Star Gazer Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 While I find THIS a bit harsh, I find it refreshing after the other advice, ( and I respect and like you both SB & SG) because this is business, and having been a landlord personally, and a property manager professionally, this is NOT the sort of behavior that can or should be tolerated, lest it gets worse. I'm not looking at it from a business perspective, but rather trying to maintain a good relationship with someone you're going to be living with for a while. That's all. I agree the gal needs to give Shadow the money, no doubt about that. I just disagree with the way she was approaching the situation.
2sunny Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 How would you have approached it? I was very nice with Sarah about the money thing. I never got short or nasty. I'm not looking at it from a business perspective, but rather trying to maintain a good relationship with someone you're going to be living with for a while. That's all. I agree the gal needs to give Shadow the money, no doubt about that. I just disagree with the way she was approaching the situation. you should get short and nasty! she is doing it on purpose at this point. throw her out - she AND her boyfriend will be living with you for FREE as long as you allow this! and why remain "friends with someone who is purposely screwing you over? she's no friend - she's just counting on you being too "nice." that way she can continue taking advantage of you. throw her out now. if you need to - call the police and tell them you want her removed because she has failed to pay her rent. btw - you SHOULD be looking at it from a business perspective - THAT is where everyone is getting mixed up - she owes money and is trying not to pay. THAT is about a business transaction. besides - she's no friend if she's doing that.
CupidsPosionedArrow Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 (edited) She was at work and he hadn't eaten. I could hear her yelling upstairs and throwing things around. Then she came downstairs and started bawling in the bathroom. I don't get it. Was there something inappropriate about this that I'm missing? WTF! putting it bluntly, she's just a piece of garbage with issues. Out of convenience and so forth you got stuck with her, and now you paying the consequences for taking a chance with someone.. Do this, offer to PAY her for the fee to have the previous check cancelled, then have her issue you a new one. If you can, get her out of there. Good luck, you'll need it ... Edited September 3, 2010 by CupidsPosionedArrow
Author shadowplay Posted September 5, 2010 Author Posted September 5, 2010 (edited) No, she hasn't paid, and it's starting to bother me since she just got a new job this week where she knows she makes a lot more money than I do at my job (we used to work at the same place). She came home the other night and bragged that she made 100 dollars in tips. A few days ago she mentioned that she was going to cancel the check and then wait a couple of days to write another one, but then she never brought it up again. I'm going to wait a bit to bug her again, since we live together. Also, I'll admit that I think her boyfriend and his friend would be good connections to have in the film industry, so I don't want to antagonize her. They are relatively cool and they know A LOT of people. Call me cynical, but networking is essential in film. When I move to New York, having them as friends would be a great thing. They're both a bit *******ish, but they're at least entertaining, bright, and fun to talk to. Still, she's getting on my nerves more and more. She's incredibly moody. Like today she came downstairs and barely greeted me and Jen. Later on we both asked her if something was wrong, and she said no. The three of us went out together to go shopping, and she was up to her usual antics....being incredibly unfriendly to me. She's hard to even talk to. Maybe she just doesn't have much to say, or she's not that bright, I don't know. It's weird because I started out liking her a lot, but I think that was just her friendly "face." She reminds me a lot of the bitchy frenemies I had as a teen. I'll stay friendly to her of course to ease household relations, but I don't see us ever being close. Edited September 5, 2010 by shadowplay
sb129 Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 No, she hasn't paid, and it's starting to bother me since she just got a new job this week where she knows she makes a lot more money than I do at my job (we used to work at the same place). She came home the other night and bragged that she made 100 dollars in tips. Oh now SP that is not cool! You should have said, "Great, that means you only owe me $800" and insisted she give you the $100. She is taking the p*ss now for sure.
2sunny Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 SP- she's living there for free - and YOU'RE letting her! not only that but she found someone that allows her freeloading BF to stay too! make her pay today by 5pm or she leaves right then and there - so you can get someone in there that pays!
The Collector Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Can you explain the situation to the landlord, and say as far as you're concerned, the $900 hasn't been given to you as promised, so please use that for your next rent payments, and meanwhile the other girl owes you that $900. Landlords can be loathe to get involved in such matters, but if you stand firm they may put the pressure on your roommate that you shouldn't have to be applying. This is why I've never flat-shared. If it's not money, it's 'who drank my milk?', etc.
Author shadowplay Posted September 8, 2010 Author Posted September 8, 2010 She finally gave me a check. Also, she's been a tad bit warmer today. I think it's because her boyfriend's out of town so she feels lonely (they share the same room and spend most of their time together). My parents met both roommates, and they had a similar impression as I did. They absolutely loved Jen, and my mom's a good judge of character as a psychologist. She said, "Jen's a sweetheart. She's one of those very rare people without a trace of narcissism, someone sincerely sweet." She said Sarah seemed kind of unfriendly and like she had issues. I'm still going to try to be friendly with her. I feel a bit better now that she paid me. Yeah, she has issues, but maybe they don't outweigh her positive qualities. It's too early to say.
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