brugal Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 Well I found out the wife has been trimming the bush and i dont mean gardening- is it a giveaway of an affair when she trims it into a nice neat line - a runway i think you call it- like a neat short mohican? ok we have not been having sex for awhile but this is a shock? would you trim like this for your own benefit...
scatterd Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 I am married and have done it a couple of times and did not cheat nor have thoughts of it.I did it for my husband to try something new so not always does it mean cheating
PegNosePete Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 It's not a sign of cheating any more than getting a new haircut (on her HEAD) is. I would say that if your wife did this for the first time, she would probably be eager to show it off to you, see what you think, and give it a test run if you know what I mean. If she just kind of did it and tried to hide it then maybe it's a bit suspicious. Not the actual act of doing it, but how she behaves towards you. But you will need a whole lot more evidence than that alone!!
GorillaTheater Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 I wouldn't be suspicious at all, were it not for the fact that you mentioned that you and your wife hadn't had sex in a while. How long has it been? What's going on with that? Depending on the circumstances, it could well be that she didn't trim for you, but we could use a little more info before we could offer an opinion as to whether she's trimming for a third party.
mitchell Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 She's definitely cheating. If she's not showing you her new style, then she's showing it to someone else.
Stung Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 I used to trim/shave just for myself when I was single, sometimes. It's odd that she would do it and not for your mutual enjoyment, but not impossible. Still, if she didn't want you to see it or know about it and you're not having sex, you wouldn't know about it, right? She does own underwear, correct? She has to be flashing you somehow. What makes you so sure she didn't do it to try to put a little spice back into your marriage? Have you tried expressing your interest, showing her a little appreciation?
Dexter Morgan Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 Well I found out the wife has been trimming the bush and i dont mean gardening- is it a giveaway of an affair when she trims it into a nice neat line - a runway i think you call it- like a neat short Mohegan? ok we have not been having sex for awhile but this is a shock? would you trim like this for your own benefit... trimming it, IMO, is for the benefit of someone else to see. So if she has been doing it all along, it would be because she doesn't want you to see the bush when she is strolling around naked. but if she never has, and all of a sudden is, and you aren't having sex, I'd say she is trimming it for a man she is having sex with or plans to have sex with. it goes along the lines of all of a sudden buying sexy underwear and stuff all of a sudden. I wouldn't say anything to her to give away that you are suspicious, but you need to do some private eye work and check her forms of communication. Something is fishy....no pun intended.
Rorschach Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 It's one of two things in my opinion. 1. she is cheating or 2. she wants to have sex more often and might be trying to do things to entice you, sex is part of a healthy relationship so she may be feeling left out and this is a cry for attention. Give it to her.
Star Gazer Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 It's one of two things in my opinion. 1. she is cheating or 2. she wants to have sex more often and might be trying to do things to entice you, sex is part of a healthy relationship so she may be feeling left out and this is a cry for attention. Give it to her. OR.... She's realized the benefit and beauty of an almost hairless nether region. I'm not sexying anyone right now, and everything down there is well taken care of. Why can't that be the case here?
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 Let's see: Basically sexless Normal pubes Suddenly starts grooming her pubes Said grooming is not for him Why would a woman in a basically sexless relationship suddenly give a crap about pubic grooming, particularly if it isn't for him? I would say it is a red flag, but I'd have to have more to go on before I'd come right out and accuse her of cheating.
TwoForgiving Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 When my R was falling apart, I did the same as your wife in an attempt to bring some passion back into the R; as well as new lingerie and such. In my case, my ex choose to fight rather than get closer. We're not together anymore. If your wife is showing you her new "haircut", even covertly because she may be shy, acknowledge her - don't ignore her and wonder what is going on. Go to the source - her - and find out why.
Author brugal Posted September 2, 2010 Author Posted September 2, 2010 i dont think you would start shaving like that after 10 years of marriage? anyway- i nvr told you that she has some undies i did not know about- panties that are see thro- at the rear? Also i have suspecting her of an affair for about 6 months- little things that are different- being on call at night, and when i phone her at work there is no answer. long long visits to the shops. and her phone goes off at around 8am in the morning. she is clever as it has the same ring tone as her alarm, BUT she is usually up and ready when it rings... finally i noticed an outcall to one of MY friends from her to him at 845am on a monday morning.. there would be no reason for her to be calling him as i dont get in touch at all any more and he very rarely calls me.. i remember accusing her of flirting with him years ago- but she brushed it off then.. could they have fianlly got together behind my back- man, you can be so gullible, so 'taking ething for granted'.. he is a bit of a sex mad type, the sort of guy you really would not want your girl with, three engagements, two broken marriages and an abortion; but if girls really want one man at home and another in bed- perfect probably,... danger and boredom the perfect affair/ marriage compliment
PegNosePete Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 It looks like you've found out who she's trimming for, then. Try following her when she goes to the "shops" or "work" to get more proof, then confront her.
Maggotface Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 I tryout new styles out of the blue sometimes, for no real reason. I wouldnt go accusing her of anything but if you're suspicious then keep your eyes peeled if she is cheating you'll start noticing more signs but I wouldnt base it off of her downstairs upkeep.
Cee Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 Ok, it sounds like you compiled clues for the past 6 months. Isn't it time for a heart to heart discussion? But first, maybe you need to take an inventory of your marriage. How happy are you with your marriage? How unhappy are you that you aren't having sex with your wife?
Mme. Chaucer Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 Well I found out the wife has been trimming the bush and i dont mean gardening- is it a giveaway of an affair when she trims it into a nice neat line - a runway i think you call it- like a neat short mohican? ok we have not been having sex for awhile but this is a shock? would you trim like this for your own benefit... WHY haven't you been having sex for a while? And how did you discover the new hairdo?
phineas Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 If it were me, i'd just go to this "friends" house next time she goes AWOL to see if her car is there. If you don't catch her in the act she'll just lie her ass off.
Mimolicious Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 Ok, I didn't know that higiene was connected to cheating, but what do I know... my world is pink and blinged out. LOL! I think that you have far more hints that she may be cheating than just the trimming. Question- "Brugal" as in the Dominican rum?
Bryanp Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 It seems from what you have posted that she is indeed in an affair. What are you going to do about. You need to expose this affair. I agree when you think she is going to see your friend - follow her and see if her car is at his place. Maybe you need to ask yourself why you wish to remain married to a woman who is playing you for a fool?
Author brugal Posted September 4, 2010 Author Posted September 4, 2010 Ok, I didn't know that higiene was connected to cheating, but what do I know... my world is pink and blinged out. LOL! I think that you have far more hints that she may be cheating than just the trimming. Question- "Brugal" as in the Dominican rum? aye - re- rum
Author brugal Posted September 4, 2010 Author Posted September 4, 2010 well i did ask her about the phone she said- what? - i nvr phoned him it must be a computer error ?! ;0/
Author brugal Posted September 4, 2010 Author Posted September 4, 2010 re- sex boredom- we been married since 96!
Mme. Chaucer Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 re- sex boredom- we been married since 96! I think cheating is wrong and not to be excused, But if she is a sexual being and you, her husband, think sex with her is "boring" and she knows it, she might (weakly) very well be seduced by a situation where a man finds her sexy and shows it. Would you even care? If sex is "boring," what are YOU doing about that? On the other hand, your wife might be trying to make it NOT boring with the coiffure and new lingerie. Can you improve your sex life?
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 well i did ask her about the phone she said- what? - i nvr phoned him it must be a computer error ?! ;0/ Be prepared for more. The more questions you ask, the more BS she is going to shovel your way. The best thing to do? Back way, way off and give her the impression that you 'believe' her and then monitor quietly. You'll catch her eventually.
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