EasyHeart Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 Just gotta worry about when/how to kiss her. Can't really do it out of nowhere and it can't be like too cliche... This is what I'm really bad at. Making a move This is why she is not attracted to you. To her, you are a girl. I agree with the people who say that there's no coming back from the friendzone. This girl is getting everything she wants from you; you are getting very little from her. It's hard for guys to grasp the female notion of 'friendship'. For us, talking on the phone for hours, cuddling on the couch while we watch a movie and having tickle fights is what we do with girlfriends. For women, it's also what they do with girlfriends. But in this case, I suppose you have nothing to lose. Take her in your arms, look into her eyes and give her the greatest kiss of her life. It doesn't matter when or how. Just do it. She will either melt or (most likely) freak out and say "What the hell are you doing???" If she rejects you again, try to salvage a little self-respect and cut her out of your life.
Author Kain Highwind Posted September 2, 2010 Author Posted September 2, 2010 Titanic? /face palm. How about Weapon X? The closest thing to a chick flick I can stomach is Kate & Leopold. What's wrong with Titanic? Its one of the only chick flicks I enjoy
Green Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 What's wrong with Titanic? Its one of the only chick flicks I enjoy nothings wrong with it dude. You won't be watching much of the movie if things go right. The close contact of cuddling alone will make the time fly. Try to kiss her early on if possible. Durring the cuddling would be great. Make sure its on the LIPS and not on the cheek or something gay like that. Also if for some reason you chickened out the entire night make sure you do it before she goes bye bye. Also if you do it early on you could have a make out session. Make sure you have some drinks she likes on hand. Don't get drunk... just get a good buzz going all that takes is 2 or 3 drinks each. If she doesn't want to drink don't worry about it. You should still have 2 or 3 drinks to help you relax... but if you don't want to drink then just relax already and have fun. get a boner while you cuddle up to her and enjoy the sexual tension. KISS HER
dispatch3d Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 I just remembered something, the yearly fair is gonna be in two weeks. I've got connections that can get us in for free. Shoudl I wait for the move then? Say... Ferris wheel? Or too cliche? This is a bad idea anyways. Much easier to visit her, escalate the tickling/physical touching you already have. Taking her to that special thing she loves isn't going to make her fall in love, get busy with you, whatever. Escalate that's it. Also I'd be cool with your tickle-filled relationship if I was 11. Otherwise I'd want a lot less of this thing she calls "friendship" or a lot more. **** the inbetween ;-)
Author Kain Highwind Posted September 2, 2010 Author Posted September 2, 2010 This is a bad idea anyways. Much easier to visit her, escalate the tickling/physical touching you already have. Taking her to that special thing she loves isn't going to make her fall in love, get busy with you, whatever. Escalate that's it. Also I'd be cool with your tickle-filled relationship if I was 11. Otherwise I'd want a lot less of this thing she calls "friendship" or a lot more. **** the inbetween ;-) She's coming over tomorrow. Watching a movie and I'm gonna try to get her to cuddle with me
Green Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 She's coming over tomorrow. Watching a movie and I'm gonna try to get her to cuddle with me Don't try... just do it. Don't talk yourself out of it. Just face your fears and enjoy it. Get a boner... hide the boner under your belt or whatever but be horny and use it! all your doing is touching and kissing... nothing to sweat about. She probably wants this to happen or she wouldn't be hanging out alone with you. Just do it. Ohhh and don't APOLOGIZE if she acts offened. Be respecful of her boundaries but not apologetic of your romantic intentions.
Author Kain Highwind Posted September 2, 2010 Author Posted September 2, 2010 Don't try... just do it. Don't talk yourself out of it. Just face your fears and enjoy it. Get a boner... hide the boner under your belt or whatever but be horny and use it! all your doing is touching and kissing... nothing to sweat about. She probably wants this to happen or she wouldn't be hanging out alone with you. Just do it. Ohhh and don't APOLOGIZE if she acts offened. Be respecful of her boundaries but not apologetic of your romantic intentions. I wasn't talking about being scared lol I meant like if its obvious like she doesn't want to, like she scoots away or something I won't force it on her. I'm not worried about not doing it at all I'm even trying to make sure it happens for sure by turning down the air so if things go badly, either one of us will be like "Its cold..." and offer to get close together
Green Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 I wasn't talking about being scared lol I meant like if its obvious like she doesn't want to, like she scoots away or something I won't force it on her. I'm not worried about not doing it at all I'm even trying to make sure it happens for sure by turning down the air so if things go badly, either one of us will be like "Its cold..." and offer to get close together Make the temperature comfortable. Offering up a few drinks is the best way to set the mood. DOn't try to read into things like a scoot or whatever... just touch and kiss. Overt stuff like dodging you or saying "stop" should be your only indicators.
Author Kain Highwind Posted September 2, 2010 Author Posted September 2, 2010 (edited) Make the temperature comfortable. Offering up a few drinks is the best way to set the mood. DOn't try to read into things like a scoot or whatever... just touch and kiss. Overt stuff like dodging you or saying "stop" should be your only indicators. Doubt she'll want to drink. She's driving and she's really paranoid about drinking and driving. Says that since she isn't 21 yet, if she gets pulled over, she's screwed and since she still lives with her mom... Yeah. She lives about 40 minutes away and has to drive on the highway Says she just likes to drink with her mom but that's it. As for me, my dad drinks and he'd notice if something was missing Edited September 2, 2010 by Kain Highwind Clarifiying
Author Kain Highwind Posted September 3, 2010 Author Posted September 3, 2010 Sorry for the double post but she said she's gonna have to delay because she's sick :/ She was complaining of a sore throat yesterday
dispatch3d Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 Doubt she'll want to drink. She's driving and she's really paranoid about drinking and driving. Says that since she isn't 21 yet, if she gets pulled over, she's screwed and since she still lives with her mom... Yeah. She lives about 40 minutes away and has to drive on the highway Says she just likes to drink with her mom but that's it. As for me, my dad drinks and he'd notice if something was missing lol the states are so ****ing weird. Alcohol lol. Our age here is 19/18 in some provinces. Man you guys are (from what I hear) awful at drinking. That said, don't jump right in there immediately. Do things slowly. As in don't just plop your ass down and start going for the grope-and-touch right away. Common mistake/I've been super guilty of this. Ideally you want the same tickle-scenario to come up again but instead up the anti a little bit more this time. gl dude!
Author Kain Highwind Posted September 3, 2010 Author Posted September 3, 2010 lol the states are so ****ing weird. Alcohol lol. Our age here is 19/18 in some provinces. Man you guys are (from what I hear) awful at drinking. That said, don't jump right in there immediately. Do things slowly. As in don't just plop your ass down and start going for the grope-and-touch right away. Common mistake/I've been super guilty of this. Ideally you want the same tickle-scenario to come up again but instead up the anti a little bit more this time. gl dude! Its gonna be at least a week now (Because of school/her job) I don't have the advantage of Titanic now :/
Green Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 Doubt she'll want to drink. She's driving and she's really paranoid about drinking and driving. Says that since she isn't 21 yet, if she gets pulled over, she's screwed and since she still lives with her mom... Yeah. She lives about 40 minutes away and has to drive on the highway Says she just likes to drink with her mom but that's it. As for me, my dad drinks and he'd notice if something was missing Sorry for the double post but she said she's gonna have to delay because she's sick :/ She was complaining of a sore throat yesterday Look dude YOU SHOULD PICk HER UP. I mean I realize its a 40 minute drive tu it is SOOOOOOOOO worth it. Just tell her you know she is sick but you want to show her a relaxing time. Make her a nice noodle soup with toast or something to make her feel better. Then KISS HER. (its worth the sickness risk) Borrow your dads car or something
Author Kain Highwind Posted September 3, 2010 Author Posted September 3, 2010 Look dude YOU SHOULD PICk HER UP. I mean I realize its a 40 minute drive tu it is SOOOOOOOOO worth it. Just tell her you know she is sick but you want to show her a relaxing time. Make her a nice noodle soup with toast or something to make her feel better. Then KISS HER. (its worth the sickness risk) Borrow your dads car or something Honestly, no offense, but wouldn't that come off as obsessive or creepy? Insisting to still hang out even though she said she wanted to do it some other time?
robdrm32 Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 Honestly, no offense, but wouldn't that come off as obsessive or creepy? Insisting to still hang out even though she said she wanted to do it some other time? Saying "I'll come pick you up, make you some soup and maybe a nice foot rub/massage." She will get your intent, she could just be waiting for you to make the physical move. I've been there dude, I asked a girl out before i ever kissed her and she said no yet we hung out all the time. Looking back she just wanted to bone from day one and i was too much of a bitch to make the move. Offer to pick her up and make a nice night of it, then go for the kill. if she rejects just move on no sense being friends with a dyke is there? (joke) By accepting her "i'm sick" excuse, all she hears is "Anything you want, whenever you want, its up to you" which makes you unattractive in her eyes because she wants you to take the lead. DO IT
Author Kain Highwind Posted September 3, 2010 Author Posted September 3, 2010 Saying "I'll come pick you up, make you some soup and maybe a nice foot rub/massage." She will get your intent, she could just be waiting for you to make the physical move. I've been there dude, I asked a girl out before i ever kissed her and she said no yet we hung out all the time. Looking back she just wanted to bone from day one and i was too much of a bitch to make the move. Offer to pick her up and make a nice night of it, then go for the kill. if she rejects just move on no sense being friends with a dyke is there? (joke) By accepting her "i'm sick" excuse, all she hears is "Anything you want, whenever you want, its up to you" which makes you unattractive in her eyes because she wants you to take the lead. DO IT Is it bad that like right after she texted me, I was just like "Don't worry, its cool" I thoguht about that but I didn't wanna sound like too upset or reliant on her
Green Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 Honestly, no offense, but wouldn't that come off as obsessive or creepy? Insisting to still hang out even though she said she wanted to do it some other time? Anything romantic has a very good chance of comming off obsessive and creepy. You have to give a shot and risk looking creepy and getting rejected if you want to get the girl. Offer to drive out and bring her some GOOD FOOD if you can't make a good soup then get a good soup dumpling thing from a chinese take out or what ever then bring some tasty bread to toast up. Do it at her place so she doesn't even have to leave. and then just Kiss her on the lips before you say goodbye you don't even have to stay there. Romance my friend is the key. I think if you just allow yourself to BE YOURSELF you'll see that romantic intentions are what you have for this girl and you should ACT on them instead of comming up with excuses like ... "it will look creepy"... who cares be a creep and then you'll really know she likes you if she doesn't reject you. FACE YOUR FEARS stop looking for the easy way out ... there is none... enjoy chasing after a girl. Its what you have to do in the early stages of most relationships.
Author Kain Highwind Posted September 3, 2010 Author Posted September 3, 2010 Anything romantic has a very good chance of comming off obsessive and creepy. You have to give a shot and risk looking creepy and getting rejected if you want to get the girl. Offer to drive out and bring her some GOOD FOOD if you can't make a good soup then get a good soup dumpling thing from a chinese take out or what ever then bring some tasty bread to toast up. Do it at her place so she doesn't even have to leave. and then just Kiss her on the lips before you say goodbye you don't even have to stay there. Romance my friend is the key. I think if you just allow yourself to BE YOURSELF you'll see that romantic intentions are what you have for this girl and you should ACT on them instead of comming up with excuses like ... "it will look creepy"... who cares be a creep and then you'll really know she likes you if she doesn't reject you. FACE YOUR FEARS stop looking for the easy way out ... there is none... enjoy chasing after a girl. Its what you have to do in the early stages of most relationships. Sounds like a good idea. I'd do it as a surprise but she hasn't told me where she lives. She always comes to my house and I've never been to hers
Green Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 Sounds like a good idea. I'd do it as a surprise but she hasn't told me where she lives. She always comes to my house and I've never been to hers well theres a simple solution to that... ASK HER WHERE SHE LIVES! And start ASKING OUT OTHER GIRLS. YOu seriously shouldn't have tunnel vision for this one girl you arn't seriously dating yet. ASK MORE GIRLS OUT.
Author Kain Highwind Posted September 3, 2010 Author Posted September 3, 2010 well theres a simple solution to that... ASK HER WHERE SHE LIVES! And start ASKING OUT OTHER GIRLS. YOu seriously shouldn't have tunnel vision for this one girl you arn't seriously dating yet. ASK MORE GIRLS OUT. I will but hopefully if tomorrow goes well I may not have to lol Just like call or text her and be like "Hey, I know you said yesterday that you didn't want to do anything today but I was just thinking, instead of like going out, wanna just come watch a movie or something? Having some fun may make you feel better. I'd come get you and if you wanted, I could make you some soup or something"
Green Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 I will but hopefully if tomorrow goes well I may not have to lol Just like call or text her and be like "Hey, I know you said yesterday that you didn't want to do anything today but I was just thinking, instead of like going out, wanna just come watch a movie or something? Having some fun may make you feel better. I'd come get you and if you wanted, I could make you some soup or something" Just say: I'd like to bring you something to make you feel better. Don't tell her what keep it a suprise. If she asks just say its a suprise. Then just ask for her address. Bring her by a GOOD soup. Like a miso soup or a chicken dumpling... something you think she would like. Then bring it and be like. Its soup to help you feel better. And she may be hungry for it then or she may save it for later... who knows. Then just KISS her while you are there.
Author Kain Highwind Posted September 3, 2010 Author Posted September 3, 2010 Just say: I'd like to bring you something to make you feel better. Don't tell her what keep it a suprise. If she asks just say its a suprise. Then just ask for her address. Bring her by a GOOD soup. Like a miso soup or a chicken dumpling... something you think she would like. Then bring it and be like. Its soup to help you feel better. And she may be hungry for it then or she may save it for later... who knows. Then just KISS her while you are there. So... Don't even bother with hanging out or bringing her to my home?
Green Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 So... Don't even bother with hanging out or bringing her to my home? you could try if it doesn't seem like she is that sick. but really just expect to drop off the soup and try to kiss her. maybe if you offered to pick her up to bring her to ur house she would be more likely to say yes. Driving 40 minutes to ur place and 40 minutes back might be a big part of why she is cancleing. Offer to bring her over... but maybe you should just hang out at her place that way you don't have to drive back and forth. If her parent are cool with you hanging out there will be opportunities to kiss her when they are out of the room for a moment... or they might leave u alone.
Author Kain Highwind Posted September 3, 2010 Author Posted September 3, 2010 you could try if it doesn't seem like she is that sick. but really just expect to drop off the soup and try to kiss her. maybe if you offered to pick her up to bring her to ur house she would be more likely to say yes. Driving 40 minutes to ur place and 40 minutes back might be a big part of why she is cancleing. Offer to bring her over... but maybe you should just hang out at her place that way you don't have to drive back and forth. If her parent are cool with you hanging out there will be opportunities to kiss her when they are out of the room for a moment... or they might leave u alone. I mistook the distance between the towns. Its more like 20 minutes. If she didn't cancel, she'd probably come to my house right after she got off work (She works in the town where I live) And she just lives with her mom lol
Green Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 I mistook the distance between the towns. Its more like 20 minutes. If she didn't cancel, she'd probably come to my house right after she got off work (She works in the town where I live) And she just lives with her mom lol I think you should just offer to pick her up. It will be more fun for her and put her in a better mood. Then she will be more likely to share a drink or two with you.
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