
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