9Lives Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 Someone on here said something really great Live thru it. Write that down. Live thru the tears, the hurt, the pain, the disappointment, the zombie moments....all of that sht that we are going thru...live thru it It is gonna get better if we push our way thru. I am the last one to lecture anyone cause Im not doing really good but better than I use to do before I came to LS. Learned better how to deal with this type of situation. Lord know what I would have done if it wasnt for this site. I have written LIVE THRU IT on a note pad and everytime those stupid stupid stupid thoughts and bull gets in my head, I look at that and know that this **** is going to end. It has a time limit and Im gonna be happy again. I hate this all. I hate my ex leaving me so much. I still dont understand. I still feel bad about him doing this. but I got to get this out of my life cause I have to.
ShannonMI Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 Someone on here said something really great Live thru it. Write that down. Live thru the tears, the hurt, the pain, the disappointment, the zombie moments....all of that sht that we are going thru...live thru it It is gonna get better if we push our way thru. I am the last one to lecture anyone cause Im not doing really good but better than I use to do before I came to LS. Learned better how to deal with this type of situation. Lord know what I would have done if it wasnt for this site. I have written LIVE THRU IT on a note pad and everytime those stupid stupid stupid thoughts and bull gets in my head, I look at that and know that this **** is going to end. It has a time limit and Im gonna be happy again. I hate this all. I hate my ex leaving me so much. I still dont understand. I still feel bad about him doing this. but I got to get this out of my life cause I have to. Writing LIVE THRU IT down is a great idea. I'm still obsessing everyday about my ex and still feel so much pain. I just want it to stop. I want to LIVE THRU IT and I know I will, but I wish it would happen SOON!! It's been almost 4 months and I still feel so much anguish. When will it end? We were together 8 years. A great relationship by all accounts. He suddenly broke up with me and I just recently found out he cheated a week before we actually broke up. So getting over the pain isn't going to happen anytime soon. I'm dealing with the pain of losing someone I loved, my best friend, my rock and to top it all off someone that betrayed me(which I never in a million years thought he would do). It's so difficult right now. Is there a light at the end of the tunnel? God, I hope so.
LostInTurn Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 (edited) I'm glad I could help. A friend of mine was dealing with a breakup and she felt lost for months. One day I told her that she will live through it and he will live with it. That night, she changed her number and blocked his emails. She's been fine ever since. You will make it through. You will live through this. They will live with it. Edited September 3, 2010 by LostInTurn
skydiveaddict Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 I'm glad I could help. A friend of mine was dealing with a breakup and she felt lost for months. One day I told her that she will live through it and he will live with it. That night, she changed her number and blocked his emails. She's been fine ever since. You will make it through. You will live through this. They will live with it. It's great advice, and I am trying to do that, but sometimes there are other factors that make it more difficult than that
ColdFox Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 It's all you can do. Keep breathing, keep getting up every day, keep putting one foot in front of the other.
Author 9Lives Posted September 3, 2010 Author Posted September 3, 2010 Writing LIVE THRU IT down is a great idea. I'm still obsessing everyday about my ex and still feel so much pain. I just want it to stop. I want to LIVE THRU IT and I know I will, but I wish it would happen SOON!! It's been almost 4 months and I still feel so much anguish. When will it end? We were together 8 years. A great relationship by all accounts. He suddenly broke up with me and I just recently found out he cheated a week before we actually broke up. So getting over the pain isn't going to happen anytime soon. I'm dealing with the pain of losing someone I loved, my best friend, my rock and to top it all off someone that betrayed me(which I never in a million years thought he would do). It's so difficult right now. Is there a light at the end of the tunnel? God, I hope so. shannon my heart goes out to you big time. when u don't see it coming I think it is ten times worst. plus you had a lot of years together. I had a lont term rel but its been hard for a long time. you can't expect to be your old self for a while but you have a lot of fighting to do if this wasn't your choice. I would really write it down and post it everywhere. for me mornings are the worst. this mornin was absolutely horrible!!! I had a whole movie going on before I could even realize I was really up. a lot going on. I'm going to put this note by my bed and I'm going to remind myself to...live THRU it. I'm a survivor period. all this pain is unfortunate. I'm not happy about the break up but I got to keep it moving. I got to get my swagger back. I got to have a smile on my face again. I still canr believe that I gave him so much of my love, myself, tried so hard to make it work...came up empty. I have to deal with it. I hate it. he seems to be fine so....(sigh)
Nappeal Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 When I was going thru my divorce, I had written in bold marker a whole reminder on my journal of why I shouldn't let the situation get me down. I only wrote in my journal when I was hurt or pissed, so I had no choice but to read that reminder, and it actually helped. Also, I had heard the saying @ my lowest point 'no matter what, still I stand', and it hit me like nothing else. To know, that no matter what bad could happen in my life, whether it be lost love, overwhelming bills...what have you, I'm still here and I'm still alive. That mantra meant so much to me that I even got 'still I stand' tattooed on my chest as a constant reminder. You now, I've written in that journal since the breakup...3 years ago. Besides having somewhere to unleash my emotions, I liked to write in it w the idea that I could look back and laugh. You NEVER feel like laughing when you're writing out what's going on, but you know, all these years later, I will ocassionally look @ my first few posts, and I do want to laugh because to me now it seems so ridiculous that I felt or thought the way I did @ the moment. In 3 years time, you can see the transformation...my writings were all obsessed w my X...then the first guy I had feelings for after him...then my current X. Writing out how you're feeling as you're going thru the motions is a great way to let off steam, and for anyone who even likes to write, I'd soo encourage it.
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