km842002 Posted February 20, 2004 Share Posted February 20, 2004 So just kinda got out of a long relationship I think. The guy I've been dating basically went MIA almost two weeks ago, but he's in the military and could easily be off somewhere unable to use a phone. Whatever I'm a tough cookie either way and am ready to move on. Well before I officially started dating my last boyfriend I had this kinda friends with benifits thing going on with this guy from a school nearby. Long story short we would hookup he would get irritated with something then act like a kinda jerk because he didn't want to date me but didn't like me hangout w=out with other guys. this happened a couple of different times. Soooooooo....3 months later I see him last week at his frat, which is a place I hangout at anyway cause I know a bunch of the guys and like to hangout and tlak to them I kinda pay no attention to him and he comes over and inquires why I didn't come say hey to him. I say hey give him a hug then go back to my business. Last night.... came over again and asked why I did say hey...so of course i said there was no big reason i was just busy with my friends so I say hey and he proceeds to keep talking to me. When he finds out I'll be staying in the area for summer he talks about how we should hangout and I should try to live at the frat with him cause it'd be totally cool and bla bla bla. During this talk he also tries to get me to go up to his room with him. HA...my mind flashes back to last semester when he was all moody and I decline. And so we talk/he tried to coax me into leavign with him for the rest of the night. Somehow I was string and resisted his urges. He still left me way confused though. I just don't understand how a guy can go from being irritated at someone to wanting them to back to irritation and black...it happened like clockwork last semester and just drives me nuts! should i even bother with him at all or should i stear clear of the male drama queen? Link to post Share on other sites
Regulus Posted February 22, 2004 Share Posted February 22, 2004 Hence the problem with most friend/benefit relationships. Things become confused, roles are blurred, and one side eventually wants more... You need to figure out what you want out of this thing and confront him about it. His irritability could stem from three things. 1) He's in it for the physical aspect and chooses to treat you in that manner because your nothing more than a fling to him. 2) He wants a relationship but is afraid it might disrupt the status-quo, so instead of making a move (an emotional one), he continues to become frustrated about the situation. 3) That's his personality and only you can choose whether to put up with it or not... I for one would not, especially with all the opportunities available on a college campus. Communication is key... Link to post Share on other sites
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