Ivnmetal Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 I'm going to put my whole relationship story here and see what ya'll guys think. It's hard being alone again,but I really need opinions and hopes... My gf (18) and I (22) have been dating for a year and 1 month.(2009-2010) We've had such a great time. We've fought but it was for something stupid or something that was miscunderstood. We had helloween together, Christmas, New YEars and Valentines. Just amazing and so perfect. My ex was/is the most important person in our relationship. She was my gf, the first woman I dated, the first one I kissed,hugged, and even made love.Our sexual intimacy was sometihng we really enjoyed,never got bored.And just got better each time. I would die for her. I gave her everthing,but I didnt spoil her either. Physically we were very attracted to each other. We even talked about marriage and kids. (future,but we didnt rush into that).Even with her past relationship that lasted only 6 months. I was the longest and the best one,she says she's ever been. We were irreplaceable. Just wanted to be with each other everyday. We never got bored or had 2'nd thought of being with someone else. People thought we were married and that we were really good for each other She supported me in going back to school, which I did,and just recently graduated with Computer Support Technician diploma. But as time goes by. I didnt spend to much time on her and just wanted my own time even tho we were together. We communicated less on the phone and just texted. (not the same) As she was planning to go the university to study and major as a Doctor. That's where everything changed. She made everything responce,text or face to face, more of herself. And this past Sat. it happened...(Aug.28'th) Sat. morning she called me And told me that she wanted to talk and that she felt that she just felt alone,she felt like sometihng inside was missing. And begging and crying in tears told her "i can help you,please dont go"... I just couldnt let the love of my life,the woman whom i've been praying for for 21 years leave. I loved her, I needed her,and now she was leaving me. She felt like she needed to "grow" and find "herself". And that she wanted to meet new people (not be in a relationship),especially since she was in University. I begged her and begged her,and she said she just had to leave. I asked her do you not love yourself... and she said she didnt know. I knew that ment she didnt love me either. Since you cannot love someone and not love yourself. And we said goodbye by saying our "love names" As the day went i just cried (yes men cry) and just couldnt belive. And decided to text her and tell her how i feel and to please come back. she said please "dont ask me back,if you cant accept me,you cant text me". So i stop. But I told her that i love her and that i dont ever want her to forget me. (its like,how can someone you love and she loves you have a strong bond and just go like the dust in the wind.) And she said "Baby,you will always be in my heart".. that made me sad but it made me happy.... And well i told her if she will ever call and she said yes i will. I asked her,if she ever decided to get back in a relatinoship,she said i will be the first option. (I know it might mean bS to some,but i took it as hope,and i still do) Ever since that day,ive been praying for her to heal and to have her time. And hopefully we will be together again.... I really love her,but what should i do? (i know it was long but i hope you can help me) Thank you for reading
bill858 Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 I understand your pain. I felt like I was reading my own story here. My GF of 3+ yrs walked out unexpectedly...on Saturday the 28th! 5 worst days of my life since. everyone keeps telling me to give her space and not contact her and if its meant to be she'll come back (we lived together too) but everyday its harder and I miss her even more. I only hope we both stay strong and come out of this better.
L3stat Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 i feel your pain, she's 18 give her some space, i would say go NC dont shower her with i love/miss you text or emails and if/when she calls and you pick up dont bring up the relationship or getting back together let her decide. be strong sometimes all you can do is laugh to stop yourself from crying
Trovador Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Look, man, death, taxes and breakups are the only... well you know the rest... The best you can do for yourself now is to go on living, but with an altogether different attitude, that of a winner... cry if you have to, but don't let your teardrops blur the brilliant future you have ahead... 22 years! And hopefully you have learnt a valuable lesson, do not take anything or anybody for granted, ever! But don't fool ourselves here, the break up happened for other reasons as well...
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