NYChick Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 Background: I was dating this guy for about 7 months. It was super intense despite the short time and he broke up with me out of the blue. I told him we couldn't be friends for awhile because I wasn't ready, but I'd come around when I was. He texted me happy birthday once (a day after it passed -_-), to which I said thank you. When he graduated, I texted him congrats on being done with college and he said thanks, but he didn't return the favor when I graduated a few weeks later. We haven't had any contact at all, and I refrain from it because he was a huge jerk after we broke up despite his weepy break up. His birthday was a few days ago and I didn't bother to text him (I deleted his number anyway) nor did I bother to Facebook the douche (I unfriended him). As much as it shouldn't matter, do you think he noticed that I didn't text him? His ego was so big that I'd take comfort in him being puzzled that I didn't care enough to text. Do you get bothered or notice when an ex doesn't contact you on "special" days?
Lemontang Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 Depends on the ex. Some yes, some no. I'm friends with most of mine and we often txt or call birthday & Christmas greetings. Though I had my 1st ever really messy breakup at the beginning of this year (I know 32 and I only now had a bad break up?). Well sure enough I didn't get any txts from her for my birthday a few weeks back, despite spending over 2k throwing her birthday party 3 weeks before we broke up in December and me dropping a gift off for her daughters 5th birthday in March. We've been NC anyway for a long time, but I still intend on sending a card come hers. So yeah I think they do notice if you don't, but it's if they really care that's another.
TaraMaiden Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 NYChick, what does it matter? he's your ex. you're his ex. Notice that? EX. You shouldn't really give a damn, he's history. He shouldn't really give a damn, you're history. in other words, drop it, move on, forget it. If you've split up, neither of you are obliged to each other, either deliberately or by accident. He's gone, and part of your past. And that's what you are to him. Past, gone, not current and still important. Leave it, and move on. Why cling? Why care?
summerl0vesyou Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 Do you get bothered or notice when an ex doesn't contact you on "special" days? It was my birthday a few days ago...and yes, i was devastated. i dated him until dec 09. we were still kinda "together" though until april. ive tried to contact him some since then. had a fling with another guy, and he knew i liked someone so he was long gone. understandably. but he said hed always be there for me, always love me. he knew i was also moving. didnt care how my bday was, or if my move went ok. It is painful. i found the card he gave me last year for bday. It hurts.
Username37 Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 My ex contacted me on my birthday and it bothered me. Confusing huh?
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