9Lives Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 I poured so much of my heart into this relationship
leftfield Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 I know how you feel 9lives, I've been feeling a bit like that today. It's frustrating that the time you spent with that person now seems somehow wasted. All that energy, wasted, all that emotion wasted. It's all come to nothing. Love is very deeply invested in a relationship, and it sucks balls when it doesn't work out. We're left with heartache and an empty feeling that seems to be impossible to fill with anything else. I've been really trying to be determined and strong about this, but I have to admit, today has been one of those days. It has weighed very heavy on me, and you too by the sound of it. Hang in there, I'll be the one hanging next to you.
Author 9Lives Posted September 2, 2010 Author Posted September 2, 2010 i didnt even know this post went up cause my computer was acting up. But yeah, I did put so much into this relationship and he just gone like that. I feel like I have been thrown away like trash. I did alot to try to make him happy and be there for him when he was having hard times and he still left. It wasnt easy. I just struggle with that part alot. It just doesnt seem fair. But I guess I have to just move on.
LostInTurn Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 I've been trying not to think of 'moving on' as a bad thing. I've been telling myself I now have the opportunity to do anything I want without having to worry about someone else. For example: travel, change jobs, sleep, not have to worry about making dinner at a certain time. I'm trying to see the good in this. We all should.
BeagleGal Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 I hear ya, girl, and even now after 5 months and a half of being split from my ex, I still have trouble dealing with how disposable I was too him and easily replaced. I have never invested so much of myself into a relationship and another person and all I got was a slap in the face. Its very hard to swallow. Especially when you thought that person was 100% in it as you were only to realize it was bullsh*t for who knows how long. Like you, I believe I did my part to make him happy but that wasn't enough. So I understand the struggle you are having being discarded like trash after being putting effort into him and the relationship. F*ck. I'm not having a good day today. i didnt even know this post went up cause my computer was acting up. But yeah, I did put so much into this relationship and he just gone like that. I feel like I have been thrown away like trash. I did alot to try to make him happy and be there for him when he was having hard times and he still left. It wasnt easy. I just struggle with that part alot. It just doesnt seem fair. But I guess I have to just move on.
BeagleGal Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 Same. Trying to see the positives of this hellish experience. Telling myself that this happened for the best because he wasn't capable of giving me the love and respect I deserve. So you're right, we should try not to think of moving on as a bad thing. Its though, isn't it? I've been trying not to think of 'moving on' as a bad thing. I've been telling myself I now have the opportunity to do anything I want without having to worry about someone else. For example: travel, change jobs, sleep, not have to worry about making dinner at a certain time. I'm trying to see the good in this. We all should.
Author 9Lives Posted September 2, 2010 Author Posted September 2, 2010 I hear ya, girl, and even now after 5 months and a half of being split from my ex, I still have trouble dealing with how disposable I was too him and easily replaced. I have never invested so much of myself into a relationship and another person and all I got was a slap in the face. Its very hard to swallow. Especially when you thought that person was 100% in it as you were only to realize it was bullsh*t for who knows how long. Like you, I believe I did my part to make him happy but that wasn't enough. So I understand the struggle you are having being discarded like trash after being putting effort into him and the relationship. F*ck. I'm not having a good day today. Beagle this is exactly how I feel. It nags at me alot. But what can you do but go on with your life. Im not having a bad day but boy did I have a rough morning. I just dont get it for real. I dont get it.
BeagleGal Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 Its true, you can't do much but move on. Otherwise, you'll just be stuck and that is not a good place to be. And why should we stay stuck for their sorry asses? Part of me does get it, I think my ex is one seriously damaged individual. He's all about him and what benefits him. I served a purpose in his life for a while and when he no longer had use for me, out I went. Now he's with someone who has money, which is what he really wants. So... he's sick. We're better off, girl, keep telling yourself that. Beagle this is exactly how I feel. It nags at me alot. But what can you do but go on with your life. Im not having a bad day but boy did I have a rough morning. I just dont get it for real. I dont get it.
Author 9Lives Posted September 2, 2010 Author Posted September 2, 2010 Its true, you can't do much but move on. Otherwise, you'll just be stuck and that is not a good place to be. And why should we stay stuck for their sorry asses? Part of me does get it, I think my ex is one seriously damaged individual. He's all about him and what benefits him. I served a purpose in his life for a while and when he no longer had use for me, out I went. Now he's with someone who has money, which is what he really wants. So... he's sick. We're better off, girl, keep telling yourself that. Yeah my ex is with someone else too. She is not a come up for him but that is his choice. He said when we had hard times that I didnt handle them well and he lost the love. Yeah he stressed me the hell out! I know Im better off. I have no desire to call him or anything like that. I just cant believe he can just walk way. Even the day he left I gave him two shirts I got him from NY. I was so good to him and I loved him with all my heart. It hurts. But im not gonna try to work it out or get back to him. Its done. I just cant seem to wrap my head around it for some reason. Im struggling with it.
BeagleGal Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 My ex married the girl he cheated on me with so.... My ex had no excuse for leaving or "losing the love". He just needed to find someone to use to elevate himself financially (his own friend's words, not mine) and found her and now is married to her. But yeah, it does hurt. Sometimes I think to myself "this is my life? I actually went through this bullsh*t??" When its done, its done... especially when they've moved on to someone else. Yeah my ex is with someone else too. She is not a come up for him but that is his choice. He said when we had hard times that I didnt handle them well and he lost the love. Yeah he stressed me the hell out! I know Im better off. I have no desire to call him or anything like that. I just cant believe he can just walk way. Even the day he left I gave him two shirts I got him from NY. I was so good to him and I loved him with all my heart. It hurts. But im not gonna try to work it out or get back to him. Its done. I just cant seem to wrap my head around it for some reason. Im struggling with it.
Author 9Lives Posted September 2, 2010 Author Posted September 2, 2010 My ex married the girl he cheated on me with so.... My ex had no excuse for leaving or "losing the love". He just needed to find someone to use to elevate himself financially (his own friend's words, not mine) and found her and now is married to her. But yeah, it does hurt. Sometimes I think to myself "this is my life? I actually went through this bullsh*t??" When its done, its done... especially when they've moved on to someone else. oh my God! my heart dropped reading this. I hope I dont have to add this pain to my broken heart! it could happen too. wow!
BeagleGal Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 Yeah, girl... its been rough. All he's done, his betrayal, his lies, his deceit, all of it - for what? Not only that, he got the girl pregnant while he was still with me. She got pregnant almost immediately after they started seeing each other. She's about 7 1/2 months pregnant from what I hear. They were engaged about 2 - 3 weeks AFTER we split. Imagine. And its sad that this other woman enabled that deceitful behavior. I found everything out - the truth why he left, his cheating, this other woman, the pregnancy, the engagement - all of it through someone at work (we work for same company). My ex didnt have the balls to come clean and admit he f*cked up. Coward. oh my God! my heart dropped reading this. I hope I dont have to add this pain to my broken heart! it could happen too. wow!
Author 9Lives Posted September 2, 2010 Author Posted September 2, 2010 Yeah, girl... its been rough. All he's done, his betrayal, his lies, his deceit, all of it - for what? Not only that, he got the girl pregnant while he was still with me. She got pregnant almost immediately after they started seeing each other. She's about 7 1/2 months pregnant from what I hear. They were engaged about 2 - 3 weeks AFTER we split. Imagine. And its sad that this other woman enabled that deceitful behavior. I found everything out - the truth why he left, his cheating, this other woman, the pregnancy, the engagement - all of it through someone at work (we work for same company). My ex didnt have the balls to come clean and admit he f*cked up. Coward. Sorry B! That is too much!!! he is not worth your pain at all. He aint shti!!!
BeagleGal Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 My sentiments exactly, chiquita... Aside from struggling with the damage he's caused, its also been a struggle wasting my tears on him because of the kind of person he is. But, I mean I can't help it, I loved the guy, I thought we had a future and he totally blindsided me with his trife behavior. And the damage wasn't only to me, I think of his son who had to be thrown into a new home, introduced to a new woman in a blink of an eye. Like, who does this kinda sh*t?? The whole thing is unbelievable, girl. Thank God I have a good support system in my family, friends, some of my coworkers, and a therapist! Sorry B! That is too much!!! he is not worth your pain at all. He aint shti!!!
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