kickintheaz Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 Do you do it? How do you find it? How many dates do you 'juggle'? How do you let those down you're not interested in? How many dates do you give each date before deciding? Been chatting to friends here over the weekend about the dating game in our country (ireland)... and this whole thing of multi dating vs old school dating was gone into in depth.. Multi Dating to us is a fairly newish thing, we know its the done thing in the states and then ya get into exclusivity chats etc.. here, well, old school dictates that we date one woman we fancy that we 'pulled' in the nightclub at 4am!!! But, a lot of us are now into multi dating (yes, for those who know me, I somehow fell into a few first dates this week, 1 y/day, 1 tonight, 1 friday) personally I find it tiring and head scratching at times and yet on the flip side its fun and gives one loads of opportunity to meet more people.. be they fun, interesting or a pain in the proverbials.. but I guess for other europeans on here (cos my local online forum were AGHAST that ya'd date more than one girl at a time!!!!) the questions above still stand... and perhaps for our American brethren.. any tips on how to do it well, as I quite possibly have been doing it ars over head upto now! thanks all! kick
bac Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 (edited) Do you do it? How do you find it? How many dates do you 'juggle'? How do you let those down you're not interested in? How many dates do you give each date before deciding? /QUOTE] You find them online. Many can handle long-term 2-3 FWBs at the same time. 3-4 is tough to handle. Meanwhile, you are always in search of new better people for replacement your present FWBs. As for those new people, you try them for sex/or for the first date, then, you decide that they are not good enough for you. So, you let them go pretending that you are very busy, if they are not quitters, you give them a good reason (by email) which they would like and accept. Deciding about that? You can decide that you do not like a person whenever is good for you, for example, after the first date, after the second date, after the first sex or any other time. Edited September 1, 2010 by bac
cottoncandy1 Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 Usually guys ask me out and I'm not involved with anyone seriously, so what's the harm in dating one person one night - a movie or whatever - and then on the weekend, going out with someone else?? If you're not seeing one person exclusively, then it's fine.
Stung Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 When I lived in Europe nobody multi-dated. And the few times I have done any version of it, it was always online dating, and always just the initial stages of dating/communication, to narrow my prospects down to one genuine love interest. I wasn't sleeping with multiple people, I was communicating with multiple people, and they all knew about each other. My only real advice is to conduct yourself ethically. Don't lie to anyone about your status or your intentions, be up front about your relationship goals and your feelings, best not to let the attention go to your head and start sleeping with as many people as you possibly can--remember other people's emotions are involved, and treat them with respect.
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