Superdude87 Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 So me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 4 months. Things were great, although we were taking it very slowly due to us both being pretty guarded after being cheated on by our most recent exes, and she has been cheated on my 2 or 3 other exes in the past. Needless to say she's cautious and had a wall up when we first met. Regardless, we seemed to click well and had a lot in common and always had a good time together, going out or just staying in. The thing is, she's older than me by 4 years. I'm 23, she's 27. She just graduated and is ready to buy a house, start a family, etc. Financially, she is more able to do this than me. I make decent money and can make even more if I work more hours, but I am still in school and will be for a few more years. I wouldn't say that this is the biggest barrier between our relationship lasting, because honestly I do want to have kids and if I need to, I can make more than enough at the job I'm currently at, I just want to get my bachelors and pursue an even better career. She really hates the area we live in, mainly due to the crappy weather and her not getting along with her family. She basically wants to move somewhere nicer and just get away for a while, although she says she wants to return here to raise a family someday. We talked about this a few weeks ago, she brought it up and it basically felt like she was breaking up with me. She said it was nothing wrong with me, or our relationship, it was just bad timing and she needed to make some serious decisions about her career and future. She has job opportunities our of state, which is another reason for her moving away. I didn't really put up a fight or beg her to stay, I am just not that selfish and wouldn't want her here against her will. Here's the weird part: the day after we had that talk I leave on a road trip for a weak. I had assumed we wouldn't be talking or hanging out for a while, but she texted me the very next day and we talked a few times while I was gone. She told me to call her when I got back, so I did just to tell her about the trip and she wanted to hang out the next morning, just to go out to coffee and talk. Since then, I've seen her a few times and she keeps kinda making plans for us, even invited me to a family BBQ this saturday. Not really sure what to make of this, I think she just wants to be friends until she moves? I don't know. Even today she stopped by just to give me some cookies she baked for me. Crazy. I feel that for 4 months it'd be easy for me to move on and not feel too heartbroken, I would miss her for sure, but I wasn't THAT attached quite yet. I could definitely see a future with this girl, but if she wants to move away then I can't stop her. So what do I do? Do I keep hanging out with her, knowing she's leaving? What's her motive here?
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