Author Kain Highwind Posted September 3, 2010 Author Posted September 3, 2010 I think you should just offer to pick her up. It will be more fun for her and put her in a better mood. Then she will be more likely to share a drink or two with you. You go back and forth lol What about taking her something and when I get there, asking if she wants to come with me or if she minds if I stay there for a little while?
Green Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 You go back and forth lol What about taking her something and when I get there, asking if she wants to come with me or if she minds if I stay there for a little while? you'll know what to do better then I can tell you. Just make sure your arn't afraid to look like a creep... be yourself and don't let fear talk you into doing things or not doing things. Have fun. U figure it out! good luck just TRY
Author Kain Highwind Posted September 3, 2010 Author Posted September 3, 2010 you'll know what to do better then I can tell you. Just make sure your arn't afraid to look like a creep... be yourself and don't let fear talk you into doing things or not doing things. Have fun. U figure it out! good luck just TRY I'm not scared anymore Just sort of hating how late it'll be. I don't know if she's working tomorrow. She works at this daycare and she just started so I doubt she can stay home and she gets off at 5 but I don't know when she gets home so it may be as late as like 7 by the time I get over there. I want to call her like before she normally leaves just in case she does stay home to see if I could possibly go earlier but if she is going to work, I don't know how I could call her again later on I mean, when I call her, I'll ask her how she is. I think doing that twice in one day just about 5 hours apart may be excessive :/
Author Kain Highwind Posted September 3, 2010 Author Posted September 3, 2010 (edited) Texted me like at 4 in the morning saying she's really congested. Combined with the sore throat, I think its juts like a cold. She couldn't decide if she was goign to work today. No matter who, I hate texts that wake me up :/ Anyway, if I head over there, do you think taking a movie of mine over that she loves (We watched it last week) would really help me? I mean, me getting it was enough for her to say that she loves me (Even though I said like "YOu're gonna love me" first) lol Edited September 3, 2010 by Kain Highwind clarification
Green Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 Texted me like at 4 in the morning saying she's really congested. Combined with the sore throat, I think its juts like a cold. She couldn't decide if she was goign to work today. No matter who, I hate texts that wake me up :/ Its called putting your phone on silent/alarm when you go to sleep, it will help you out in the future because this won't be the last time some one calls or txt's when u are asleep. Anyway, if I head over there, do you think taking a movie of mine over that she loves (We watched it last week) would really help me? I mean, me getting it was enough for her to say that she loves me (Even though I said like "YOu're gonna love me" first) lol Just tell her you're comming over to bring her something that will make her feel better. Bring her the good chicken dumpling soup (something hearty that will fill her up) get one for yourself too and you both can eat it togather or just hang out if she isn't in the mood to eat it right then. Bring the movie and leave it in the car and mention it if you want.
Author Kain Highwind Posted September 3, 2010 Author Posted September 3, 2010 Its called putting your phone on silent/alarm when you go to sleep, it will help you out in the future because this won't be the last time some one calls or txt's when u are asleep. Just tell her you're comming over to bring her something that will make her feel better. Bring her the good chicken dumpling soup (something hearty that will fill her up) get one for yourself too and you both can eat it togather or just hang out if she isn't in the mood to eat it right then. Bring the movie and leave it in the car and mention it if you want. My friend is telling me not to do this and just to leave her alone because she said she already didn't want to hang out but this sounds tempting. He said it'd be pushy. I'm probably gonna do it but what he's saying is pretty heavy... He said that if we were in a relationship already, it'd be alright but since we're not, its pushing it a little too far
Green Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 My friend is telling me not to do this and just to leave her alone because she said she already didn't want to hang out but this sounds tempting. He said it'd be pushy. I'm probably gonna do it but what he's saying is pretty heavy... He said that if we were in a relationship already, it'd be alright but since we're not, its pushing it a little too far ur just offering to bring her something... the worst that can happen is she says "no" you should just be yourself and do what you think is best. Its all about RESPECT and being pushy is kinda disrespectful but from where I stand I don't see it as being pushy. Just make sure you get the kiss if you go there. then you leave let her rest and recover.
Author Kain Highwind Posted September 3, 2010 Author Posted September 3, 2010 Oh, I should have said this at the beginning I'm teaching her to play guitar too and she's never had any problems with me like grabbing and holding her hand to help her make chords. Is that good?
Sphere Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 Oh, I should have said this at the beginning I'm teaching her to play guitar too and she's never had any problems with me like grabbing and holding her hand to help her make chords. Is that good? Why are you overanalyzing every single thing she does or says? I have to disagree with Green, I would not go to her house with Chicken Soup, I'd wait until she is better and then arrange another meeting. I agree with your friend, it will be coming across as too strong. I haven't read all of this thread, but have you been escalating and building sexual attraction with this girl? Have you applied kino and moved up to levels where you can link hands? Have you gotten past that stage and kissed?
Author Kain Highwind Posted September 3, 2010 Author Posted September 3, 2010 Why are you overanalyzing every single thing she does or says? I have to disagree with Green, I would not go to her house with Chicken Soup, I'd wait until she is better and then arrange another meeting. I agree with your friend, it will be coming across as too strong. I haven't read all of this thread, but have you been escalating and building sexual attraction with this girl? Have you applied kino and moved up to levels where you can link hands? Have you gotten past that stage and kissed? Most we've done is tickled. She's laid on me and we've hugged alot though
phineas Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 Most we've done is tickled. She's laid on me and we've hugged alot though did it move? LOL! I think insisting you bring her chicken soup is kinda pushy myself. If she's feeling like crap & looking like death warmed over she isn't going to want you to see her that way.
Green Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 did it move? LOL! I think insisting you bring her chicken soup is kinda pushy myself. If she's feeling like crap & looking like death warmed over she isn't going to want you to see her that way. I said he offer to bring her something like it was no big deal. Whats the worst that can happen she says "no." My advice is basicly KISS HER and KISS HER SOOn.
Sphere Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 Most we've done is tickled. She's laid on me and we've hugged alot though So why haven't you gone in for the kiss yet?
Green Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 So why haven't you gone in for the kiss yet? U know the answer to that. He's been afraid and obviously doesn't know better. GO FOR THAT KISS!
abouttoloseit Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 U know the answer to that. He's been afraid and obviously doesn't know better. GO FOR THAT KISS! You just want him to fail!!! This is so cruel! My experience (quite alot with "ljbf's") is that if she has stated just friends...it will be just friends. If you want something more, listen to some of the advice on here, ie...distanse yourself from her, make yourself less avaliable to her, and go on some dates.
Sphere Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 U know the answer to that. He's been afraid and obviously doesn't know better. GO FOR THAT KISS! Afraid of what? He has already established some form of kino with this woman, so he is clearly comfortable laying down on a bed with her, tickling her and cuddling her, so I cannot see why he can't muster up the courage to kiss her? If I was in his position I would have gone in for the kiss then.
Green Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 You just want him to fail!!! This is so cruel! My experience (quite alot with "ljbf's") is that if she has stated just friends...it will be just friends. If you want something more, listen to some of the advice on here, ie...distanse yourself from her, make yourself less avaliable to her, and go on some dates. Unlike you I've never had "ljbf's" happen to me. I'm giving good advice which is GO FOR THE KISS. If he kissed her... she would A) like him B) Reject him... it would pretty much take away the "ljbf's" option unless they were friends with benefits and at that point I would recomend walking away.
CLC2008 Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 was friend zoned pretty badly a few weeks ago ("You'll find a woman but it just won't be me") Based on everything you've said, it sounds like she likes you more than friends. I think it would be helpful though to know what led up to her making the above statement? Were you friends beforehand or were you dating each other?
Author Kain Highwind Posted September 3, 2010 Author Posted September 3, 2010 Based on everything you've said, it sounds like she likes you more than friends. I think it would be helpful though to know what led up to her making the above statement? Were you friends beforehand or were you dating each other? We were just friends And I haven't kissed just because I've never thought there was a good time. Possibly when we were tickling but we were too scared of being tickled that we barely even got a hug off lol
Author Kain Highwind Posted September 3, 2010 Author Posted September 3, 2010 Afraid of what? He has already established some form of kino with this woman, so he is clearly comfortable laying down on a bed with her, tickling her and cuddling her, so I cannot see why he can't muster up the courage to kiss her? If I was in his position I would have gone in for the kiss then. We actually haven't really cuddled yet, to be honest It was gonna happen today :/
abouttoloseit Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 Kain, grab her by her waist, pull her in and just kiss her. Get it over with. If she stays, home run...if she backs off, at least you then know. It's obvious you dont want to be "just friends" so you need to make a move dude. Either distance yourself, go on dates....or just go in for the kill. Both guns blazing dude *BANG! BANG!*
Author Kain Highwind Posted September 4, 2010 Author Posted September 4, 2010 Ok, called her and she was on her way home from work and saying she was feeling a bit better. She told me to call her back when she got home so I did. Since she said she was feeling better, I asked her if she minded me coming over since I was bored. She said that tonight wouldn't be a good night since her mom isn't feeling that good either and she probably wouldn't want company over Meh
Cracker Jack Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Dang, that sucks. Wondering if her answer would've been any different if you suggested her coming over instead.
Author Kain Highwind Posted September 4, 2010 Author Posted September 4, 2010 The fair is gonna be here in two weeks. Should I just delay our "birthday celebration" thing until then?
CLC2008 Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 We were just friends And I haven't kissed just because I've never thought there was a good time. Possibly when we were tickling but we were too scared of being tickled that we barely even got a hug off lol It sounds like you have a very strange relationship with the constant tickling and what not. But from the statement she made initially, and her saying "lets just be friends", it's not looking too good.
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