wildfire7698 Posted February 20, 2004 Share Posted February 20, 2004 Hey you all.... I have a question...How can you tell a guy how you are feeling without freaking him out? I sent my guy an email today, things have been kinda rocky, well really just up in the air, when we are together its great, but thats the thing....we rarely see eachother b/c of his job and my university schedule. I feel that lately I have been putting way more effort into the relationship than he has. Now, he does work 5 to 6 days a week (11 hour shifts)...so I know by common sense that he simply doesn't feel like seeing me thru out all of his free time. But I do expect some of it. I came to his country at first for school....but I chose to come back after xmas break for him. I chose to continue making a change in my life based on a "leap of faith" I had for him. I REALLY care for this man, and I think we could have something good together. However, in his last relationship of 3 yrs he was cheated on, so I think he has issues from that. I feel like I have to tip toe around him with what I say. Well to make a long story short, I am tired of questioning where this relationship is going, wondering about how he really feels, etc....I feel like since I am continuing to make such a big change in my life for him, I have a right to know. I am hoping that by reading the email he will be able to handle it like an adult and not do the standard "guy" freak out. I told him how I felt and the sacrafices I made for him. What do you all think, did I do the right thing??? Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted February 20, 2004 Share Posted February 20, 2004 Ah, who knows? They say we are complicated, but they are worse, if you ask me. They'll run like rabbits if you care about them, fearing that you want 'too much' but they'll take a hike if they think you don't care enough. Short of having an advanced degree in mind-reading, treat a relationship with a man like a trip to Vegas. Try to weigh the odds and then go in expecting that there's a 50-50 chance you'll fail no matter what you do. Link to post Share on other sites
lostgirl Posted February 21, 2004 Share Posted February 21, 2004 that is so true moimeme, i am in a sort of similar situation, the more casual i act towards him the more casual he acts towards me, it is like a contest! it is also driving me nuts. yet, i have a friend who treats her men like crap and they can't get enuff of her! i think it depends on the guy. there are nice guys out there who are not afraid to express their feelings or *blasphemy* commit. i hope Link to post Share on other sites
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